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UPDATE: Rest in peace babyboy:(

post #1 of 27
Thread Starter 
Well, Shadow has gotten terribly worse, and the vet has said that there is nothing more we can do. He is suffering so bad. Last night he was going in his litter box, and had a seizure, started foaming at the mouth. It kills me that there is nothing I can do for him. They said he will not make it, they gave him 2 weeks. He weighted 14 pounds in December, now he weighs 5 pounds 2 ounces. Tommorow at 9:00a.m. we will be parting and I think I am going to have a break down. I don't know how do deal with this, my world is falling with no hope. How do I just let them take him away from me? And yet i do not, do not want him to suffer, it is not right. But who am I to end a life? Saying farewell to my baby is the hardest thing i have ever had to do, i do not ever wish this pain on anyone. We have tried everything possible to help him, there has been little to no response. So i ask this of you, if you please at sometime will you please say a prayer for my babyboy Shadow, it would mean the world. I know that some people just don't understand, and maybe never will. But to those who do, is there a way to make this easier? My husband is giving me the best support I could ever ask for, but I know he needs it too. But I can not give it to him right now, what do I do? But anyway, to the people that responded back when I needed help I thank you so much! And may God Bless all pets and pet owners all over the world! God Bless!
Love Valerie
post #2 of 27
Please know your baby will leave this world knowing you love him and will be taking away this terrible pain. I believe their spirit will watch over you and stay with you as long as you need them. You are doing the right thing and he will tell youso when you meet at the rainbow bridge.
post #3 of 27
There are never the right words to say in times like this. Thank you for showing your true love of this noble creature by letting him go to a peaceful place. As a good friend told me long ago- the worst part about this decision is now their pain, becomes ours.

Thank you for your incredible courage in making this tough choice.
post #4 of 27
You are a good mommy for not making him suffer any longer. I just lost a 12 day old kitten, so I know what you are going through. You and Shadow are in my prayers.
post #5 of 27
You and Shadow are in my thoughts and prayers. This is the last gift you can give Shadow - a peaceful and easy demise.
post #6 of 27
You all are in my prayers and thoughts...I know this is a very hard time for you, but just know you are doing what is best for Shadow...((((HUGS)))
post #7 of 27
Valerie - you are doing the most unselfish thing you could possibly do. You are taking the burden of your kitty's pain and transferring it to yourself. This will hurt and hurt, but remember, you have rational thought and will be able to deal with this in time. Poor Shadow did not understand what was happening and lived in fear and pain.

However cats are not stupid animals and they can sense your care and concern and one day he will thank you for your kindness.

In the meantime be brave - pour your gief out here - encourage your husband to do likewise. Keep talking about it and the pain will gradually diminish. You will be met with nothing but compassion and understanding at TCS.
post #8 of 27
I am so sorry,you and your hubby are in my prayers.And I thank you for caring so much about your baby.
post #9 of 27
You asked whether there is a way to make this better. Sadly, only time will ease the pain, so the hurt you are feeling now will be with you for a while. So please depend on your husband and those friends and family who understand how important your furbaby is in your life. Talk as much as you can about Shadow. Talk about the fun things Shadow would do. Talk about the irritating and naughty things he would do as well. Cherish your memories and share them with us and with the others who love and support you. Also know that most of us here have had to put down a very loved furry member of the family. Although all of us were devistated at the time, we were all able to pull through with the support of the others here at The Cat Site and the support of our loved ones. Yes....I still become sad and teary when I remember the last day of Shasha's life and the trip to and from the vet when she was sent to the Rainbow Bridge. It still makes my heart ache. But, most often when I think of her it is with joy in my heart! And I also know that with all of what she taught me, I am now a much better mom to the cats I have adopted sincer her passing.

I truly wish I could zoom over to Charleston and give you the support you need. I know how devistating this is, but I also know you can make it through this horrific time.


post #10 of 27

I wish I could say something to make it better. My 16 year old has chronic renal failure & Just thinking about the fact that I will be losing her soon makes me cry, I know exactly what you mean when you say your world is falling & there is nothing you can do. Your in my prayers.:angel4:
post #11 of 27
I too wish I could add some good advice for you, but it looks like you've the some of the best already.

It's a very hard time that you are going through and to be honest, it won't get any better for a while. You're going to feel emotions that you didn't think you even had. The pain is so deep is feels like you won't be able to make it, but you will. Time is the only healing factor and it is the hardest thing to handle.

