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It's time to say goodbye, and it breaks my heart

post #1 of 33
Thread Starter 
Vacation time has rolled around again and as much as I look forward to going and someone very trusted will stay here with TTP&B, it still crushes me to leave them............

How do you all handle it???
post #2 of 33
Originally Posted by kittylover4ever View Post
How do you all handle it???
Easy! I don't go anywhere!

I went away for 5 days in 2003 and missed my kitties terribly! My nephew stayed here to look after them and while I knew they were being taken care of, that didn't ease my mind at all.
post #3 of 33
We have managed our recent vacations around DH staying with Ben while Jen and I went to Europe or DH and I went on vacation and Jenny could stay home with Ben.

This October and next May, DH, Ben and I will be going to upstate NY for awards for Jenny and her college graduation. I don't know what to do about Butzie. I have a pet sitter for my budgies and I am sure she can take care of Butzie but I still worry. I wish that it was after we come home in October to let you know how it goes.
Come to think of it, the bird sitter is great and I shouldn't be worried about Butzie because she always has the pet's best interest in mind and I trust her.
post #4 of 33
Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
Easy! I don't go anywhere!

I went away for 5 days in 2003 and missed my kitties terribly! My nephew stayed here to look after them and while I knew they were being taken care of, that didn't ease my mind at all.
I don't go anywhere either!
post #5 of 33
I have not had a Vacation in years. I am afraid to leave my Cats alone.
post #6 of 33
Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
Easy! I don't go anywhere!

We don't go anywhere either! The extent of our "vacations" are a one-day trip down to Galveston.

Even if I could find someone who I knew & trusted well enough to take care of the babies, I still wouldn't be able to go anywhere for too long, b/c Geronimo & Winchester HAVE to have their FIP treatments - and no one else would be able to administer it to them besides myself..

I wish I could say to you that you won't miss them and worry about them, but I don't think that's gonna happen - even if you do have someone you trust to take care of them. I think it's a Meowmy "qualification" or something..

But I think your furbies will be perfectly fine.
post #7 of 33
The lady who looked after my cats moved but I have used my neighbors and a family friend in the past. I called them well I restrained myself to call every other day!!
Never any problems but I still worry.
post #8 of 33
We have some good neighbors and friends that we trust to take care of the pets. Its not healthy to be that attached that you cannot enjoy yourself on vacation.

While you might miss them, you should go and enjoy yourself so you can spoil them when you return. Vacations should be happy, not sad.
post #9 of 33
We sometime take overnight trips and the cats are fine.
Otherwise, last year we bought a travel trailer and before that it was a cab-over camper. We just take the cats with us. Much nicer with the trailer, a little home away from home. Since Siam passed in May, and we got Thai, we have not been on vacation yet. (had to spend 2 weeks laid up with a badly sprained ankle) Hopefully we'll take off this fall for a bit. Spud is quite the camping kitty, he's just happy to be along. We'll see how Thai takes it, but it shouldn't be a problem.
Hope you have a good time. I know how it is to miss and worry about the kids. I still worry even if we leave them overnight.
post #10 of 33
I don't leave!

Ask sharky about me flipping out when I took her PJ & Punky. Mom lost one of the dogs, forgot to feed Bea for a day, didn't scoop the LBs......
post #11 of 33
I just worry the whole time! We have a housesitter we trust, and I can email for updates while we're away, and I know they're fine , because we get back and they're happy, and not at all stressed out.
post #12 of 33
I hate seeing their little faces when i leave them, but i know they'll be well looked after by my best friend Pam who goes down every day to feed them and scoup their boxes. She also sends me a text every time she's been in to let me know their ok

I love the day when i'm travelling back though because i know they'll be pleased to see me as much as i am them
post #13 of 33
i know both sides of this as i pet sit for friends of mine. the first time i stayed there (with 9 cats and 7 dogs! ) i remember the huge list my friend left! oh and there were fish tanks indoors and a fish pond outside to look after too!

the funniest thing was the animals reactions though. all the cats were (sadly she is down to 1 now ) home bred persians and persian x's. the boys were all fine straight away but the girls, in particular a beautiful tortie persian x named calico, were very put out. in fact calico did not come in until late at night despite me calling and calling her. she took a good week to suss me out and when she did, boy did i know about it!

she would follow me around and demand attention, scratching the side of the chair if i hadn't noticed her quickly enough!

all the animals accepted me as 'temporary' mum even rod's beloved cocker spaniel petra. she became my shadow while dad was away!

the biggest compliment i got was my friends telling me how they knew the animals were happy with me. they could see how relaxed all the animals were when they returned, in particular the cats lack of reaction to their arrival!

however, i will be going away for the weekend in september with dh and i'm worried! my son is staying home and i know he will be ok but i can't help those little nagging doubts. will he remember to shut the windows in the bathroom? will he make sure the litterbox is cleaned?

this is why i have only been away once in the last 15 years!
post #14 of 33
We don't leave that often, but when we do I always make sure I have as much "automation" as possible--they have a fountain and a batter operated feeder as backup. I always have at least a couple of lights on timers. My brother comes over to check on them and clean the litterboxes, give them wet food. I know he will take good care of them because he has his own special needs kitty, but still I worry...and they stick to me like glue when I come back
post #15 of 33
Thread Starter 
I see I'm not alone........I know we can't not go places because our babies are so important to us. Life is to live, but when you have feline or canine babies, you just think in the back of your mind, "no one can/will care for them like I do" We usually go away once a year and when we get back, they are fine........but I just wish we could pack them up and take them all with us!
post #16 of 33
I don't go away very often, but I have a reliable neighbor who checks in on him and an automatic feeder and litter box. Zane will just spend most of his time sleeping anyway, be I there or not.
post #17 of 33
I am trying to go out of town, but Im taking baby steps doing it. I may be going to Chicago in September, if I feel comfortable about it.

