My biological clock is ticking....LOUDLY!

I know that I am still young-23 in September but I am getting married next July to a man I have been with for 5 and a half years and I have previously stated that we could not have children right now due to financial stability.....

HOWEVER.....

I just got home from my office manager's house. She just had a little boy-Garrett Daniel-on July 14. He is the CUTEST MOST PRECIOUS baby EVER! Practically my nephew since I was with his mom EVERYDAY ALL DAY the whole nine months, I could be a little biased.

My biological clock is now on FULL BLAST and I just cannot wait to have kids. Working in a day care for 2 years did not help either. I thought it would be the best birth control EVER working with 24 three year old children. Nope, not quite. Just made me want them more.....

SOMEONE PLEASE SHUT OFF MY CLOCK!

Where's that snooze button!? Enjoy your marriage. It'll be better if you do wait until your both ready.

Talk it over with hubby - IMO its better to get to know your spouse in the first few years before bringing a child into the picture. Too many marriages break up in the first few years and most of them have kids involved. Not a good thing for the kids!

We have lived together for 3 years already....just waiting to make it official. We already enjoy each other's company. He says a few years and I agree but I want them so badly!!!

Living together is one thing, being married officially is another. Sometimes things change once the papers are signed. I hope not with you all

We ask this question to anyone getting married.

"Can you picture yourself and him/her together AND being happy in the next 40,50, 60 yrs?" If you can, then its the right person. If you cannot picture being married and happy with this person for a LONG time - don't marry them.

Case in point (DH's brother) - he dated this woman for a few months (after he was out of prison). Things seemed pretty good, but we warned them to get to know each other a lot better then just the physical side.....they didn't listen. She became a snake and untrusting as soon as the papers were signed - she could not stand for him to talk to any other woman! I'm serious. She delivered divorce papers to him on his birthday less then a year later!

Man, when you figure out how to quiet or snooze that clock, let me know!!

I've wanted them forever, and it's been hard enough trying to ignore it when I was your age and in your situation... Now I'm married and ready and raring to go, but I can't until I get this stupid genetic testing done and the hospital is taking FOREVER!! Or so it seems... I'm hoping by Sep we can start trying!!

But, enough thread hijakcing!! Sorry!

Congrats on your new "practical" nephew! He sounds precious! And, though it may make your ticking even louder (I know you said it does, and it does for me, too!!), at least he'll be a good fix until you are ready.

And, you obviously understand how important it is to be "ready" in ALL aspects of the word before having kids- so you will be a great mommy when the time comes! Don't worry, waiting only gets harder as it gets closer! The best way to snooze it for me is to tell yourself that you ARE being a mommy, and a great one, to your future kids, by waiting to have them... Does that sound cheesey? Ah well! That's what I did / am doing.

Originally Posted by BelongsToEvie

Man, when you figure out how to quiet or snooze that clock, let me know!!

I've wanted them forever, and it's been hard enough trying to ignore it when I was your age and in your situation... Now I'm married and ready and raring to go, but I can't until I get this stupid genetic testing done and the hospital is taking FOREVER!!

Or so it seems... I'm hoping by Sep we can start trying!!

But, enough thread hijakcing!! Sorry!

Congrats on your new "practical" nephew!

He sounds precious!

And, though it may make your ticking even louder (I know you said it does, and it does for me, too!!), at least he'll be a good fix until you are ready.

And, you obviously understand how important it is to be "ready" in ALL aspects of the word before having kids- so you will be a great mommy when the time comes!

Don't worry, waiting only gets harder as it gets closer!

The best way to snooze it for me is to tell yourself that you ARE being a mommy, and a great one, to your future kids, by waiting to have them... Does that sound cheesey? Ah well! That's what I did / am doing.

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Makes a whoooole lotta sense to me!

I can't picture my life WITHOUT Travis and without being happy. I know that I will grow old with him and have kids....when we ARE really truly ready.

Sounds good to me

Don't hit the snooze button - turn off the clock! Seriously, you are 23. You have lots of child rearing years ahead of you. Have fun first. Take time for you and future DH alone. If you have been together for 5 years and you are 23, you were around 18 when you met. When I was 16, I started going out with the first love of my life who is 2 years older than me. He asked me to marry him and I accepted. He was in college. I went away to college. It can be absence makes the heart grow fonder or outa sight outa mind. For us it was the latter.

My biological clock went off after - yes after - DH, not outa sight, and I were married. I was approaching a significant birthday which was not 25. I got pregnant right away and our daughter is one of the joys of our lives. Another significant birthday came up and our son was born.

