Counseling?

Originally Posted by emrldsky

That's unfortunate that they aren't able to help you right now. I would just wait until after lunch and see what happens then.

Call the emergency number if you're still not helped by the end of business today.

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I would but I have to work tonight and tomorrow night. I am just going to have to deal with this on my own for right now if I can't get a response from them.

Don't let the red tape deter you -- keep trying until you get to the right person. You need and deserve this help!

And I'll bet if you talk to your landlord and explain that the relationship has ended and you're having health problems and need to be back with your family, surely some arrangement can be made. Going home is a really good idea.

And it provides a ready-made project: packing! You can go ahead and start getting your things together, so you can head back home as soon as it all gets worked out.

Hon, is there someone at home who might even come out and help you for a week or two?

Just got back from my EAP session and that first step was a doozy!!! But, I am SO thankful that I made it, and that I'm going to be starting counseling. The EAP counselor I spoke with recommended a counselor that is part of my insurance plan.

I really really hope that you are able to make the first step come through (even if they are making it really hard for you to get your foot in the door). It really will help you.

Originally Posted by CarolPetunia

Hon, is there someone at home who might even come out and help you for a week or two?

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I wish, but no. Everyone works. Most of my family is now 12 hours away and the 1 that is 4 hours away that would come if she could, has 2 small kids and works over 40 hours a week usually. I honestly am very isolated here.

I am glad your session went ok, emrldsky.

How are you doing today?

Any luck reaching someone who can help?

When my parents were going through a very bitter divorce while i was young i witnessed my dad breaking into our house (in an attempt to kidnap me) and in the process beat up my mom. Thankfully, my wolf mix at the time chased him off. I witnessed quite a few things like that when i was little though- so the court ordered me my mom and my father to go to seperate counseling sessions. My mom and I went to one of the counselors my chuch had. I really liked her. It helped to tell someone what was going on and have a neutral person to talk to. And wanna know something weird- we are still great friends! She has since retired- but my mom cleans houses for a living and she is actually one of my mom's customers and her daughter Jennifer and I are quite good friends. We are really close to that whole family. So i am actually so greatful that even though the situation stunk at the time- i wound up making a good friend out of it all and have remained close to that family. I know i can always talk to her when i have a problem too- it's worked out so well over the years!

Colin and I also did premaritial conseling before we got married with my pastor. We both wanted to make sure that we started out our marriage on the right foot and learned how to communicate well in our relationship. I can't possibly tell you how much it's helped us! We both learned a lot from it! We used "The Five Love Languages" as our guide during that and still read it.

I have never been to counseling for anything mental or psychological though- but my best friend has however and i've seen it really improve her quality of life.

So i definitely think counseling and all of that can be a very positive thing in someones life. We ALL need to talk to someone sometimes,and it helps to work your problems out! A lot of churches even offer free counseling or inexpensive sessions to their members and the public.

Just thought I would check in really quick while the site would let me.... I can't seem to get the pages to load this AM. I finally got hold of someone and I go Tuesday morning for my first session. I am not sure if I will like him because of his phone personality, but maybe he is different in person.

I still can't really eat (makes me sick), but the people I work with made me go to breakfast with them yesterday morning and I ate with them. Going to work ended up being really good for me because I was able to talk to other people about what I was going through. Felt a little weird talking to people I work with about my personal life, but seeing how I cried pretty much the first 4 hours of my shift, they kinda figured out something was wrong with me.

Just reading this post compared to the other day, I can tell I am feeling a little better. Later today will be the test, though, when the ex BF and have our heart to heart. I may be posting on here later if I get as bad as I was the other day. You guys can ignore those posts. I have a feeling that our little chat is not going to be what I want it to be and I will be upset later. Hopefully not as bad as I was though. I don't think I have EVER been that bad, emotionally wise, before-- and I was suicidal at 1 point in my teens (yeah no counseling then- mom didn't think I needed it). Sorry for the long post- I am running on basically no sleep.

No ignoring around here, sweetie -- we're in for the duration!

I hope today's conversation is helpful in getting you some closure... but sometimes realizing how unkind a person has been to you is all the "closure" you really need. Try not to let it matter too much to you, either way.

And I'm so glad you're going in on Tuesday! That's really good luck, to make an appointment so quickly. It's meant to be! And even a bad counselor is better than no counselor at all, for awhile.

And in a couple of weeks, if you don't feel like this guy is right for you, you can look for someone else. At least you're on the right path now!

If you don't feel comfortable with the counselor you can always ask for a different one. A lady at work tried three before she found one she was happy with.

I feel that I was very lucky and hit it off with mine on the first day.

She also has cats and encouraged me to adopt one myself.

Just came back from my first counseling session and now I am not sure I even need it. He even said that it looked like I had analyzed myself pretty well! I guess I was hoping for more insight into what I could do for myself instead of just talking-- I can talk to anyone. I am mostly focusing on relationship issues at this point because that is what is affecting me now and he did say we would work on trust issues, but if all we are going to do is listen to me spout off, what's the point? I think that I do better therapeutic communication with my patient's than what he did for me! Don't get me wrong, I am grateful that I have this chance to go to counseling and I am going back Friday morning, but I just thought that he would give me more insight into myself. Is the first session basically just to introduce ourselves and then it gets better?

Originally Posted by pipersjo

Is the first session basically just to introduce ourselves and then it gets better?

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In my case it was like that. Although it took me a few sessions to trust her enough to share some things with her.

There were times when it seemed like I did all the talking. But I think that was just her way of doing things.

At least you are feeling better about things.

Originally Posted by pipersjo

...Is the first session basically just to introduce ourselves and then it gets better?

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Yes, that's how it was for me. It may seem like wasted time some sessions, and then one day a lightbulb will go on and you'll see something in a whole new way. I fought my counselor for months, believing I already understood myself perfectly -- and then one day, this blinding light dawned and I discovered a truth that's been a huge help to me ever since. You just never know where these conversations may lead. I'm so glad you're going!

Originally Posted by pipersjo

...Is the first session basically just to introduce ourselves and then it gets better?

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Yes, that's how it was for me. It may seem like wasted time some sessions, and then one day a lightbulb will go on and you'll see something in a whole new way. I fought my counselor for months, believing I already understood myself perfectly -- and then one day, this blinding light dawned and I discovered a truth that's been a huge help to me ever since. You just never know where these conversations may lead. I'm so glad you're going!