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post #1 of 17
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I used to like my job, but over the years of being ignored and no one ever valuing my opinions, I have stopped giving them. I get tired of being treated like crap and never know what is going on. Either I"m the last one to find out or I find out indirectly. I think that is very rude and unprofessional. This can be work related or even personal. I always feel excluded and sometimes I think it is on purpose especially if it is a certain co-worker.

With the way this year has gone I'm not surprised what else they have slapped on me. We are losing a co-worker (who I really liked) and my boss told me she had another "project" for me. She didn't even ask me if I wanted it. She just basically volunteered me for it.

It just makes me mad because I think that she thinks I will be there forever and I am already trying to research job opportunities overseas. I have been there almost 3 years. I already do inventory, the on call schedule and now a quality improvement project, while the newest person who has been there over a year, has no extra projects whatsoever.

So I basically told my boss I knew that this was going to happen, that I hate giving presentations and that I really am tired of them because I had to do so many in the program I was in. She knew I wasn't happy and I really hate getting up in the mornings because I have to go.

So does it seem fair that the newest person has nothing extra to do? I don't understand why she couldn't get it. Maybe she thinks she isn't staying because she is about to have a baby. I wonder what she would do if I left also?

I think I've reached an all time low. I don't know if it will ever get better.
post #2 of 17
i'm sorry you're still so unhappy there... did you tell your boss that you really feel just stretched too thin at this time?
post #3 of 17
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i'm sorry you're still so unhappy there... did you tell your boss that you really feel just stretched too thin at this time?
I told her I didn't want to do it, but she just doesn't seem to listen or care, or both. I am at the point where I no longer care what happens at work because nothing really seems to matter. I get really irritated when people complain over stupid things also.
post #4 of 17
I am having trouble at work also. Feel free to give us more details. TCS'ers like to listen and give advice.

You don't deserve to be miserable, and I am sorry that you are having a hard time. I really hope things look up for you, or that you find something else where you are happier!
post #5 of 17
It is pretty hard to enjoy your job If they don't treat you well. I am sorry things are going well.
post #6 of 17
I'm sorry things aren't going well

At my previous job, they basically slapped any job on me that they could .. because I was good at the job I was hired for (medical billing data entry). I ended up doing payment sorting, claims filing, etc. A girl I was friends with there left a week before I did ... so guess who ended up doing her job too after she left? Me. Then they tried to convince me to stay after I got a job offer working with DH at the lab I wanted to get into for over a year ... with a $3/hr raise.

Then at the company I currently work at, I had a different position than I do now. My boss was horrible. He didn't appreciate anything I did. He told me after a year that I wasn't up for a raise and because I wanted one, I was greedy ... yet he gave raises to all the girls with huge chests that flirted with him. I spent 3 days of my vacation that summer seriously contemplating just not coming back to work. I even called out the first day I was supposed to be back, which made him really angry. He had told me that I had to work 6 days a week (M-Sat), but still no raise, didn't want me to get overtime for coming in Saturday (so basically shorten my days during the week to have Saturday count towards 40 hours) and if I have a problem with it, to find another job. And I did... within the company Now I have a different boss who has been great to work for!

Hang in there, and I hope everything starts looking up for you soon!
post #7 of 17
I know your pain. Before the office that I worked at closed in 2005 I was feeling close to what you were. We had downsized twice and after the second downsize in 2002 when we moved to a new location there were not future advancement opportunities just a rotating of positions.

I think in spring 2004 when it was announced that the office would be closing I felt a big relief!! I stuck it out for the benefits-somedays gritting my teeth.

What helped me is that I left the job and its worries at the office-when I drove home I told myself I was driving away from this job.

What I would do is write a list of the pros and cons of your job and look to see if you want to continue working there.
post #8 of 17
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I am having trouble at work also.
As am I. There are times when as soon as I get in my car to go to work I start crying b/c I really do not want to go. I am miserable, and have been looking for something else but it is just hard to find something, especially since I am going back to school in May. So I would start full time and then drop to 30 hours.

My boss does nothing, like literally he does no work, so I do my job AND his job but get no respect or the pay that I should. And I don't like desk jobs to begin with!

Hang in there...we can do it!
post #9 of 17
I just need a job!!! I have a interview Tuesday,for a securty officer,at a real fancy hotel!The Homestead in Hot Springs VA
need vibs please!
post #10 of 17
I'm so sorry, Sabrina. I know how it feels to dread going to work every day. If it's any comfort, though, I imagine they keep giving you these extra projects because they know you'll do a good job with them. It's the kind of compliment you could live without, but... a compliment, anyway.
post #11 of 17
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Originally Posted by Tara & Rob View Post
I'm sorry things aren't going well

At my previous job, they basically slapped any job on me that they could .. because I was good at the job I was hired for (medical billing data entry). I ended up doing payment sorting, claims filing, etc. A girl I was friends with there left a week before I did ... so guess who ended up doing her job too after she left? Me. Then they tried to convince me to stay after I got a job offer working with DH at the lab I wanted to get into for over a year ... with a $3/hr raise.

