Poll: Do you get angry when.......

I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t mind him looking at naked girls. I do however draw the line at strip joints. Not because of the girls, but because of the girls mentality. In my early 20â€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s I used to be a web designer for a sleazy boss. On the side he did porn and the porn office building was next to mine. Being a smoker I met all the stripper and learned that most of them didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to do it, they had to. Or the were so screwed on drugs, were raped and have no self-esteem, insert multiple sad stories here. I only met 3 out of maybe 100 that were normal including one that came from a crappy family but was stripping to become a Dr. In fact I remember one gorgeous girl named “Karess†who was mentally handicapped. Although you would never guessed unless you hung with her, she was a Feature girl sadly. Rumor has it she killed herself a few years ago.

After knowing these girls, strip joints seem like a visual rape for these girls. In fact, if guys tell me they go to strip joints I look at then different. It seems creepy to me, checking out dysfunctional girls for money.

However, if my man was at a party that just had crazy rowdy girls taking off their shirts for fun and just being crazy I would be fine with that.

Originally Posted by Dixie_Darlin

"You can look at the menu all you want, just make sure you eat dinner at home!"

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Or, as my husband says, "Window shopping is fine, but don't go trying any free samples!"

I said, "No." It doesn't bother me. I like looking, too! And I can recognize an attractive woman when I see one, and often don't hesitate to point her out to my husband. We are very happy together, and generally not jealous.

I think I would probably be offended if he fawned over an attractive woman and totally ignored me, but that has NEVER happened. So I think we're good. And I don't know why, but it doesn't bother me when he comments that my friends are "hot" either. I just let my friends know that he thinks they're good looking, because it gives them a self-confidence boost. My husband is a marry forever kinda guy, so I am not worried.

As far as I know, he has never been to a strip club. He was under 21 when we got married, so I know he didn't go before that, and if he has gone since we got married, it was VERY sneakily. That said, it wouldn't bother me if he did go, although I didn't know that about the strippers, silvionc. I have a friend who is a stripper, because of the $$, at a very high end strip club. She is working on her PhD, and is smokin' hot! Maybe I should say, based on silvionc's experiences, that I wouldn't have a problem if he was at a party and drunk girls took their shirts off, or if he went to a bachelor party and they had a stripper there, or something. Although, I wouldn't mind going to my friend's strip club WITH my husband. It's a nice place and naked people don't bother me.

I dunno. It's sad about those strippers though, silvionc.

My phrase is "Just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu!"

I voted sometimes because I don't mind him looking except when he looks when we are talking like when we are in a restaurant.
Mostly, he preens himself when guys look at my boobs.

nah...doesn't bother me...
although he doesn't really look ..at least not that i've noticed.
and the other night we were on the bus coming home from a baseball game...
there was this girl on the bus...boobs almost falling out of her shirt...
it was me that noticed her..not him...
strangely enough.

Originally Posted by zorana_dragonky

Or, as my husband says, "Window shopping is fine, but don't go trying any free samples!"

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Originally Posted by butzie

My phrase is "Just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu!"

I voted sometimes because I don't mind him looking except when he looks when we are talking like when we are in a restaurant.
Mostly, he preens himself when guys look at my boobs.

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Brandon does that too
Like this morning, some guys in a van whistled at me at the gas station.
Brandon slid his hat on (his hair was a mess) and stood up real tall (He's 6'1 anyways ) and made sure he called me "Baby" loud enough for them to hear me

IMO if you are in a strong relationship and have trust and love between you then an occasional look at the opposite sex is not bad or wrong.

Now if the person is staring a lot (more then just a glance or two) or drooling over the girl/guy........you may have a problem

Its normal to look at the opposite sex; doesn't mean you will be jumping in bed with them. If its interfering with your relationship, then its time to address the issue. Nothing worse then a "jealous partner"

My mom used to tell my dad "you can look, but don't touch" I tell DH that if a pretty girl walks by and he doesn't look, I'd think he was dead....he knows who he loves and goes home with

Originally Posted by silvionc

I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t mind him looking at naked girls. I do however draw the line at strip joints.

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Then where does he see the naked girls?

I'm guessing the pages of a magazine????

Originally Posted by Rockcat

Then where does he see the naked girls?

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The inter-netz

You can see naked girls everywhere now-a-days.

