Originally Posted by Lore
I should have chosen my Mate more wisely. Silly me.
There was a time when blood tests were required by law prior to marriage. Historically it was to check for Syphilis, but I also believe that they investigated fertility so that each partner was aware prior to marriage if they were fertile.
I remember in the late 1960's or early 1970's that my cousin and her fiance found out prior to marriage that her chances of having a baby were slim to none. As it turns out she ended up having 2 with him, unaided by fertility drugs (I don't even know if there was such a thing back then). But he knew right up front that there was a chance that they couldn't have children, and while he had hoped to have a child, he was fine if they didn't. He loved her and that was enough for him. He made a conscious choice to marry someone who may not have been able to produce a child.
I don't think it's a bad idea to have a fertility test prior to marriage because that way each person knows what they are in for and can make an informed decision as to whether to partner up with that person for life if they can't have or produce children. It would certainly save many couples the stress and heartache later on. And it might even save some marriages because when one person wants kids and the other can't have any, it's highly stressful and marriages have ended because of the stress, pressure and financial burdens that they undertake to try to conceive.
I understand that my views on fertility treatments are not popular, but then again I've never been one to go along with the flow just to be popular. And I don't seek to have my views changed, nor do I seek to change anyone else's.