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miss wiggle

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I've got two female cats, the older one Miss Mittens (about 5 yrs old but she was adopted from the rspca so we don't know exactly) is fairly chilled although she can defend herself if she feels the need, the younger one, Lu-Li who is about 2 and a half now, is pretty boisterous, she's the daddy of our street and fairly territorial.

They don't fight horendously or ever seriously hurt each other but they do have tussles, generally when Lu-Li's feeling hyperactive she'll get on Miss Mitten's nerves. Or I've got my favourite arm chair and they both like to sit on the back of it so sometimes they'll come and start on each other to get to sit on the back of my chair.

They are both spayed, older one wasn't before she was handed into the RSPCA but they did her, the younger we've had since a kitten and she was spayed around 9 months old.

Anyway, been offered another kitten by a neighbour, she has a friend who is desperatley looking for a good home for them. There's both boys and girls, not got much info yet or anything so don't know if vaccinated etc, just know black and white and 9 weeks old.

My other half say's we can't have one cos he doesn't want the fighting to get any worse between them, but I've just been told that if you've got two females then introducing a male cat to the mix can actually calm their fighting down. Can anyone confirm if this is actually true or not?
 

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It does not sound like fighting at all, just the usual disagreement between good friends. Even if you decide to adopt a male, once he gets accepted by them, they'll act the same way as before.
 
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lol, well i wouldn't exactly say that they are good friends, but I do know what you mean, it's not serious scrapping, just the inevitable tussels that come with keeping any two animals together.

so you don't think adding a boy would make any serious difference to the group dynamics one way or another, unless of course he turns out to be a nightmare cat and fights with both of them or something like that.
 

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My first cats were female. When the boys started arriving, they were of course considered territorial invaders
. When things settled down, the girls ignored the guys most of the time.
Nowadays, when the girls "argue" the boys either ran away, watch and wait for the outcome, or join (wherein I step in to avoid possible bloodshed
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hmmmmm ok

i can't decide if it's a good idea to take one of these cats or not.

head's saying no but hearts saying yes.

My fella was pretty adamant last night that he didn't want one, but he loves the two we've got and I'm sure he'd love to have another boy in the house, we've two female cats and a female gecko, we've some male fish but they don't really count.
 

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Originally Posted by Miss Wiggle

hmmmmm ok

i can't decide if it's a good idea to take one of these cats or not.

head's saying no but hearts saying yes.

My fella was pretty adamant last night that he didn't want one, but he loves the two we've got and I'm sure he'd love to have another boy in the house, we've two female cats and a female gecko, we've some male fish but they don't really count.
The other thing to take into consideration is the cost of another kitty.

Also you bring up two conflicting statements. One: that your fella is pretty adamant that he doesn't want another. Two: That *you* are sure he would love to have another boy in the house.

I'm married and my hubby
and I always discuss everything
One of the rules I live by when it comes to these kinds of things, is that both of us have to be 100% in agreement and that's that. End of story. If my husband is not in 100% agreement with me, then I just don't do it. I respect him too much, and it's the same with him towards me. And honestly it doesn't sound like your fella is in 100% agreement with the idea of getting another.

It also sounds like your younger kitty has a ton of energy. Maybe finding a way to burn off some of that excess energy would help.
 

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Sex doesn't matter in kitties, IMO. Purr-sonality does.

I'd look into finances to be sure you can afford another.
Read up on how to properly introduce cats (there are stickies on it, I believe).
Talk to the OH, you both have to be sure you want the kitten.
 
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