More vibes for Bea?

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I called the lady who wants her again & left a message.

In the event she decides she no longer wants her, I will be euthanizing her.

I've thought long & hard about it, and trust me this is not the decision I wanted to make. I've been dreading thinking about this for weeks & calling her again, but it's really getting to me.

She cannot stay here (she hates cats & dogs....my place is like
for her). As every day drags on she's getting worse about the other cats.

She's 6ish years old. Does well using the litterbox now, but has to have it cleaned 2x a day & will only use a specific kind of litter & litterbox. She's going to be an expensive cat....needing an Rx diet for life, & she will have a shortened lifespan. She doesn't really do kids (she has a tendency to bite them). Her arthritis flares up & she needs to be on meds for that for life. She's got a nasty limp from the lack of having any front toes & walks weird, too.

In 5-6 months now, only 1 person has been interested in her - this lady.

I can't force her to stay here, she'll die in a cage at the shelter (too much stress). She's not adoptable, adoptions are slow in general for everyone, no rescue will take her, and she cannot go back to the shelter.

Bea is why you don't declaw.

 

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Oh that sucks to be in such a position
You've done absolutely everything possible for her - there are fates worse than death, and I think she would prefer euthanisation than having to suffer the rest of her life having to deal with everything she hates.
 

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That is such a tough decision to have to make, but I know you're doing what's best for Bea. Sending tons of vibes for Bea.
 

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Nat, I'm so sorry that Bea can't seem to find that special home. But I know you will do what is best for her.
 

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Nat, it's heartbreaking, I know, but you have tried everything -- Lordy, how you have tried! There comes a point when there is nothing more to do. And, don't forget one thing, dear -- for all that your place is not suitable long term, the time she has had with you has been full of love and caring. If all you manage to give her is that, that is no small thing. And her journey across the Bridge will be from a place of love, not one of fear and loneliness. I still hope the lady comes through for her (and you), but if it's not to be, it's not to be. Please be gentle with yourself. You do so much for these sweet lost ones.
 

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Originally Posted by rapunzel47

the time she has had with you has been full of love and caring. If all you manage to give her is that, that is no small thing. And her journey across the Bridge will be from a place of love, not one of fear and loneliness.
not to mention, you freed her from the majority of her physical pain!

& that the prospective adopter comes thru!
 

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Oh no!!! I'm so sorry that it has come down to this!
Hopefully that lady will come through after all.
 

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I can`t believe this woman has kept you waiting around so long. Wasn`t she supposed to take her weeks ago?
If she is like this when she hasn`t even got her home yet, well, I just don`t know. It doesn`t come across good, that`s for sure. Either she wants her or she doesn`t


I hope she doesn`t have to be PTS and something comes up but if not you did absolutley everything you could for her


For Bea X
 

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Mega for poor miss Bea. I'd hate to see her pay the ultimate price for human stupidity, but as others have said you've at least given her some relief from her pain and a home that is not a cage.
that the adopter comes through however unlikely it may seem at this point.
 
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Still no call back. I think I've known this is coming for a long time.
I HATE stupid people.

I'm not sure I can handle euthanizing her, either. I might try Rescue Remedy or anything I can think of to make her a little calmer. I really can't keep her here, but I can't put her through all I have & then turn around to euthanize her.
 

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Originally Posted by white cat lover

Still no call back. I think I've known this is coming for a long time.
I HATE stupid people.

I'm not sure I can handle euthanizing her, either. I might try Rescue Remedy or anything I can think of to make her a little calmer. I really can't keep her here, but I can't put her through all I have & then turn around to euthanize her.
when you called, did you tell her that Bea would be euthanized if this person didn't adopt her?
just curious - 'cause if you did, & she has changed her mind... she's not gonna call, because that reality will make her uncomfortable [which it should!].
i hope you can find a way for Bea to stay around - i know that's what you wish, too

 

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Originally Posted by white cat lover

I really can't keep her here, but I can't put her through all I have & then turn around to euthanize her.
I know you love her and had wanted her to have a loving forever home, but it seems that this woman changed her mind, if she ever had any intention to follow through to begin with.

You say that Bea is unadoptable because of her issues and need to be in a single cat home, and that aside from this one woman and you, no one has been willing to take her on. Her medical history is extensive and ongoing, and certainly not cheap and there aren't many people willing to take on a cat with major medical issues.

You need to put your feelings aside and think about what is best for Bea. I know that won't be easy because you have a huge heart, but sometimes euthanizing is the best thing to do, as hard as it is to make that decision.
 

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Poor Bea, and poor you too! I really hope that lady takes her and gives her plenty of TLC.
 

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i am sorry that this woman seems to have let you down, but i think you know deep down what is best for Bea, and that is why it is so hard. You have given her every chance possible, but it obviously isn't meant to be for her, and this way she gets to go with someone who truly loves her, and is willing to end her pain for her, and that is the kindest thing possible.
 
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I know you love her and had wanted her to have a loving forever home, but it seems that this woman changed her mind, if she ever had any intention to follow through to begin with.

You say that Bea is unadoptable because of her issues and need to be in a single cat home, and that aside from this one woman and you, no one has been willing to take her on. Her medical history is extensive and ongoing, and certainly not cheap and there aren't many people willing to take on a cat with major medical issues.

You need to put your feelings aside and think about what is best for Bea. I know that won't be easy because you have a huge heart, but sometimes euthanizing is the best thing to do, as hard as it is to make that decision.
I know to some extent you are right, but there has to be a home out there for her. Yes, she is fairly unadoptable. But if I can get her to where she is comfortable living here.....I know I can find that home for her. I haven't tried anything much really, other than a Feliway diffuser which did help some. I just get so....I don't know, pissed beyond belief that this woman kept telling me she wanted Bea. She lied to me....6 times.

I blocked off under the 2 doors to the room she is in with thick blankets so she can't see the other cats. Molly's in the office with her & she does play with her in a modified way (she can't raise a paw to truly swat Molly very easily). I sprayed some vinegar water outside the windows to discourage the other kitties from visiting her through the windows. She's finally using the litterbox like a champ, hasn't had an accident in probably a month.

I plan to get an exam, retest her urine & blood, as well as talk to the vet about this before I do anything I might regret.

I bounce from "I have to euthanize her" to "But we placed a kitty older than her with CRF that was nasty not that long ago...we can place Bea". The other kitty was 12 years old, CRF, bit people worse than Bea does, absolutely did not tolerate kids/cats/dogs whereas Bea is getting better. I will talk to the vet, and see what time brings. If she can relax more, and not be unhappy here, then she can stay. But I do have to remember that eventually, euthanizing her might be the kind thing to do.

We have someone coming this next week looking for an older, calmer lap cat. If the financial aspect isn't a concern ($40 a month to feed her is what I am paying), then perhaps Bea would be a possibility.

(This sucks)
 
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