Alright, I had no idea where to post this. Since it has to do with both my kitties and my family, I thought I'd ask for some opinions here. Bear with me, it's going to be a bit long and complicated. (and probably confusing!)
Background:
I have been seriously dreading the start of school because I have no idea what I am supposed to do. I'm starting my last year of college (which is 40 minutes away from my house) and I have an apartment there with my best friend. I come home every weekend because I work on Sundays in my home town and to spend time with my family. My mother died when I was 9 and my father never re-married. He's a very lonely person without me around since I'm the only person he really talks to. My 16 year old sister moved in with my grandmother about 5 years ago after my grandfather died because she couldn't take being alone and only lives down the street. My father and sister don't really know how to relate to each other. She almost never comes back home, but my dad goes to my grandmother's about every other day. However, my grandmother (his mother-in-law) and father don't always get along since my grandmother is the type of person who complains about everything and my father takes it very personal. So basically, all my father has is really me so I must come home on Fridays to spend time with him. (Plus, I miss being home too!)
(I swear, everything ties in.... lol)
Complication 1: My older cat Jazz came away to school with me. He was 14 so I never dared to even dream of taking him back and fourth every weekend. He was okay to stay on his own from Friday to Sunday afternoon. However, after he died, I rescued Teddy who was only 2/3 weeks old at the time. I had no choice but to bring him everywhere with me. (As a result, he actually loves to travel) Teddy is almost 7 months now. I adopted Milo because Teddy hated being alone. Milo is currently 4 months old.
Possible Solution 1: Leave Teddy and Milo at the apartment while I go home on the weekends. However, I feel like they are way too young, especially Milo, to be left alone for that long....
Possible Solution 2: Take them with me! (They both make weekly trips to my grandmother's with me and don't seem stressed by new environments. I watch this very closely!)
Complication 2: My "ultra macho, I don't like cats" father has fallen in love with the kittens, especially Teddy. My dad was home recovery from surgery for a month back in June and really, like REALLY, bonded with them. In my 21 years, I have never seen this level of affection from him. He actually carries around pictures of them to show them off. (Doesn't have any pictures of his daughters mind you! lol) He even cooked a giant Turkey because he thought that "his boys" would like it. He talks about them to EVERYONE! I feel like the worst person on Earth by not only leaving him by himself, but by taking Teddy and Milo away from him.
... However, they are MY kittens and love them too! I pay for all their vet bills, food, and everything and anything related to them.... that was actually my father's condition of me getting another cat after Jazz died.
Possible Solution: Leave Teddy home and take Milo.
Problem with Solution: Teddy and Milo love each other! They play all the time together. I got Milo FOR Teddy. Oh, also the fact that I hand raised Teddy from 2/3 weeks old, woke up in the middle of the night every few hours to bottle feed him as a baby, and since grown (obviously) VERY attached to him.
Possible Solution 2: Get my dad his own cat!
Problem with Solution: This was a long shot. He would NEVER go for it. It took me months to be able to get Milo and he has made it clear that 2 cats is the limit. Also, I would again have to take financial responsibility, and I know I'm at my limit. I never want my cats care to be in jeopardy because I took on more than I can handle. I also only have 2 semesters left. By May, I'll be back home to stay with both cats. (Plus I'll be home during all my vacations) I would love 3 kitties, but it wouldn't be practical for me at this time.
So to sum up my long and confusing question...
Do I commute with my cats, or leave them home?
Do I leave one at home for my father, or do I take them both?
Background:
I have been seriously dreading the start of school because I have no idea what I am supposed to do. I'm starting my last year of college (which is 40 minutes away from my house) and I have an apartment there with my best friend. I come home every weekend because I work on Sundays in my home town and to spend time with my family. My mother died when I was 9 and my father never re-married. He's a very lonely person without me around since I'm the only person he really talks to. My 16 year old sister moved in with my grandmother about 5 years ago after my grandfather died because she couldn't take being alone and only lives down the street. My father and sister don't really know how to relate to each other. She almost never comes back home, but my dad goes to my grandmother's about every other day. However, my grandmother (his mother-in-law) and father don't always get along since my grandmother is the type of person who complains about everything and my father takes it very personal. So basically, all my father has is really me so I must come home on Fridays to spend time with him. (Plus, I miss being home too!)
(I swear, everything ties in.... lol)
Complication 1: My older cat Jazz came away to school with me. He was 14 so I never dared to even dream of taking him back and fourth every weekend. He was okay to stay on his own from Friday to Sunday afternoon. However, after he died, I rescued Teddy who was only 2/3 weeks old at the time. I had no choice but to bring him everywhere with me. (As a result, he actually loves to travel) Teddy is almost 7 months now. I adopted Milo because Teddy hated being alone. Milo is currently 4 months old.
Possible Solution 1: Leave Teddy and Milo at the apartment while I go home on the weekends. However, I feel like they are way too young, especially Milo, to be left alone for that long....
Possible Solution 2: Take them with me! (They both make weekly trips to my grandmother's with me and don't seem stressed by new environments. I watch this very closely!)
Complication 2: My "ultra macho, I don't like cats" father has fallen in love with the kittens, especially Teddy. My dad was home recovery from surgery for a month back in June and really, like REALLY, bonded with them. In my 21 years, I have never seen this level of affection from him. He actually carries around pictures of them to show them off. (Doesn't have any pictures of his daughters mind you! lol) He even cooked a giant Turkey because he thought that "his boys" would like it. He talks about them to EVERYONE! I feel like the worst person on Earth by not only leaving him by himself, but by taking Teddy and Milo away from him.
... However, they are MY kittens and love them too! I pay for all their vet bills, food, and everything and anything related to them.... that was actually my father's condition of me getting another cat after Jazz died.
Possible Solution: Leave Teddy home and take Milo.
Problem with Solution: Teddy and Milo love each other! They play all the time together. I got Milo FOR Teddy. Oh, also the fact that I hand raised Teddy from 2/3 weeks old, woke up in the middle of the night every few hours to bottle feed him as a baby, and since grown (obviously) VERY attached to him.
Possible Solution 2: Get my dad his own cat!
Problem with Solution: This was a long shot. He would NEVER go for it. It took me months to be able to get Milo and he has made it clear that 2 cats is the limit. Also, I would again have to take financial responsibility, and I know I'm at my limit. I never want my cats care to be in jeopardy because I took on more than I can handle. I also only have 2 semesters left. By May, I'll be back home to stay with both cats. (Plus I'll be home during all my vacations) I would love 3 kitties, but it wouldn't be practical for me at this time.
So to sum up my long and confusing question...
Do I commute with my cats, or leave them home?
Do I leave one at home for my father, or do I take them both?