Originally Posted by Tavia'smom
First let me say I am not in any way judging you its not my place. But let me say what I would do. I would stop all contact with this person. I understand he is a friend but having feelings like that for someone else when you are married is like committing adultry when you are married. If the shoe was on the other foot and your husband was in your place how would you feel. And I understand that he may not know but I am sure that he senses something is up. And I am sorry but an online friend that will never be anymore is not worth jeapordizing a marriage for. And you are truly playing with fire here and the one who will get burned in the long run is you. And I don't see how you can be inlove with someone who you have not met especially when you say you love your husband. I am sorry if I sound harsh but I am simply being honest about how I feel. And I am just telling you what I would do so please don't take it as an attack on you or anything like that. For everyone's sake I really would end this friendship and all contact with this person.
I agree with Gail on this one.
You made a committment to love, cherish and be fully faithful to your husband, an emotional adultry is pretty much just as bad as going out and physically cheating on your spouse in my opinion. It would be best if you seperate yourself from the temptation- this means cutting off all ties from this person you're having strong feelings for. You owe it to your husband,yourself and vows you guys made and the to be faithful.
If anything, think about the other woman- does she know her husband is talking to you in that way? Do they have children? Adultry not will have a nasty effect on them as well if the temptation continues and something progresses. An affair, emotional or physical can tear a family apart. How would you feel if not only your family was affected by this but also hers?
If you feel like you're going to self-destruct if you cut off contact with this person, my honest suggestion to you would be to try out therapy for a bit to work through some of these strong feelings and emotions to help yourself and your marriage.
I'm sure you didn't intend for this to happen in the first place and your emotions probably did catch you off guard, but you really need to stop this now before something else happens hon
It's not worth throwing away your marriage, and ruining his too.