In those first years when we were married, DH and I really got to know each other and to know that we were going to stay together and that we wanted to have a family.

Take some time for yourselves. Babies are so wonderful but such a handful.
I wouldn't trade them for anything, but we both knew that children do change your lives and relationships.

23 is so young and you are not married yet.

Wait a while before the children, but for now, treasure your fur-kids!

Those clocks are hard to silence!

I say when your ready your ready....even if you are 23. We've been together seven years, married for three and aside from the past 9 months or so ( ) we've spent those years exploring ourselves and each other, running around, being completely irresponsible at times and learning to grow up together. We have a WONDERFUL marriage (I really don't know how I got so lucky) and could never imagine life any other way. This little boy is going to be the luckiest in the world to have such a wonderful and committed Daddy! A lot of people say we are "young for kids" but I think not. Josh's parents are the same age as my grandparents and he really feels like he missed out on a lot b/c his parents were well....tired. We wanted to have kids young so that we had the energy to spend all the time in the world with them.

If you know its right, its right. Age is just a number!!

I totally agree! Travis says in a few years-like 5-but I say when we are as financially ready as we can be, which will probably be the same time. I'm not saying that I want kids NOW but it's so hard to see these babies and NOT want kids......I just know that I have to have children. It's what I have wanted my whole life

Have you guys agreed on how many? That is just as important as the 1st one

I wanted three at first but the more level-headed of us-Travis-helped me agree on why 2 is best for us. Two it is

Aw hun, I know just how you feel. When the timing is right, you will both just know. It's hard when you want something and you can't have it yet. But be patient, 'cause it will be well worth the wait! I am almost 25 with no kids yet, but we are trying. But I do believe when it's meant to happen, it will happen. Hope all the best for you and your soon to be marriage. For now while you wait just enjoy each other.

This thread makes me laugh!

I am just the opposite. The more I am around the kids the less I want them! Maybe it is because they are disrespectful, spoiled little brats (which I blame on the parents, and not all are like that, but it seems like so many are!)...maybe ours swill be different? We have been married for a year now, and DH and I have always wanted kids! But now that we are married we are not so sure! It's like before when we said we wanted kids it was different b/c we were so far from the reality of having a child...and now that we are married it can happen, that scares the crap outta us!! ! And it seems the logical next step after marriage is kids...so now that it is a reality, thinking about having children is not as exciting as before. Maybe it's just because we are in no position right now (financially, physically, emotionally our with out maturity) to have kids so that makes us not want them??

Although I gotta say...I love my 2 year old nephew to death!!!

Originally Posted by roxsam

This thread makes me laugh!

I am just the opposite. The more I am around the kids the less I want them! Maybe it is because they are disrespectful, spoiled little brats (which I blame on the parents, and not all are like that, but it seems like so many are!)...

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Hahah me too. I think i am the only girl in the world whos boyfriend will have to approach me for children....then after some therapy i will give in LOL. I can honesty say at 30 ive never had a ticking clock. My clock is on perma snooze everytime i see a screamy, drooly, wet, boogery kid. Ill take another puppy and kitten anyday though!

You guys are not alone in not wanting kids. Took me 5 yrs to decide if I really wanted one or not the way the world was going. I decided that one would be enough. I threw up for 9 months, had him in 2 1/2 hrs and he turned out to be a fine young man. Didn't want to rock the boat and get a whiney one so I stopped.

I like kids a few years older - you can keep babies

Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

I like kids a few years older - you can keep babies

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LOL i always say ill have a ton of kids.... as long as they come out 10ish years old

Originally Posted by silvionc

LOL i always say ill have a ton of kids.... as long as they come out 10ish years old

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Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

I like kids a few years older - you can keep babies

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Yes to you both!! My whole life I have always said that when I had a baby I would give it a way for a few years until it was a lil older! Babies look like aliens to me and they are just so helpless! lol, sorry

Originally Posted by silvionc

My clock is on perma snooze everytime i see a screamy, drooly, wet, boogery kid. Ill take another puppy and kitten anyday though!

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Exactly! LOL!
The less kids I have = the more animals!! (and more car stuff for DH!)

ah, who knows how we'll feel in a few years!

Ok, to the OP...it is hard wanting them so bad, bur I agree with everyone else...take your time, enjoy being newlyweds and adjusting to being newlyweds! (yes, it does take adjustment!). When the timing is right it will be all the more worth it! And yes, now you have your friend's little baby to help with