Gurrrr!!!! I am so mad at my nephew at the moment it's not even funny!
I got a call around 9am this morning from my sister telling me that my nephew Cooper had vomited in the nurses' office at school and had a fever, would I mind picking him up? (She was at work all the way out on the other side of the city, and my brother in law was on an interview.) I asked her if she was absolutely sure he was really sick and not lying, and she said that the nurse talked to her and said he was so I went to go and pick Cooper up.
Now just a little side note- In the past few years, Cooper has faked being sick quite a number of times to try and get out of school...including about 4 times already this school year that resorted in the school calling his parents or me to pick him up (i'm one of his contacts since I live so close.) Once we got him home however he never was sick save one time where he went home and really did have a virus. Cooper is pretty much like the little boy that cried wolf so to speak. We might belive him the first, even a second time....but when this happens over and over again and he lies, we typically don't belive him because he can not be trusted. (He's 10 by the way and in 5th grade)
Just about a month ago his dad (my bil, Jason) went up there and talked to the school and told them he did not want them to call us to pick him up unless he was truely sick or dying, because this is just rediculious!
Obviously that went in one ear and out the other today!
When I got there to pick him up, he jumped up out of his seat in the office and yelled my name and ran to give me a hug (Now keep in mind i've know Cooper his whole life and they've lived with us several times, so I KNOW when he is sick and when he is not.) When he is sick, he doesn't jump up or run around. - That was my first clue he was lying.
I went up to the desk and asked if I could speak to the nurse. Well turns out the nurse is just a "nurse parent" - she's not even a real nurse, they just volunteer and rotate shifts to do things like taking temperatures/etc...anyways, she was very sweet, but it was obvious to me that she was very easily a push over, who easily felll for Cooper's fibs
I asked her, "would you mind telling me what his temperature was?" - It was only 99. something (a very low grade temp.) I then told her "my sister said that she was told by a staff member he vomited in the nurse's office....did you see him do that?" She then proceeded to tell me she didn't see him do that and he didn't vomit in the office that she knew of. - So apparently someone on the staff was wrong
Why they would tell my sister that I don't know? I told her the only reason I came up there today to pick him up was because I was told that someone had SEEN him vomiting and that he had a fever.
Long story short I went ahead and signed him out to take him home. On the car ride home Cooper just happened to mention to me "I didn't have lunch yet at school." - Yet another indicator he was not sick
(like I said, I know his little guy like the back of my hand....when he is really sick, he will refuse food and not have much of an appetite.)
I also told him "Cooper, I want to believe you when you tell me that you've gotten sick, but you have lied to me in the past and that has made me loose my trust in you, did you really get sick at school are are you lying to me like you've done before?" - he then told me that he got sick in the bathroom at a school (also what he claimed the last time he was "sick" - and of course he claims that because no teachers go in the bathroom to check his story, they just believe him
I then asked him...."Cooper, did you have PE. class this morning? He then told me he did and that he ran a 1/2 mile. I asked him if he got sick after pe class and he said he did. (Now keep in mind this is also what he claimed the last time I picked him up) When we got back to my house I made him go straight to bed. (I have 2 bedrooms at my house set up specifically for my niece and nephews because they're over at my house soo much). No way I was letting him watch tv or making him a special lunch like I normally would have if he had really been sick
I immediately told Colin (DH) what happened and he went back in the room to talk to him. Anyways, he got the truth out of him a bit- Cooper did lie to us as I had suspected. I called his mom and dad and let them know what was up about how he lied yet AGAIN
Colin (who was in his police uniform since he was getting ready to go to work when this happened) and I marched his butt right back to school and spoke with the staff there about how he was NOT sick, and made him appologize to the teachers/etc.
One thing that I brought up to him was that he did not have a "fever" from being sick, he was just warm from exercising during PE! (idiots!
) Anyways, they called his PE coach into the office and asked him if Cooper had told him he didn't feel well or if he had gotten sick during his class- his teacher said no, he was completly fine during class and never told him he didn't feel well. His PE coach escorted him back to class and gave him a stern lecture on the way there
(I like his PE teacher lol!)
Colin and I talked to the staff a little longer and got the number of the guidance counselor for my sister and brother in law to call today. They're going to set up an appointment with her and get him in the school counseling program (pretty much instead of going to recess, he'll go and talk to the counselor, they don't have detention in that elementry school, so it's the next best thing!). He's been though it before when he lied about doing his homework and got in trouble for a while. Upon talking with the staff further they told Colin and I that Cooper tries to leave school almost daily by claiming to be sick. I asked them if they told his parents that and they said they hadn't yet (once again, totally unacceptable- parents need to be aware of that!) So I told my sister about that as well so she knew it was more than just an occassional problem, it's almost daily.
Suppsoedly today the new nurse-mom didn't know that he was a notorious lier and called us to pick him up while the other staff wasn't in the office. (there's one lady there that knows Cooper well and will not send him him unless he is REALLY sick because of this- the nurse mom called us to pick him up while she was out of the room and was clueless). Cooper also told us that he had a substitute teacher today too (who apparently wasn't aware of his lying eithor!) He totally took advantage of her. He had the substitute teacher after PE class got out so he apparently told her he was sick and she sent him to the office after he claimed he vomited in the bathroom.
