My advise is...go for it! Right now!
You have been living together for a year and a half, you both want children, you are getting married, so obviously you have decided to be together for the rest of your lives, so I see no point waiting. I cant see that married life will be that much different from the "live together" live you allready have.
In Iceland, the "norm" is to meet someone, live together, have children, and THEN - MAYBE get married!!!
My s/o and I hade only known each other for a year and a half - and lived together almost as long
, and we really wanted children, and we were over 30, so if we were to have more than 1, we felt there was nothing to wait for. I feel, after having lived together for a year and a half you know if you are planning to be together or not, married or not.
Then you never know if you will succed right away, and if you dont succed untill after a long time, youÂ´re gonna wish you starded trying sooner (I know a girl with that problem). So with us, after a year and a half, we thought, we are going to be together forever, weÂ´re ready. We were so lucky to succed the first month we tried, but you never know. Now I just turned 34 and we have a 10 month old pearl.
If we were 23 or something I guess we would have waited a while longer, although we might not have, I dont know! I was in a relationship for 6 years before, and trying for children was never in the picture, although I wanted children someday, the relationship just wasnÂ´t right, but with my s/o I know I have my future...so why wait...
Oh, no I did it again...this is soooooo long already...sorry!
Good luck with your plans, keep us posted!