Originally Posted by toshascrazy
Hello everyone, this is Toshas BF. I want to say first off, thank you all for your help (those that actually read this thread).
But we have to make a few things clear: I never "flipped her over or yelled at her"! We never said that I did, so I dont under stand where this came from. I did exactly what was told on THIS SITE! Hold down and say a firm no. This is not me being mean, but doing what I thought was correct coming from this site... I did not "abuse the cat", I dont know where all this is coming from but it needs to stop... There is no grabing, yelling, or abusing just a hold down and a quik "no". I dont like following directions and being told that Im an abuser. Or holding called grabing, and the word no called yelling...
Also... These dogs couldnt be "huge monsters", the cat is bigger than both... The dogs were also around her when she was younger... We are NOT new to her, she used to love on us everyday... Shes not 2 months, but more around 6 or 7 (not sure if it even matters)... She had LOTS of social interaction... Or place is not a huge open world compared to where she grew up, our place is slightly larger than the room...
Im not trying to sound mean here, but ppl are attacking us for something weve never done. And I had to dispel some assumptions, and clear up a few things...
Your girlfriend wrote: Alright heres the deal: we just got a cat and the cats a little weird. you can be petting her and she will be loving all on you then the next thing you know she starts hissing. then we can go to bring our hand toward her and she will hiss. the person we got her from could only keep her in one room. therefore she never got to really meet anyone new. i figured it might be because she has been out alot. i need to know how to make her stop hissing. she also skittish. when she hears a new sound sometimes she goes and hides or starts shaking. can someone please help me????
That is completly different from what you just wrote. I am confused, and yes, I have read through this thread.
Your getting mad at people who are trying to help, please dont take advice as personal attacks. We read, we respond. If we hear someone is doing something wrong, we try to help that by telling how to do it right, its not meant as an attack.
If you got advice to scruff the cat, or hiss back, Im sure whoever wrote that was talking about a cat already established in a houshold, not a new one. I hiss at my cat, but she has been with me for a while and is not in any sort of transition process. When I first got her (she was in a very bad situation) I did not do this, and she hissed all the time, bit me, scratched, you name it. I got most of my injuries from trying to push her to hard, not reading her when to leave her alone. It does take a lot, and I mean a LOT of patience, but it is worth it. We want to pour on the love but sometimes they just want to be left alone.
About her hissing after being petted for a while, this is very normal. Some cats get overstimulated very easy, and they react like you described. You can definatly tell her "NO" but let that be the extent of it, just the "NO" and stop petting, do not try to reach out to her. Ignore her after that. Hissing does not mean anything bad, as pointed out is a warning to you she has had enough, and will defend herself if need be. Would you reach out to a rattle snake who is rattling at you?
ETA: If this is a sudden personality change for no reason that you can see, I would take her to a vet. Could be she is in pain from something and is reacting to that. Is there a particular spot that if you touch she reacts badly to when she did not before?