As far as the ceremony went- i LOVED it, there is nothing i'd change about it really. We picked out everything from our vows to the music ahead of time and really had it planned out to a T what we wanted. My pastor was great and he didn't mind using the vows we wanted. Also even though it was a baptist wedding- i am part Jewish so it was extremly important to me to have the breaking of the glass in there -my pastor understood that, and was more than happy to preform that for us! (We also had a unity candle, blessing of the rings, and a rose ceremony.) Everyone loved the Rose Ceremony- i'd definitely suggest looking into it for those that our getting married. I loved the meaning behind it and the idea. I tweaked the words a bit so it wasn't so secular, and it fit really well into the religious part of the ceremony
I wish i would have had a different baker for the cakes. I let my mom have a job in the wedding and let her be in charge of the cakes and picking that out since it ment a lot to her. In hindsight i wish i never did that because she ment well, but picked a terrible bakery.
The idiots delivered my wedding cake- but did not even put in the topper i had left for them and then they FORGOT the groomscakes the day of the wedding and brought them in right as everyone was going into the reception! (they were supposed to be there 2 hours beforehand to set up) So yea i was pretty mad at how aweful they were. Before the wedding i met with them to tell them how i wanted the cake decorated and what size i wanted the polka dots/etc (it was a pretty simple one- cute small 3tier green with white polka dots). Well when i got to the reception, yes the cake was cute-but it was not at all how i had ordered it- the dots were all different sizes, not uniform like we had asked for (and paid for!) so i definitely would say make sure you find a good baker you can trust!! (I didn't complaine the day of because i was very happy just to be getting married and decided nothing was worth getting stressed out about or worked over just because something went wrong- so i didn't complaine or anything the day of....but yea, i was NOT happy with their shoddy work. They also didn't do the groomscakes right at all- they were supposed to be strawberry swirl cheesecakes with chocolate/caramel on top- well they made just regular cheesecakes and put whipped cream and some sort of strawberry jelly on top- not what we ordered or paid for!)
Also, don't order nearly as many favors as you think you'll need- they will not all get used i promise! I ordered bubbles, card bells, and made homemade rose sachets for each of the guest we had planned on attending (about 150 of each based on my guest list). You forget that not everyone stays to see you off, many guests leave beforehand- so you're stuck with tons of leftovers!! I wound up giving all of my leftovers to my friend Abby for her wedding -and she wound up having leftover from that
Also, make a small cake and practice cutting it at home and also practice toasting each other (with the entertwined arms). Colin and I goofed that up at the wedding a little- we had no idea what we were doing
Also- screen any sound technicians carefully! Our messed up our music during the rose ceremony- he was supposed to start it at the very beginnning so it was timed out right, but he forgot and didn't start until a few minutes into it- so the music didn't end until way after we were done
We were standing up at the altar with the preacher trying soooo hard not to laugh our butts off, it was hilarious (that's one of those funny bloopers you look back on and laugh about though)
Get the most comfortable shoes you can find to wear to your wedding- you will be on your feet all day long and you don't want to be miserable on your wedding day!! I had planned to wear these gorgeous heels i had bought for the wedding (even had my dress altared to fit them) but my feet hurt soo bad when i put them on (and i did try to break them in ahead of time) - that even with padding i just didn't want to wear them all day. So since i had ordered ballet flats for the reception, i decided to just wear them during the wedding too. Nobody knew because my dress was so long- I was soo happy i chose to do that- i was comfortable the whole time!!
(even though my dress was altared for heels- i didn't trip over it with flats on).
Plan for rain- have an alternate plan if you have an outdoor wedding or plan to have bubbles or roses through at your wedding on the way out. It poured down the day of our wedding- so we had to move all of the people to a covered area on the outside enterance to throw roses/blow bubbles/etc. It wound up being really cute though! (And even if it rains- make the most of it- our photographer got some really cute umbrealla shots of us on our wedding day - they're neat because you don't see a lot of wedding pictures like that -so it was kind of special!!!) Don't let a little rain ruin your big day- make the most of it if it happens!!!
Also have someone sneak you a little Vodka (or your posion of choice
)Into the bridal room beforehand. Just a few sips will chill you out and get rid of some of those nerves (just don't have more than a few sips!!!) I remember sitting in the bridal room the whole time thinking "omg i need a drink!!!" and i didn't have one!!! My best friends mom brought the drink, but forgot the bottole opener
Make sure you have several people who know how to bustle your dress!!! None of my bridesmaids could figure my dress out- so my brother-in-law Jason (he's like a jack of all trades
) wound up bustling mine
It's was hilarious- he did a great job too!!!
Have someone open your wine or grape juice ahead of time so you don't have to open the bottle yourself at the table! and waste time pouring it!!
You won't need as many of those napkins with your name/wedding date on it as you think- i only ordered 200 - but i had over a box and a half left over
I thought for sure everyone would use them, but hardly anyone did
Same thing happend to my friend Abby at her wedding last month- only she's got about 400 left over
If you're wanting something unique for your wedding but you don't want a wet bar- consider a coffee bar!!! We weren't allowed to have alcohol in the church we got married in- but i knew an awesome guy from when i was designing (floral) that we used to do bridal shows with. He had a gourmet coffee bar/ catering company and the prices were great. EVERYONE loved it!! We got tons of compliments at the wedding- and the drinks were so cute! We had "wedding gown lattes" "tuxedo frapps." ...you name it- it was such a huge hit!!! And also he did the catering too - we just did small finger foods since it was an afternoon wedding (the later your wedding, the more expensive the food costs get because people will expect a full meal!). We had finger sandwiches, rosemary chicken skeurs (sp?), and tons of other small Italian finger foods- it was great- and the price was awesome!!
Also if you get one of those picture frames that everyone can sign- put it out where everyone will see it!!! Put it by the guest book at the sign in table, not at the recpetion- people will leave early or forget to sign it if you do that.