Then at the company I currently work at, I had a different position than I do now. My boss was horrible. He didn't appreciate anything I did. He told me after a year that I wasn't up for a raise and because I wanted one, I was greedy ... yet he gave raises to all the girls with huge chests that flirted with him. I spent 3 days of my vacation that summer seriously contemplating just not coming back to work. I even called out the first day I was supposed to be back, which made him really angry. He had told me that I had to work 6 days a week (M-Sat), but still no raise, didn't want me to get overtime for coming in Saturday (so basically shorten my days during the week to have Saturday count towards 40 hours) and if I have a problem with it, to find another job. And I did... within the company Now I have a different boss who has been great to work for!

Hang in there, and I hope everything starts looking up for you soon!
I got stuck with it because I wasn't there when they made the decision. It is bad enough I already have to do continuing education just to keep my certification. The only other person who has to do this is the new girl, but I don't think it is fair that they don't give her anything extra just because she is "pregnant".

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I know your pain. Before the office that I worked at closed in 2005 I was feeling close to what you were. We had downsized twice and after the second downsize in 2002 when we moved to a new location there were not future advancement opportunities just a rotating of positions.

I think in spring 2004 when it was announced that the office would be closing I felt a big relief!! I stuck it out for the benefits-somedays gritting my teeth.

What helped me is that I left the job and its worries at the office-when I drove home I told myself I was driving away from this job.

What I would do is write a list of the pros and cons of your job and look to see if you want to continue working there.
I actually can tell you there are not many pros. I can't think of any except that I get paid and have healthcare, but I can get that at any job.

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As am I. There are times when as soon as I get in my car to go to work I start crying b/c I really do not want to go. I am miserable, and have been looking for something else but it is just hard to find something, especially since I am going back to school in May. So I would start full time and then drop to 30 hours.

My boss does nothing, like literally he does no work, so I do my job AND his job but get no respect or the pay that I should. And I don't like desk jobs to begin with!

Hang in there...we can do it!
My boss is actually over two different departments, yet she always makes a point to express how much more important the other department is just because she is trained for just that. She actually doesn't like our department at all.

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I'm so sorry, Sabrina. I know how it feels to dread going to work every day. If it's any comfort, though, I imagine they keep giving you these extra projects because they know you'll do a good job with them. It's the kind of compliment you could live without, but... a compliment, anyway.
I don't take it as a compliment at all. I take it as a slap in the face. They put more and more on you, yet they don't want to pay you for it. I also do not appreciated racist/cultural remarks in the first place. With all this building up, I have become rather lax in my work effort. I no longer have any interest and I know they can't/won't fire me because they are now one person short and desperate. I just don't care about the hospital or anything else about it.
post #12 of 17
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They put more and more on you, yet they don't want to pay you for it.
Many companies will do this if you let them, it is sad isn't it? They like to underpay, overwork, and take advantage of staff. I had to learn to set boundaries. Still a work in progress as it isn't always easy. Hugs to you, one would think working at a hospital helping people would be rewarding, this job doesn't sound very rewarding for you anymore.
post #13 of 17
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Many companies will do this if you let them, it is sad isn't it? They like to underpay, overwork, and take advantage of staff. I had to learn to set boundaries. Still a work in progress as it isn't always easy. Hugs to you, one would think working at a hospital helping people would be rewarding, this job doesn't sound very rewarding for you anymore.

It is even worse where I am at because we are a teaching hospital and for that very reason they can pay us less than everywhere else. I think it should be the opposite since we are giving "extra duties" to teach residents and students.
post #14 of 17
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It is even worse where I am at because we are a teaching hospital and for that very reason they can pay us less than everywhere else. I think it should be the opposite since we are giving "extra duties" to teach residents and students.
I am sorry to hear you are struggling with work. I think it's time you left & I wish you all the best so you can get out of there ASAP. I know the issues you are referring to from our past conversations. Heck if you feel you won't get fired and can afford it if they do, slack off until you find that other job.

post #15 of 17
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I am sorry to hear you are struggling with work. I think it's time you left & I wish you all the best so you can get out of there ASAP. I know the issues you are referring to from our past conversations. Heck if you feel you won't get fired and can afford it if they do, slack off until you find that other job.

