Originally Posted by Natalie_ca
And here we go....
I'll quote what I said to someone else in another thread who tried this tactic:
"Seeking treatment to cure or manage a disease such as diabetes or cancer so that you can prolong your own life, is completely different than undergoing fertility and invitro fertilization to procreate and bring in more people into this world, because you can't do so "naturally"."
Sure you do, but I'll clarify it for you. What I said in a nutshell is that a woman or couple, who require fertility intervention to get pregnant are not meant to have their own children because nature has made it so through design or by fate for them not to have them. These women or couples can easily adopt a child that is already in this world. In fact fertile women and couples should look to adoption more often too.
Do you have children? Have you ever gone through the pain of infertility?
You simply can't understand how painful it is until you go through it personally. My husband and I have been married for 8 years, and we have been trying to have a baby for seven of them. I just had a surgery last month that will (hopefully) help me get pregnant, so hopefully I too can experience the joy of motherhood. If my surgery is a failure, then I will go the fertility route again. We have only tried drugs so far, (that was fun
) but our next step will be artificial insemination, and if that doesn't work, we will be doing in vitro.
All of my life, I grew up thinking that I would be a mother. When I got married, it was like a dream. Finally I would be starting my own family. This is what I had waited my whole life for. I wanted nothing more than to have a baby to love and teach lifes lessons too.
The pain of infertility is horrible. Every single month is a huge disappointment to me. This feeling of failure has gone on month after month for seven years now! I got to watch all of my friends and my brother and sister get married and have babies of their own, while I was trying the entire time to have a child of my own!
Do you know how hard that is to watch, and not able to have my own????? I want a baby more than anything. I would glady shorten my life if I could just have a baby.
I'm now 33, and I feel that my time is starting to run out. I'll stop trying when I reach 35 or so. And as far as adopting, no one will adopt a baby to us, because of my medical problems. So saying that it's easy to adopt a child is just NOT true. It doesn't work for everybody. We tried in this country, and we tried out of the country. Because of my medical problems, they said NO WAY. I would take an adopted child in a heartbeat. I don't care WHERE it comes from, I just want a child.
I'm very bitter about all of it, and I was hurt to see your post, putting down infertility treatments, and making the women who choose to have them, feel terrible and selfish. It's just not that easy for all of us.