Like zoeysmom, I also have a cute story about being a shy person. My current spouse, who, as I said above, I met on an online dating site, suggested that we meet at a coffee shop in the evening. I came home from work, had dinner with my dad and didn't bother to check my email before I left, so I knew when I was supposed to meet this person, but all we each had to go by were the pictures on our online profiles.
I was a bit nervous sitting there in the coffee shop, looking at people coming in, trying to figure out who was supposed to meet me. There was this really cute nerdy looking guy sitting just at the next table over, and I sort-a caught his eye a few times, but was too shy to say anything. About 45 minutes later, I wasn't in such a good mood anymore. I'd been stood up! I stalked out (after circulating around the coffee shop a few times and having a very nice guy ask me why I was in such a bad mood), went home, and read my email.
It turned out, the guy I was supposed to meet had been the cute guy I was too shy to talk to! He'd been grading papers for hours and didn't really notice when the time I was supposed to appear came up. He'd changed his hair and facial hair, gotten glasses, and gained weight since he'd taken the small and blurry picture he was using online. He also expected me to recognize him from the facial tattoo he'd mentioned in the email I didn't read. I looked a bit goth in my picture, and was dressed more "granola" when I went to the coffee shop.
Moral of the story; my spouse and I are so shy that we didn't even meet when we tried to! We certainly needed some kind of system to find each other, although dating ads certainly existed before online ads.
I've met manipulative lairs, people I fell in love with just because they were interested in me, nice people that really aren't my style, wonderful people I really wanted to be friends with and tried to be romantically interested in but simply didn't have any kind of spark with, and good but casual partners for flings, all online.
Originally Posted by Fiery
I'm *really* not a big fan of online dating, especially if you start talking to someone who doesn't live in your area. Been there, done that, and it's really a hard thing to do; if you're going to do it, stick to local unless you're willing and able to move SOON, because if you do fall in love with someone long distance, it's the worst kind of hell. To love someone, but not be able to spend time with them and hug them and kiss them and do things with them.. yeah, that's unpleasant. Hardcore.
Many of my friends, and I myself, have done the internet dating thing and really, we've missed out on a lot of life. Instead of going out, doing things, meeting new people, we spent hours upon hours on the phone, online, etc.
I, for one, want those years of my life back, but hey, it all works.
I know that some people do meet their husbands and wives there, but.. I wouldn't recommend it.
If you're the kind of person who'd rather be doing things in real life than online, you can certainly use the internet to find real life groups of people to do things with. I fully admit that dating online can be problematic because it's easy to find "geographically incompatible" people. However, you can also meet people in real life and then have reasons (like jobs or school) to be in different parts of the country. So avoiding online dating certainly doesn't save you from long term relationships.
Avoiding dating online should be able to save you from starting a relationship as a long distance one, though. And I think that long distance relationships are much, much easier to do if you have memories of and the knowledge of each other from a person-to-person romance.