Really? Am I possessive?

kittkatt · Jul 27, 2008

Originally Posted by bnwalker2

The only thing that made her leave him alone ended up being for him to lie and tell her he was gay. She left him alone for good after that.

abbycats · Jul 27, 2008

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

In my circles, another woman on your man's motorcycle is akin to cheating and subject to a severe butt kicking.
You are being perfectly reasonable in your feelings. You have been pretty respectful to all concerned, as well. That says a lot for you as a person. I hope this is the end of it now.
He did kinda wimp out on not being "allowed" to have anybody on the back. He should have told her there is only one person that rides with him is you.

My husband has a Harley and the only woman on the back of his bike is me! Thats crossing the line when another woman asks for a ride.

EnzoLeya · Jul 27, 2008

Originally Posted by KittKatt

I personally don't mind my s/o conversing with other females at work (he's a big flirt, anyway

) but when it comes to women asking him to do things with him, that's a different ballpark, IMO. If she's asking for "just a motorcycle ride" now, who's to say she's not leading up to something else somewhere further down the line??

My question is is just why she's asking your s/o for a ride, when she knows he's already taken..

~KK~

I've had high school girls flirt with him right out in front of me. That gets old! And yes they know I'm his girlfriend! We live in a town of 2,000 people and my SO works with corn, the high school kids come out every summer to help, so it's pretty hard to not be "in the know" about anything.

Originally Posted by Tara & Rob

I'm possessive too! There's no way I'd be okay with some just outta HS girl (or any other girl for that matter!) doing something like that with my hubby (he's 22 and I'm 21 also, so we're right there in your age range!). It sounds like she's got something for him. Him asking what you thought was a good move on his part.

Does this girl know he's taken though? Hubby mentions me a lot, so a girl gets the picture if she thinks something will come of them. I'd wonder why she's asking a taken man for a ride on his bike (which I'm sure she only asked because of the "closeness" there'd be!) ... either she doesn't care he's taken, or doesn't know! And why wouldn't she know..

Oh they know! In fact most of them have seen me in person because I've gone out to his work a few times. I think they just plan don't care. I know when I was in HS I didn't care if a guy was taken, being taken didn't mean much to anyone that age it seemed.

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I don't think you're "possessive", somewhat jealous? Yes. But many people are.

I do however have a problem with your boy friend. In stead of owning up to the word "No. Sorry you can't ride on the back of my bike" he put the blame on you and said "I'm not allowed to have anyone ride on the back of my bike" and now the word has spred that he's "whipped" because of you and needs your permission or something.

He should have just told the girl "No" and that was it instead of making you out to be the bad guy.

I totally agree with you! We've got into serveral agruments about him always blaming me for things! He's a bit of a pushover sometimes, I'm the demander/strong arm.

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

In my circles, another woman on your man's motorcycle is akin to cheating and subject to a severe butt kicking.
You are being perfectly reasonable in your feelings. You have been pretty respectful to all concerned, as well. That says a lot for you as a person. I hope this is the end of it now.
He did kinda wimp out on not being "allowed" to have anybody on the back. He should have told her there is only one person that rides with him is you.

Originally Posted by abbycats

My husband has a Harley and the only woman on the back of his bike is me! Thats crossing the line when another woman asks for a ride.

I've been around the bike culture for longer than he has, my dad and friends had motorcycles. Maybe he just doesn't realize that you don't ride in another woman's spot!

natalie_ca · Jul 27, 2008

Originally Posted by bnwalker2

The only thing that made her leave him alone ended up being for him to lie and tell her he was gay. She left him alone for good after that.

I've told guys that when they wouldn't take no. I've also told them that they couldn't afford my hourly rates! Though that didn't stop them from asking what that rate was.

mer636 · Jul 27, 2008

I totally woulda been telling my bf to stay the heck away from the harlot!!!

you were in the right in what you did

spudsmom · Jul 27, 2008

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I don't think you're "possessive", somewhat jealous? Yes. But many people are.

I do however have a problem with your boy friend. In stead of owning up to the word "No. Sorry you can't ride on the back of my bike" he put the blame on you and said "I'm not allowed to have anyone ride on the back of my bike" and now the word has spred that he's "whipped" because of you and needs your permission or something.

He should have just told the girl "No" and that was it instead of making you out to be the bad guy.

I totally agree!!!

krazycatlover · Jul 27, 2008

I think you are right to act that way. I am more worried about other females going after my man then my man going after other females.

babywukong · Jul 27, 2008

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I don't think you're "possessive", somewhat jealous? Yes. But many people are.

I do however have a problem with your boy friend. In stead of owning up to the word "No. Sorry you can't ride on the back of my bike" he put the blame on you and said "I'm not allowed to have anyone ride on the back of my bike" and now the word has spred that he's "whipped" because of you and needs your permission or something.

He should have just told the girl "No" and that was it instead of making you out to be the bad guy.

I so agree with this. he shouldn't have made you out to be the controlling freak! He couldn't seriously expect you to be okay with him giving rides to every female who asks for one!

My two cents worth is that girls should really keep an eye on their boyfriends. Men seem to get tempted really easily, and (no offence here) 22 years old is not a very mature age, so he could stray. I say you're doing the right thing.

fwan · Jul 28, 2008

Originally Posted by BabyWukong

I so agree with this. he shouldn't have made you out to be the controlling freak! He couldn't seriously expect you to be okay with him giving rides to every female who asks for one!

My two cents worth is that girls should really keep an eye on their boyfriends. Men seem to get tempted really easily, and (no offence here) 22 years old is not a very mature age, so he could stray. I say you're doing the right thing.

there is no difference between a 22 year old man to a 50 year old man, my boss strays, Interestingly enough i find that older men stray more than the younger ones.

greenvillegal · Jul 28, 2008

I agree fwan because they get tired of their ladies and want "fresh young" things!

MySpace is the DEVIL. It's sorta something that disconnects a relationship because of the people you can have on it can be tempting or suggestive sometimes.

zissou'smom · Jul 28, 2008

I make it a point to date the sort of guys who it wouldn't even cross their mind to cheat on you, so I probably wouldn't have objected because I would know that he was just doing it to be nice to some little girl and it was making him a little uncomfortable. That doesn't seem to be the case here, especially after he made it out that you were his controlling mother who wouldn't let him play with his friends. Honestly, that seems to be the bigger problem here. Tell him to man up, and say that HE doesn't think it would be appropriate, not whine about how he's not "allowed".

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