But my cats are semi feral/feral and only trust a handful of people, I dont go because I do not and will not put them in situations where they get so stressed that they get sick. The are my sweety baby cats that have tried to eat my travel bug
post #18 of 33
I hate leaving my cats, especially the baby, Pepino, we had to go to NY for a funeral for the last 5 days and I thought I would go nuts not being with him, he already looks bigger But they all came running to greet us and were so happy we were home My good friend watches them and stays here with them and another friend comes by to play with them, while the other friend is at work, so I feel pretty confident. We go away a lot too, so it feels good to know I can trust people to take care of them.
post #19 of 33
I'm going to a 4-day convention in September. I had registered and paid for the convention in June, several weeks before I took in Goldy. Now her kittens will be about 3 weeks old when I go away for the 4 days--that's if she ever decides to have them!

I have a good neighbor who will come in to feed and play with all my kitties, and I know they'll be fine. I just hate to miss four days at that stage of the kittens' development.
post #20 of 33
First, it helps to know someone trust worthy is caring for them.
Second, I learned it really helped when I took Jordan along with me. I still worried about the others, but having him curled up next to me at night helped me sleep.
post #21 of 33
Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
Easy! I don't go anywhere!
that´s the solution!....
post #22 of 33
I should also say that when I saw the headline of this thread, I thought that your cat or cats were very old, or very sick, or very badly injured and that you had made the decision that having them put down was the last loving gift you could give them. When I found that you were just contemplating leaving them for a couple of days, my first thought was, "Oh, get a grip! They'll survive."
post #23 of 33
Originally Posted by Zane's Pal View Post
When I found that you were just contemplating leaving them for a couple of days, my first thought was, "Oh, get a grip! They'll survive."

Heres a chill pill for you and some vibes for your rude attitude
post #24 of 33
I don't go usually go anywhere either. I hate leaving them and I'm worried about them the entire time, even though I get my sister to stop by and check on them. There have been time where I have to go away for work which is a main reason I'm in the process of a career change. Especially now since my Blue needs a pill everyday now and will for the rest of her life. If we go anywhere for recreational purposes it's usually only overnight, two or three days at the most, but I don't like to do it. We have parrots too and they are a lot less independent then the cats are so we really can't leave for long.
post #25 of 33
Usually we have my dad coming over every day to make sure they are ok. But while my entire family was on a 10 day roadtrip in October, we took our kitties to PETSHOTEL, which is a pet resort that is through PETsMART. They LOVED it!!!! They were well taken care of. We were able to call ANY time of day to check up on them.

Although it was a little expensive, I'm glad they have wonderful places to take your pet while you are away.

My family is going on another roadtrip in October and it looks like we will be using PetsHotel again.

I wish it was as cheap as it will be our cockatiels... we take our birds over to my mom's house...for FREE!!!!! She cant watch the cats because she doesnt drive and we live about 15 miles away from her.
post #26 of 33
Lol... I actually agree with Zane's Pal, but I guess I wouldn't be as rude. I went to Europe for 15 days in June. My cats were looked after by my friends, and my family came by a few times to keep them company as well. I was having so much fun, I hardly worried at all. The cats stayed in the house with a daily checkin by my friends to top up food and water, the dogs went for a 15 day vacation at my horse boarding barn. All the animals were happy and healthy when I got back.

I honestly think that people would be missing out by worrying so much about their animals. I can't imagine never seeing the world, but at the same time, my animals are very well cared for.
post #27 of 33
Susie. They are probably counting the minutes until you leave so they can start the party.

Oops? Was I supposed to mention the party?
post #28 of 33
I think it's important to get away from time to time. Same with parents of young children - I think it's healthy for them to have an evening to themselves so they can go out, see a movie etc and have a break for a few hours.
As long as you make arrangements and have someone you trust coming into your home to look after your pets, then fine. That's responsible pet ownership and you're not just leaving them to fend for themselves without a second thought.
post #29 of 33
Originally Posted by Sohni View Post
Lol... I actually agree with Zane's Pal, but I guess I wouldn't be as rude.
I say what I think; if we are not allowed to express our opinions, what is the purpose of this board, anyway? You may call it rude; I call it forthright.

I love my Zane, but I don't think so much of myself to consider that I am the only person on the planet who can take care of him properly, nor that as long as he got food, water, shelter, and a clean litterbox that it matters to him all that much who provides them. He adjusted just fine when my father died and I took over caring for him, and he'd adjust just fine if something happened to me and someone else took over for me. Would he miss me? Yes, but he'd get over it.
post #30 of 33
I am lucky enough to have a great mom and stepdad that come by everyday for hours at a time to catsit. I call every other day or so just to ease my mind. They treat my two furbabies like grandkids

Also, Kitty is never happy to see me when I return (even after a week) because she is mad I guess. After a few days she loves me again. That just proves how great of care she gets while I'm gone.

One other thing: While in Las Vegas recently, I got up in the middle of the night, and watched my step so as not to step on kitteis in the hotel room. The cats have got me trained.
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