I have PCOS and have had it since I was a teenager, but was only diagnosed with it sometime back in the late 1980's. The most annoying side effect from PCOS that I have that I wish I didn't is rapid hair growth (the hair on my head grows at a rate of about 1 inch per month) and irritating hair on my chin and upper lip which I wax off, and skin tags which I either remove myself or have the doctor do it.
I've always had problems with my weight ever since I was a child and while having irratic hormones doesn't help, I can't blame my weight entirely on PCOS. Lifestyle certainly plays a very large part in it. My cousin who has 4 kids is on the thin side. But she watches her diet and works out at the gym every single day so she works to maintain her physical shape and it pays off for her in spades.
PCOS results in menopausal symptoms such as hot flashes, which I've been getting since I was in my mid 20's. I can't wait for real menopause!
Here is a link that gives you lots of information on PCOS, including the side effects.http://www.4women.gov/faq/pcos.htm#e
It's actually a very common syndrome for women. PCOS is not the end of the world. More than 50% of the female population has it and most don't even know it...they just think they are irregular or have been on the pill so long that they don't find out until they stop taking the pill and they become irregular and can skip months and months before getting a period.
Please don't dwell on the fact that you have PCOS because it's a very common thing among women and is more of an annoyance than a health risk.
You can also sign up with this site below if you want to speak to other women who have it too. I have it but I don't dwell on it. It's not life threatening and actually in some ways I consider it to be a blessing because I am not plagued by monthly periods.
Here is another link:http://www.pcosupport.org/
It seems to be hereditary in my family, and not as a result of excess weight because I had it when I was 112 pounds.
It's also important to realize that PCOS doesn't mean you can't have kids. My cousin has it and had 4 kids without the aid of fertility drugs.