Feeling down today

Last night, DH and I got in a bad fight where he ended up walking out of the house and returning very late at night (he's never walked out before). I think this was our worst ever. After he left the house and I calmed down a little bit emotionally, I had to take a 150 question quiz online for my 6 week online Bio course. I haven't talked to him since he left. I can't think about it b/c I will start crying, so I am just ignoring my thoughts about him and us.

Now I am at work, which is a job I hate and am miserable at. I cry about half the week on my way to work, that's how much I hate it. I try to make the best of it but that is hard when your boss is 90% the cause. I have been trying to find another job...but it has been hard and frustrating, especially since I haven't really ever struggled to find a job. I guess my expectations are higher now.

I also just got my period today (sorry for the guys reading) and have horrible (debilitating) cramps and am developing my 2nd migraine of the week. I am stuck at work and cannot concentrate anything b/c of my pain and sadness. I am also frustrated with the pain...I had surgery 2 months and that was supposed to fix my horrible pain. So far it hasn't.

Tonight, I have my final for my class...it is about 200 questions in very little time. Not sure how i am going to concentrate on that. If I don't do well I will have 24 hours to research and write a paper for extra credit. Hey, at least the class is almost over.

I live in a college town, and after our wedding last year, all of our friends moved away, as is common in a college town. So I have no friends right now and don't really have anyone to turn to or talk to. At least my dog was super comforting last night...burying his head in my lap, and wagging his tail every time I looked at him. That's why I love animals...always there for you no matter what, and they don't have to understand what is wrong.

I did not come here for sympathy, or for anyone to feel sorry for me. I just have no one else to turn to and needed to "talk" to someone.

Thank you for listening to me. That's all I need right now...that and hugs and prayers go a long way too.

Oh, and it has been dark and rainy all day, which never helps a depressing mood.

I'm so sorry that things aren't going well for you right now. I hope they start looking up

I'm sorry

You need to find a way to pull yourself out of it for your class tonight - can you get out for a walk? I find that helps cramps, and it helps clear my head.

I hope you feel better soon. I can sympathize with you today, I've had horrible cramps all night last night and all day today as well.

I hope things go better soon.

Thanks. So far about the same. I didn't bring a lunch today so I just didn't eat, didn't feel like it anyway. Then I started getting extremely weak and shaky (umm, I'm hypoglycemic) so the kitchen coord guy at work cooked me some food I am thankful for him...he is always feeding me when I need it! At least that was one small and short-lived bright spot in my day! Other than that...I just hope I don't see my DH at all before my final, I think that would get me too upset.

Another thing about today...yesterday was my SIL's birthday. We were all supposed to go to dinner Tuesday, but I couldn't due to my class. So without asking me they moved it to today. So I said I could not make it today either. They decided to go through me instead of DH to plan it since he wasn't too sure what my schedule was...so even after my MIL talked to me they kept the dinner for tonight and I can't go!!! That just feels like a kick in the face for me. They couldn't move it to tomorrow due to FIL working...so they can work around his schedule but not mine?? I just feel so left out. DH isn't going either though, he didn't want to go without me...but I still feel left out. In the past we have always planned going to dinner around EVERYONE's schedule.

I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now

I hope you're feeling a little bit better and that your final went ok. I'm a little late finding this thread so hopefully everything has blown over and is ok.

One thing I do have to say (and I will probably sound like a typical male...but I am 100% female) is the biggest fights my husband and I get into usually happen right before my period starts. I honestly do believe hormones do something to you. I:

A: over-react to stupid things (I know this is a common "male" excuse but I DO do it)

B: finally get some things off my chest that have been bothering me for a while but I've been trying not be the nagging wife and it all comes out at once.

C: am upset for no reason, and need to take it out on someone, and DH is the one available.

Luckily, DH understands. Some of our fights were stupid and some were needed. The fact that he walked away says alot, belive it or not. It says he didn't want it escalate at that point and he needed to cool off and so did you. You are married now, believe me you will argue. There will be times that you walk out to just get your head together. That is ok. That doesn't mean that your marrige is not working...that just means that there is something that needs to be worked on.

Belive me I understand how much it sucks to be stuck in a job you hate. I used to cry going to my old job because my "boss" seemed to think that making my life miserable at work was her personal mission in life. When you are not happy at work it affects every aspect of my life. Stress from work comes home with you whether you want it to or not. I hope you something different soon.

All I can say is everything will work out. A major fight isn't the end of the world.

I have to agree - any time I have gone emotional on DH and tried to pick a fight has been right before a period. I've only fairly recently started getting them, and I can't believe how much it affects me. And it makes me even more angry that it's hormonal... If DH tries to tell me that I'm just hormonal I'll yell I. AM. NOT. HORMONAL!!!!!!

I hope you feel better. I get my period every three weeks and get severe cramps every time. I was that way since last friday.

Originally Posted by calico2222

I hope you're feeling a little bit better and that your final went ok. I'm a little late finding this thread so hopefully everything has blown over and is ok.

One thing I do have to say (and I will probably sound like a typical male...but I am 100% female) is the biggest fights my husband and I get into usually happen right before my period starts. I honestly do believe hormones do something to you. I:

A: over-react to stupid things (I know this is a common "male" excuse but I DO do it)

B: finally get some things off my chest that have been bothering me for a while but I've been trying not be the nagging wife and it all comes out at once.

C: am upset for no reason, and need to take it out on someone, and DH is the one available.

Luckily, DH understands. Some of our fights were stupid and some were needed. The fact that he walked away says alot, belive it or not. It says he didn't want it escalate at that point and he needed to cool off and so did you. You are married now, believe me you will argue. There will be times that you walk out to just get your head together. That is ok. That doesn't mean that your marrige is not working...that just means that there is something that needs to be worked on.

Belive me I understand how much it sucks to be stuck in a job you hate. I used to cry going to my old job because my "boss" seemed to think that making my life miserable at work was her personal mission in life. When you are not happy at work it affects every aspect of my life. Stress from work comes home with you whether you want it to or not. I hope you something different soon.

All I can say is everything will work out. A major fight isn't the end of the world.

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Thank you for that. You made me cry.

I took my final last night...passed the final and ended up with a B in the class, so I am not doing the extra credit paper, I'll take the B. I had to go to someone else's house to take the final...when the hubby got home things were still bad b/t us, and he would not be quiet when I sat down to take the exam. SO I left for a few hours. I am relieved the class is over though, these past 6 weeks have been rough.

I wish I could say it was the hormones, but this had been a pretty constant thing with us lately. I am sure the hormones didn't help though, but they were not the cause. I just do not know what is wrong with us, it had been happen ing and getting worse since we got married.

I called in sick to work today. I just couldn't go in. I still have bad cramps and migraine, and emotionally just couldn't handle it. That and I was exhausted form staying up to watch gymnastics, and then couldn't fall asleep after that. I don't know that sitting at home is helping but at least I do not have to deal with my boss today. I am thinking of calling my MIL to meet and talk to her today. I just don't know who else I can talk to who can help me out.

Thanks for all the support guys. All in all I do not feel any better than I did yesterday.