Another PEE question....UGH.

OK...I read the stickies above, but I have more questions. I typed a long post and then hit the wrong key and lost it ALL. UGH.

In a nutshell, we've had our two cats for over a year and a half. In the past two weeks, I've caught Tom peeing on MY things ONLY. He doesn't touch any other part of the house and it isn't getting on walls or anything.....just straight down PEEING. He isn't clingy, but when he wants to be patted or wants canned catfood, he lets you know it be it night or day and will sit with you for a long time while you pat him....he is a "talker" of sorts, too.

My son is 20 months and loves to take my clothes out of dresser drawers, clean laundry baskets, hampers, etc. I don't care if it is clothing or even like damp bath towels...it is always MY things..the things I'VE used. Tom has access to seasonal clothing packed in boxes upstairs....doll clothing my daughter has...things like that..yet..it is only my things in our bedroom. I've got to keep a watch on this stuff because if I don't, I never know when Tom is going to have at it. It isn't on a regular basis that he does this....he may do it 3 times a week. Maybe a little more..maybe a little less. So....maybe if he doesn't get his pats in the middle of night...he pees on my things. If I don't give in to giving him canned food, does he get mad and pee??? My cat I had in the mid 90s totally did this. I've CAUGHT her shortly after things have "happened" that made her mad.

Because of this, I am wondering if anyone thinks it sounds more behavior-like than anything else (no walls are wet..just spots on clothes he gets on top of). Granted, I am going to take him in to the vet, but I am curious as to initial opinions of this.

Is there way to curb behavior of THIS type?? A SPITEFUL behavior?? We never could get Angel (cat mentioned from 90s) to stop and she was ruled out of a UTI.

Any insight would be appreciated!

OMG. I think I found more...it would be dry if it is, but I can smell it on something else of mine that ended up on the floor.

I can't take it anymore, but my heart would be in pieces if I had to lose another cat.

PLEASE HELP

Cats urinating on soft objects is usually behavioral.

Does Tom seem stressed at all?
Is your son bothering him? (I don't mean that as bad as it sounds, but I have a cat who is repelled by small children)
Are the cats all getting along?

I'd get him to the vet to rule out anything there. I know it's hard with a son that age....but any way you can keep clothes picked up or Tom shut out of your bedroom (if that's where he's doing most of the peeing)?

Cats do not have the capability to be spiteful. He is peeing trying to tell you something is wrong. Unfortunately - he can't talk to tell you what's wrong. Maybe invest in some Feliway diffusers to see if they help?

I don't know if stressed is the word.....he is pretty laid back.....and when Trevor (my son) tries to pet him...he (Tom) just leaves/runs the other way as he has for the past 10 months. He is quite the talker, though, and will pace through the house at night and give that pathetic meow as if the world was coming to an end. When you call him up on the bed, he purrs and is content again.

The two cats seem to be fine together...they play, chase each other, etc.

UGH. So frustrating. Where do I find that stuff you mentioned? I never heard of it before.

I suggest Googling Feliway. You should be able to find online retailers there. Not sure what pet stores would carry it, but my vet has it if you ask for it.

It might be that as your son gets older, he's moving around more, which stressed out Tom. That might sound insane, but it's possible. (I'm stabbing at the dark here trying to figure out what's wrong)

So something as simple/small as my little boy trying to pet Tom would cause this cat to pee like that? WOW. That is insane. Now, what about jealousy of the other cat? They get along and play well, but I know that Tom will NOT get up on the bed with us when Lucy is there. But if he comes in and meows for attention, but will NOT get on that for anything unless Lucy is gone.

Originally Posted by white cat lover

I suggest Googling Feliway. You should be able to find online retailers there. Not sure what pet stores would carry it, but my vet has it if you ask for it.

It might be that as your son gets older, he's moving around more, which stressed out Tom. That might sound insane, but it's possible. (I'm stabbing at the dark here trying to figure out what's wrong)

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It may not be that Tom HATES your son, but rather than he's slightly fearful of him. It may also be the other cat - Lucy. It's hard to say.

I mean, my Ophelia hates kids....will out & out attack them. Dorian is scared of kids, he'll hide from them.

I don't know if I can be labeled the pee king, but I don't think many people has experience more things being peed on by their cats than me.

Over the past year, I can say with confidence that my cat has peed at least 100 times outside of the litterbox, and about 1/2 of those went on my things, and most of that went to my bed. And about 10+ times on me.

I finally figured out the problem, but it is a long, tedious, and drawn out process. My conclusion through this experience is that there is a reason, and you have to find out by process of elimination.

And just remember, there are people out there that got peed on more times than you and still made it through.

(I can't say for sure if I've cured the problem 100%, but I know the occurences have reduced significantly, and I've not had to lock him up, or put everything away from some time now)