I think part of the reason I'm having so many headaches is due to work. I now go there just to do my job and no longer relay any personal details. Don't you just love it when people tell you one thing, but it never really means anything in the end?
post #16 of 17
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I don't take it as a compliment at all. I take it as a slap in the face. They put more and more on you, yet they don't want to pay you for it. I also do not appreciated racist/cultural remarks in the first place. With all this building up, I have become rather lax in my work effort. I no longer have any interest and I know they can't/won't fire me because they are now one person short and desperate. I just don't care about the hospital or anything else about it.
So...if they slap something on you, learn to say no; if you are feeling overworked, it IS OKAY to say no!!!

I have the kind of employer who is really good at doing the very things you are describing; she'll slap things on ya, without asking, expect you to like it, and if you complain about it, it was somehow 'your idea to do it'. She is really hard on her employees because of that; it doesn't help that she is very critical, and speaks, or acts too often without thinking...so there are days when I have really walked away from the job, hating it...even though it's just the tension from the people, not the job itself. I don't mind dog\\cat grooming, but it certainly would be much more pleasurable of a job if there were better 'people skills' there!

However, I have learned to say, Hey...I'm tired, busy (or whatever)...basically, I say NO! I try to be as kind as possible, but make sure to get my point across. I'm not the manager, or owner, so some of the things that she asks, are NOT my responsibility...she needs to learn that; sure, I have experience in leading and managing business and people, but I shouldn't have to be taken advantage of.

However, I also have the leverage that I am self-employed, so really, she is not supposed to slap things on me other than what I have decided to do that day; when I am ready to leave, or if I need days off, she is not supposed to say you "have" to work an extra day to make up for it...that should be my decision, given my position; I think that is the hardest point that I have had to try and get across to her, but it finally seems to be 'getting there'!

So the next time you are feeling dogged, just tell her you have a whole other 'list' you have to finish, before your day is through, and that you can't do another 'surprise' job; and stand by your 'no'. I know it sounds simple, and you've 'been there' before, but if someone is used to running things that way, it takes a long time to 'change' them, or atleast help them realize you won't be taken advantage of.
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So...if they slap something on you, learn to say no; if you are feeling overworked, it IS OKAY to say no!!!

I have the kind of employer who is really good at doing the very things you are describing; she'll slap things on ya, without asking, expect you to like it, and if you complain about it, it was somehow 'your idea to do it'. She is really hard on her employees because of that; it doesn't help that she is very critical, and speaks, or acts too often without thinking...so there are days when I have really walked away from the job, hating it...even though it's just the tension from the people, not the job itself. I don't mind dog\\cat grooming, but it certainly would be much more pleasurable of a job if there were better 'people skills' there!

However, I have learned to say, Hey...I'm tired, busy (or whatever)...basically, I say NO! I try to be as kind as possible, but make sure to get my point across. I'm not the manager, or owner, so some of the things that she asks, are NOT my responsibility...she needs to learn that; sure, I have experience in leading and managing business and people, but I shouldn't have to be taken advantage of.

However, I also have the leverage that I am self-employed, so really, she is not supposed to slap things on me other than what I have decided to do that day; when I am ready to leave, or if I need days off, she is not supposed to say you "have" to work an extra day to make up for it...that should be my decision, given my position; I think that is the hardest point that I have had to try and get across to her, but it finally seems to be 'getting there'!

So the next time you are feeling dogged, just tell her you have a whole other 'list' you have to finish, before your day is through, and that you can't do another 'surprise' job; and stand by your 'no'. I know it sounds simple, and you've 'been there' before, but if someone is used to running things that way, it takes a long time to 'change' them, or atleast help them realize you won't be taken advantage of.

I did tell her that I didn't want to do it by basically saying that I hate presentations and I did enough crap like that in the program. I basically got volunteered because I was not even in the country when they discussed it. So not only was I not asked, but I also wasn't there. I think that is very poor judgement and management. There are times she does not think before speaking and I have no more respect for my boss since she seems to be ignorant in cultural differences.

It is a project that is on-going for 2 years. Not something that can be done in one day. I am just tired of everyone there. It seems like if I complain it is such a big deal, but if everyone else does, it is ok. I am the reliable one, but when evaluations come around, I am basically going to tell them that when I move out and if I can't pay my bills, I will be looking for another job. I will not live in debt because the institution I work at refuses to accomodate for inflation.

The problem is that the one place I could go, it is hard to get in, and the other places either pay less or are even worse than where I am at. Not that I have much faith in where I am at to begin with. To be honest, I have no faith anymore.

I have shut myself down starting today. I will no longer make any efforts to please anyone except myself. I no longer care what anyone else does, why should I? I get ignored and pushed around as it is. I am so TIRED OF IT! I do not talk unless it is work-related.

I have reached my breaking point.
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