Hi,
I'm very ashamed that the situation with my male kitty has gone this far, but I can't handle it anymore.
My two cats (intact male and female) just moved with me from an apartment where they were very happy, to a new big house. This in itself has not caused stress in the kitties. (They quickly got used to the new surroundings and got over their intial fear within hours.
However, about 2 months ago, my brother moved in with us. Unfortunately, he is not a cat lover. He expressly prohibits the cats from entering his room (mostly because he doesn't want them poking holes in his waterbed, also does not like shedding). I had bought a squirt bottle to use for discipline because there were new rules in this new house that were OK in the apartment. (For example, I decided I would no longer allow them on the kitchen counters)
Problem is, my brother has redefined the "squirt bottle" punishment to the "Super Soaker" punishment. For those of you who don't know, this is a high-pressure squirt gun made for soaking your friends. And instead of a quick squirt so they stop doing whatever they were doing, he will hunt them down and continue to soak them with this high pressure until they are completely soaked or he's out of water. My female cat is a quick learner and doesn't misbehave, so she's not been a target of this more than once.
However, my male cat is a lot more prone to revenge. He has been subjected to this "punishment" enough times now that the mere sound of the squirt gun pumping action (this creates the pressurization) will incite him to fear where he will crawl under my bed and hiss at anyone (even me!) who comes by.
Today it's just continued to get worse. I woke up to the male crying at my door to be let in my bedroom. He immediately hid under the bed. There was a fresh piece of poop where he had been sitting. Apparently in his dislike of my brother, he went and peed all over my brother's clean clothes, which, for obvious reasons, made my brother mad. So, the cat (who had already run away because he knew he had done bad) was stalked down and sprayed with the squirt gun. In his fear, he pooped on the kitchen floor, then ran in front of my door and pooped again. He never poops outside the litter box unless he's in fear, and the more afraid he is, the more poop there is.
Of course my question is, what do I do? I got into an argument with my brother this morning because I'm sick of him abusing my cat, leaving me crying because my cat is afraid of me, too. I know the squirt gun is not good discipline. My brother says they need fear to behave, but he doesn't understand that cats don't think that way. The cat was not like this when he was with me alone and I did not ever have to spray him.
Up until the last few days, he's had his episodes, but still came to me and put his paws up on me when he wanted to be held, but now he won't purr and he'll only be held when I pick him up. He won't ask. I'm very distressed about my poor kitty. I just want him to be happy. I'm afraid if I can't get him to behave, I will have to get rid of him. I just bought this nice house, and I can't have him pooping all over it. He's only 13 months old. Part of the stress may also be related to the fact that his sister just gave birth to their kittens and he gets lonely when she's not around. I wouldn't let him in my room where the birthing occurred for obvious reasons, and he cried.
I'm sorry for the long post, but I'm very upset about this and I don't want to get rid of my kitty. Unfortunately, my brother pays much-needed rent, so if it came down to it, I would have to get rid of him.
Does anyone think getting his neutered might help anything? I need to do it anyway to avoid more unwanted (but loved) kittens...
Thanks in advance,
bad_cats
I'm very ashamed that the situation with my male kitty has gone this far, but I can't handle it anymore.
My two cats (intact male and female) just moved with me from an apartment where they were very happy, to a new big house. This in itself has not caused stress in the kitties. (They quickly got used to the new surroundings and got over their intial fear within hours.
However, about 2 months ago, my brother moved in with us. Unfortunately, he is not a cat lover. He expressly prohibits the cats from entering his room (mostly because he doesn't want them poking holes in his waterbed, also does not like shedding). I had bought a squirt bottle to use for discipline because there were new rules in this new house that were OK in the apartment. (For example, I decided I would no longer allow them on the kitchen counters)
Problem is, my brother has redefined the "squirt bottle" punishment to the "Super Soaker" punishment. For those of you who don't know, this is a high-pressure squirt gun made for soaking your friends. And instead of a quick squirt so they stop doing whatever they were doing, he will hunt them down and continue to soak them with this high pressure until they are completely soaked or he's out of water. My female cat is a quick learner and doesn't misbehave, so she's not been a target of this more than once.
However, my male cat is a lot more prone to revenge. He has been subjected to this "punishment" enough times now that the mere sound of the squirt gun pumping action (this creates the pressurization) will incite him to fear where he will crawl under my bed and hiss at anyone (even me!) who comes by.
Today it's just continued to get worse. I woke up to the male crying at my door to be let in my bedroom. He immediately hid under the bed. There was a fresh piece of poop where he had been sitting. Apparently in his dislike of my brother, he went and peed all over my brother's clean clothes, which, for obvious reasons, made my brother mad. So, the cat (who had already run away because he knew he had done bad) was stalked down and sprayed with the squirt gun. In his fear, he pooped on the kitchen floor, then ran in front of my door and pooped again. He never poops outside the litter box unless he's in fear, and the more afraid he is, the more poop there is.
Of course my question is, what do I do? I got into an argument with my brother this morning because I'm sick of him abusing my cat, leaving me crying because my cat is afraid of me, too. I know the squirt gun is not good discipline. My brother says they need fear to behave, but he doesn't understand that cats don't think that way. The cat was not like this when he was with me alone and I did not ever have to spray him.
Up until the last few days, he's had his episodes, but still came to me and put his paws up on me when he wanted to be held, but now he won't purr and he'll only be held when I pick him up. He won't ask. I'm very distressed about my poor kitty. I just want him to be happy. I'm afraid if I can't get him to behave, I will have to get rid of him. I just bought this nice house, and I can't have him pooping all over it. He's only 13 months old. Part of the stress may also be related to the fact that his sister just gave birth to their kittens and he gets lonely when she's not around. I wouldn't let him in my room where the birthing occurred for obvious reasons, and he cried.
I'm sorry for the long post, but I'm very upset about this and I don't want to get rid of my kitty. Unfortunately, my brother pays much-needed rent, so if it came down to it, I would have to get rid of him.
Does anyone think getting his neutered might help anything? I need to do it anyway to avoid more unwanted (but loved) kittens...
Thanks in advance,
bad_cats