Cherish those the memories and cherish the hours will have left. I pray that he will go the Rainbow Bridge quickly and painlessly. I also pray that you will have the strength to handle this. Just remember, us TCS folks have soft shoulders to cry on and open ears 24 hours 7 days a week. Don't hesitate to vent about you feel...we are here for you!
Sending huge hugs to you, your furbabe and your family!(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))
post #12 of 27
Thoughts and prayers are going to you and your husband. I understand what you are going through, I was in your situation about 1 1/2 years ago. The decision to put Shadow to sleep and end his suffering is the greatest act of kindness that can ever be given to an animal. Please talk to us about your loss whenever you feel the need. We are here for you and we understand.
post #13 of 27
I'm so sorry that you have to be in this situation, but it is one that comes with being a caregiver. You sometimes have to make the hard decisions but they are done out of love and respect that you have for your cat.

Many ((((((hugs)))))))) and prayers going out your way to help you through this difficult time!
post #14 of 27
Just reading everyones responces and your heartfelt post brought me to tears. I remember when I almost lost my baby girl Vagabond. I got her back after thinking that she was dead, and believe me it was the best feeling having her in my arms again.

You'll see him again... trust me on this. The rainbow bridge is the place where you will meet again, and he will wait for you.

Just make sure to bring some treats for him ok?


"My love and memories fill my mind, and my heart breaks in two. My mind is thinking "bless this soul", and support goes out to you".
post #15 of 27
Thread Starter 
This has been the most unrealistic day in my whole entire life. My baby loves to dance with me, I hold him over my shoulder and rock him back and forth with Clay Walker playing in the back round.(He loves Clay Walker, he will not dance to anything elsewhenever i would play "ordinary kind of love" he would come running in the room, ready to dance with his mommy)But my husband and I woke up at 7:00a.m. and I had turned on our song and danced, sorry it is hard for me to write this. But we danced for 30 min. Time would just not slow down, the next thing i knew we were in the car and at the vet. I read Shadow the Lord's prayer and Love is patient love is kind verse to him. I held my little boy the whole time, I was not about to leave him, he needed me. I sat and watch his little head fall. And slip away to the rainbow bridge. All day i have been crying, some tears of joy that he is now not suffering, some of pain. Pain in which i don't know how to handle. I have broken down 4 times today which were beyond what i could of handled. On the way home felt his little hairs that were on my shirt, fall on my arm, they were going up and down my arm. I just hope he knows how much i love him. it is now 1:00a.m. I can not feed my kitten because, because he will not be running in the kitchen for dinner, my husband had to do it. I can not sleep, he slept with my ever night. I hope that i will get some comfort soon, at least to know that he is in a better place.i miss him. My husband came home and told me something that really meant a lot to me. He said it is ok, Shadow completed me. He mad me so happy, even when i was at my worst, he was always there to put a smile on my face. Unlike some I don't have very much. I have my husband Shadow and Missy. Some have childern some have there other realtives close by there side. Shadow brought out things in my husband and i that i never thought possible. He made me realize that the simple things are what counts. Yes i know time will heal everything but why is it that the things that mean so much to you can be taken from you so fast. Thank you for all love and support it means so much you would not know!!! Thank you for the prayersI know God is listining.
Hopefully we can get a scanner so I can share my wonderful baby to everyone.
post #16 of 27
I am sorry for you, your last post made me cry. If he made you closer to your family, even in the slightest way, his purpose was surved. He will always be with you. and you know that he would not want you to mourn for him because now he is in a place where there is no pain, only happy memories of dancing with HIS human.
post #17 of 27
Dear Valerie, I have just read your post and it made me
start crying again as I went through the same thing myself when
I had my darling Toby put to sleep on March 8th. We had been
together for 14 years and both of my two cats have been my life.
I went through all the pain you are going through and I know that
it is unbearable. I stayed with him while he was put to sleep and
then had the vet have him cremated and have the box on the side which
I do find comforting. The 4 weeks leading up to him being put to
sleep were the worst, he had FIP and we knew there was no cure but
I wouldnt let him go until I had to, I stayed with him all the time
carrying him around the garden in the sun and trying to encourage him
to eat something but he wouldnt. But I found that after a few days
of him going I started to feel better and now, although I am still
sad when I think of him, that dreadful pain is not there. Now I think
of the wonderful life he had with me and how lucky he was when so many
cats are not so fortunate. I hope this helps. My thoughts are with