Internet: I actually sent him the Linsday Lohan boobie pictures in that New York magazine because he didn’t believe they were so huge LOL.

TV: We watch a lot of the Arts network, Friday nights we watch Fridays without borders which has tons of nudity.

Movies: We watch every R rated movie that comes out. Almost every R rated comedy or horror flicks has naked chicks.

Email: If I get perverted email joke ill send them, I know he gets some too.

Like i said as well Parties that go crazy. If i girl is out to have a good time and is showing her goods i dont mind if he is looking. I know somegirls that have tatoo's or odd piercing that just show people.

There are lots of places to see naked girls =)

Oh i forgot to add Toronto you can be topless. We go to TO a lot and see this. I dont know if its still a law. I do however know that most the festivals have topless chicks walking around.

Actually now that i am thinking about it there are lots of places too see naked girls! I wont write a novel though.

Originally Posted by silvionc

You can see naked girls everywhere now-a-days.

Internet: I actually sent him the Linsday Lohan boobie pictures in that New York magazine because he didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t believe they were so huge LOL.

TV: We watch a lot of the Arts network, Friday nights we watch Fridays without borders which has tons of nudity.

Movies: We watch every R rated movie that comes out. Almost every R rated comedy or horror flicks has naked chicks.

Email: If I get perverted email joke ill send them, I know he gets some too.

Like i said as well Parties that go crazy. If i girl is out to have a good time and is showing her goods i dont mind if he is looking. I know somegirls that have tatoo's or odd piercing that just show people.

There are lots of places to see naked girls =)

Oh i forgot to add Toronto you can be topless. We go to TO a lot and see this. I dont know if its still a law. I do however know that most the festivals have topless chicks walking around.

Actually now that i am thinking about it there are lots of places too see naked girls! I wont write a novel though.

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LOL! Alrighty then! I haven't been to parties that go that crazy in a long time... not saying how long Titties, yes though - seen lots of those.

Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

IMO if you are in a strong relationship and have trust and love between you then an occasional look at the opposite sex is not bad or wrong.

Now if the person is staring a lot (more then just a glance or two) or drooling over the girl/guy........you may have a problem

Its normal to look at the opposite sex; doesn't mean you will be jumping in bed with them. If its interfering with your relationship, then its time to address the issue. Nothing worse then a "jealous partner"

My mom used to tell my dad "you can look, but don't touch"

I tell DH that if a pretty girl walks by and he doesn't look, I'd think he was dead....he knows who he loves and goes home with

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This is my mindset, exactly!

My Mum always said "When he stops looking, I'll be buying him a box". She never got to do that, because she passed away just before their fiftieth wedding anniversary. And Dad was flirting with the girls 20 minutes before he died himself.

I have no problem with my sweetie enjoying the scenery. I know where he sleeps.

Well, there's looking and then there's LOOKING. I don't mind him looking at other women. I don't mind him commenting that he thinks another woman is attractive. I do mind him ogling or flirting with other women in front of me, though.

Wow, Im really surprised everyone is so ok with it! Makes me feel better though, my (hot) neighbor whistles at me every so often and I always felt bad thinking "gosh, his wife would feel so bad if she knew!"

Originally Posted by luvmycat1

No, I do it too. Nothin wrong with lookin.

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Same here. In fact I'm the one who points the girl out sometimes

Originally Posted by EnzoLeya

. In fact I'm the one who points the girl out sometimes

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HAHA me too! I am usually the first to comment on a girl's looks. DH and I have the same taste, lol.

My s/o's a big flirt, but it doesn't bother me b/c I know I can trust him.

The only time I ever was insecure over something like that was with my ex-husband b/c I was told that he was cheating; so I didn't trust him and was always wary of him looking at other women. I later found out that those rumors were true..

I wouldn't be angry if my husband looked. Flirting would be a whole different issue, though. I don't see a reason for that. He doesn't do either though.

I admit to looking, but don't flirt. We love each other deeply and trust each other completely. We are both secure in our relationship. I think flirting would be disrespectful to each other. We consider our marriage sacred.

I used to get very upset, for good reason. The guy I married was a pathologic and serial cheater. If he looked, he usually went there. It is the reason he is now my ex. I have NO tolerance for cheaters...none. I'm not in a relationship right now, but I understand the difference between a casual glance, and serious trouble!