Now his parents have also talked with the staff SEVERAL times about having someone go into the bathroom to check up on him when he claimes he vomits to make sure he really did get sick (the new substitute teacher wasn't aware of this i guess)
So yea, I'm about ready to kill him today
I am sick and tired of his lying to me and the rest of our family, not to mention his teachers! It is unacceptable, and he was not raised this way. He was raised with discipline and respect and he does know the difference between the truth and a lie. Colin and I (with my sister's ok) gave him a very stern talking too while he was here, then we made him appologize to the staff at his school for lying after we made him go back to class. He is also going to also be in serious trouble when he gets home as well now that both his mom and dad know what he did. I wish I knew why he was doing this.
We tried asking Cooper why he doesn't want to be at school, is there someone picking on him, is he struggling with class,etc....but he said no.I'm hoping that the school counselor helps! My brother- in-law is making an appointment to meet with her this week as well to try and get this situation under control.
I got a call around 9am this morning from my sister telling me that my nephew Cooper had vomited in the nurses' office at school and had a fever, would I mind picking him up? (She was at work all the way out on the other side of the city, and my brother in law was on an interview.) I asked her if she was absolutely sure he was really sick and not lying, and she said that the nurse talked to her and said he was so I went to go and pick Cooper up.
Now just a little side note- In the past few years, Cooper has faked being sick quite a number of times to try and get out of school...including about 4 times already this school year that resorted in the school calling his parents or me to pick him up (i'm one of his contacts since I live so close.) Once we got him home however he never was sick save one time where he went home and really did have a virus. Cooper is pretty much like the little boy that cried wolf so to speak. We might belive him the first, even a second time....but when this happens over and over again and he lies, we typically don't belive him because he can not be trusted. (He's 10 by the way and in 5th grade)
Just about a month ago his dad (my bil, Jason) went up there and talked to the school and told them he did not want them to call us to pick him up unless he was truely sick or dying, because this is just rediculious!
Obviously that went in one ear and out the other today!
I went up to the desk and asked if I could speak to the nurse. Well turns out the nurse is just a "nurse parent" - she's not even a real nurse, they just volunteer and rotate shifts to do things like taking temperatures/etc...anyways, she was very sweet, but it was obvious to me that she was very easily a push over, who easily felll for Cooper's fibs
I asked her, "would you mind telling me what his temperature was?" - It was only 99. something (a very low grade temp.) I then told her "my sister said that she was told by a staff member he vomited in the nurse's office....did you see him do that?" She then proceeded to tell me she didn't see him do that and he didn't vomit in the office that she knew of. - So apparently someone on the staff was wrong
Long story short I went ahead and signed him out to take him home. On the car ride home Cooper just happened to mention to me "I didn't have lunch yet at school." - Yet another indicator he was not sick
I also told him "Cooper, I want to believe you when you tell me that you've gotten sick, but you have lied to me in the past and that has made me loose my trust in you, did you really get sick at school are are you lying to me like you've done before?" - he then told me that he got sick in the bathroom at a school (also what he claimed the last time he was "sick" - and of course he claims that because no teachers go in the bathroom to check his story, they just believe him
I immediately told Colin (DH) what happened and he went back in the room to talk to him. Anyways, he got the truth out of him a bit- Cooper did lie to us as I had suspected. I called his mom and dad and let them know what was up about how he lied yet AGAIN
One thing that I brought up to him was that he did not have a "fever" from being sick, he was just warm from exercising during PE! (idiots!
Colin and I talked to the staff a little longer and got the number of the guidance counselor for my sister and brother in law to call today. They're going to set up an appointment with her and get him in the school counseling program (pretty much instead of going to recess, he'll go and talk to the counselor, they don't have detention in that elementry school, so it's the next best thing!). He's been though it before when he lied about doing his homework and got in trouble for a while. Upon talking with the staff further they told Colin and I that Cooper tries to leave school almost daily by claiming to be sick. I asked them if they told his parents that and they said they hadn't yet (once again, totally unacceptable- parents need to be aware of that!) So I told my sister about that as well so she knew it was more than just an occassional problem, it's almost daily.
Suppsoedly today the new nurse-mom didn't know that he was a notorious lier and called us to pick him up while the other staff wasn't in the office. (there's one lady there that knows Cooper well and will not send him him unless he is REALLY sick because of this- the nurse mom called us to pick him up while she was out of the room and was clueless). Cooper also told us that he had a substitute teacher today too (who apparently wasn't aware of his lying eithor!) He totally took advantage of her. He had the substitute teacher after PE class got out so he apparently told her he was sick and she sent him to the office after he claimed he vomited in the bathroom.
Now his parents have also talked with the staff SEVERAL times about having someone go into the bathroom to check up on him when he claimes he vomits to make sure he really did get sick (the new substitute teacher wasn't aware of this i guess)
So yea, I'm about ready to kill him today
We tried asking Cooper why he doesn't want to be at school, is there someone picking on him, is he struggling with class,etc....but he said no.I'm hoping that the school counselor helps! My brother- in-law is making an appointment to meet with her this week as well to try and get this situation under control.