Love christine
post #18 of 27
Dear Valerie, I'm very sorry that you are going through this. I remember how I felt when our dog had to be put to sleep. He was my piece of "home" (we got him while we were in the States)in a foreign country, far away from my family, and also our baby (we don't have human kids). That was several years ago, and it took me a long time to get over it. But the pain does lessen, and there will be other pets in the future to lighten up your life. The sorrow does fade with time.
post #19 of 27
Dear Valerie,

I am so sorry for your lost. I've been crying since I read your last post. My words may seem of little comfort, but I said a prayer for you and your family, and poor little Shadow. I know he will be there waiting for you someday, and he will have a body that feels no pain or sickness. Right now he is watching over you...being your angel.
post #20 of 27

I got your PM and I will move this posting for you now to Crossing the Bridge. I left it here in Health originally because sometimes when you face losing that special feline friend, going to the Bridge Forum is a bit difficult to do, until acceptance sets in.

I am sorry for your loss, but if you get a chance explore the Bridge Forum from the beginning of the posts and find lots of support and strength waiting there.
post #21 of 27

Your post is so incredibly touching. I can understand what you are going through as I lost my previous cat unexpectedly when he ate string, and then died after surgery that did not go well. I was 8.5 months pregnant and we got a phone call in the middle of the night from the vet that he had died. We thought that maybe God took him for some reason -- like maybe there was going to be a problem between him and the baby that my husband and I would overlook because we loved the cat so much.

Valerie, something that I found that was really helpful to me was that I spent a few days writing down a long long list of everything about my kitty that I loved -- because I was so afraid I would lose those memories. The list went on for 10 pages- - stuff like "I loved the way Dudley blinked when he woke up in the morning" -- silly, tiny, little details but things that I never wanted to forget.

It may seem like it would make you sad to write this, but it also made me smile as I thought of each memory. And then, in the future, when you are stronger, you can come back and read it with fondness.

After I finally finished writing the list, I felt a little 'releived' in a way that I was able to write it all down so that these memories were preserved forever.

Thinking of you.
post #22 of 27
Valerie, My heart aches for you. I am so sorry I just got informed of your terrible loss. Having read your posts, I know that your faith is strong. You know that God loves you, and that He loves all of the little creatures He created to bring us joy. If He knows every sparrow that falls, He knows about your pain, and I'm sure He welcomed your baby to heaven when his pain was finally over.

It will take time for the pain to ease, as you have been told. But that is a compliment to your baby, and how much joy he added to your life. You need to cry, to talk about him, and as someone wisely advised, remember all the endearing qualities he had. As heartbroken as I have been when our beloved pets died, we always had a little ceremony to thank God for sharing His little creatures with us, and for trusting us to give them the best lives possible. Take comfort in knowing that you gave him much love and wonderful care. Now another of God's little creatures will find you some day, and you'll know that God needed someone special to care for it--and that He chose YOU. God bless and comfort you.
post #23 of 27
{{{{HUGS}}}} All my Love and your in my prayers !!!!
post #24 of 27
You are in my prayers. Your baby is in heaven playing kitty tag. He is pain free. Your pain will lessen day by bay. You did the right and unselfish thing.
post #25 of 27
No words can ever really give comfort for the loss of a much loved pet, I wrote a poem a few years ago entitled Rainbow's End I hope the words will give you some comfort. I orginally wrote this in dedication to a lovely cat we had some years ago called Cristy who died when he was only 11 years old, it can also be adapted for the loss of much loved dog. I hope this poem gives you some comfort. If anyone wishes to print it out for their own use they are welcome but please respect that it is copyrighted. If your cat could talk I believe this is what he would have said.


Goodbye dear friend, you've set me free
From any pain and misery
Of aching joints and failing heart
I know it's time for us to part
You made that choice to let me go
My time has come, this I know
Long and hard you fought, you tried
Oh dear friend I know you've cried
There are some fights that can't be fought
Old age is one, youth can't be bought
No pills, no cures for passing years
Our eyes do dim as do our ears
No magic wand can 'eer bring back
That precious thing we both do lack
The will to live, to stand and fight
There is no wrong, there is no right
In meadows green I will run
To you I know I was a son
A cat I was, not a child
Now I'm free, I can run wild
That bond between us will always stay
Even though I'm far away
'Til day is done for you I'll wait
Just outside of heavens' gate
My guide has come to lead me home
Where in green fields I'm free to roam
My aches have gone, my ills they mend
In that place, called Rainbow's End

Copyright George Anderson 1999
post #26 of 27
George, I just read your poem, it's very beautiful and very true.
post #27 of 27
So sorry about Shadow He is looking down on you from the Rainbow Bridge though, and someday you will hold him and dance with him again.
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