Originally Posted by Tink80
well, nobody tells me what to do. i have to follow my heart. i've worked in the veterinary field and i know animals pretty well as i've had many come an go my whole life. he is declining medically but he is not miserable. i just said the swelling is up and the breathing is raspy from time to time. it actually improved the last two days except for the swelling with me raising the dosage. he is purring, head butting, cuddling, eating, sleeping, and going to the bathroom fine. he's not in pain. the meds are taking care of that. i'm just saying that medically i don't think it'll be long before either he passes or his quality of life goes down to when i have to put him down at the vet. what it comes down to is i am his mommy, i spend all day with him, and i know what's best. i've had twenty years of experience and do rescues all the time. but i don't have to explain that to you. i was looking for some compassion and venting...not assumptions. yes you are wanting what's best for the cat and that's why all the assumptions i'm not handling correctly and you are worrying. i just take offense because i have so much experience and i don't feel i should have to justify..guess i was hoping for posts like "i know what you mean", "sending you prayers/vibes", "you'll know or he'll tell you when it's time", "we'll be here for you to talk when the time comes", etc. think i'll just stick to posting cute pictures on this forum.. *rolls eyes*
I am horribly sorry your cat is going through this, but I must admit that I find this response to be a bit puzzling ... frankly, you have many people here who have all been suggesting a loving, compassionate alternative for a cat they don't even know and while it may not be what you ~want~ to do, it shows that there are people who CARE. I would think that you would be thrilled that so many took the time from their busy days to even post a response to your plight at all! No one here was trying to tell you what to do or how to take care of the cat you know best - I think that was your own personal feelings getting in the way of what you are reading. Personally, I think you need to take a step back and re-examine your feelings towards these people ... and pass along the sincere apology they deserve from you.
That all now being said, I sincerely hope your cat will spend his last days in comfort and that he will pass peacefully as seems to be your wish for him. When the time comes for you to make the decision, I know you will do so with a loving mind and compassionate heart. It is hard to know exactly when that time comes, but for me, it was when I realized that I no longer possessed the capability to appropriately care for my cat ... I would have needed to turn my home into a kitty-care intensive care unit and I knew that couldn't happen in the ways it needed to. So, I made the decision to euthanise. It hurt, I won't lie. But it also was comforting to me to know that no matter what, my girl was no longer suffering and in pain, even though she didn't ~look~ or ~act~ like she was in pain while still alive. I knew she was.
Continued best of luck with this matter. it can't be easy for either you or your cat.