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The first gay marriages under the new law are happening tonight.

There was just one wedding in San Francisco tonight, which was lovely It was between an 87 and 84 year old woman who've been together for 55 years! Imagine all they've been through in their time to stay together?

Not being allowed to marry hasn't separated these wonderful ladies, they haven't turned straight from not having such a law in pace, they have stayed a loving, committed couple, and have hurt nobody and affected nobody with their love for each other.

No matter how against it you are for religious or moral reasons, it does not affect you, so continue to oppose it all you want, but don't stop loving, committed people for being who they are and having the same rights as everyone else.

Being gay or straight isn't a choice - it's just who people are.
post #2 of 186
Unfortunately, it is going to lead to another can of worms being opened here and everywhere.
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  • sarahp
  • Location: An Aussie living in California
Sarah - I'm curious as to what the prevailing public opinion in Australia is regarding gay marriage.
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Being gay or straight isn't a choice - it's just who people are.
Did you by chance see this study. It doesn't seem to be getting a lot of attention for some reason.

I'm sure that it has to be subjected to a great deal of peer review yet, but it's still an interesting study.

http://uk.reuters.com/article/oddlyEnoughNews/idUKL1635102020080617
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Wonderful sentiments Sarah. I don't know how anyone cannot admire 55 years of devotion, such a rare thing in this world. Cheers to these two women

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Did you by chance see this study. It doesn't seem to be getting a lot of attention for some reason.

I'm sure that it has to be subjected to a great deal of peer review yet, but it's still an interesting study.

http://uk.reuters.com/article/oddlyEnoughNews/idUKL1635102020080617
I am glad that someone has decided to study the neurobiology of sexuality. I cannot imagine how horrible it is to be constantly told to deny who you are as a being. If I wanted too I couldn't just think myself to be a lesbian. Why is it that so many people want to say that homosexuals can just think themselves straight?

Sadly though, no matter how much concrete science that comes in the future there will still be those that choose not to believe it.
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  • sarahp
  • Location: An Aussie living in California
Sarah - I'm curious as to what the prevailing public opinion in Australia is regarding gay marriage.
I don't see how it matters to this, but ok...

Gay marriages are not legal in Australia currently - we have had an old, conservative government for a long time. In most states though, de facto relationships are recognised (2 people living together as a couple), so gay partners get a lot of the same benefits as heterosexual married couples.

Under the new Government, they are apparently working on a "national relationship register", which would officially record an existing same-sex relationship, and while that is happening, the individual states are being encouraged to have this register, which some already do.

I just read this from Wikipedia:

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Federal legislation does recognise same-sex couples in certain limited circumstances. It allows foreign partners of its homosexual citizenry to receive residency permits, called Interdependency Visas. The Federal Police extends spousal rights to same-sex couples. The Australian Defence Force (ADF) acknowledges its personnel’s same-sex partnerships as interdependent relationships. Gay soldiers, pilots and sailors in the ADF are entitled to the same benefits as heterosexual couples. This means equal benefits in housing, moving stipends, education assistance and leave entitlements. These benefits apply only to ADF members who are involved in interdependent relationships with a same-sex partner. To be recognised as interdependent, same-sex partners will have to demonstrate that they have a "close personal relationship" which involves domestic and financial support.

Other Acts of Parliament specifically recognise de-facto relationships between people of the same sex. This is evident in acts such as the Social Security Act which allows Centrelink employees to consider a same sex relationship as equivalent to a marriage when paying unemployment or other benefits and thereby pay (the same as a heterosexual couple) less than would be due to two individuals.[citation needed]

On 30 April 2008, federal Attorney-General, Robert McClelland, announced he would introduce legislation to remove inequalities in 100 areas of the law when Parliament resumes in May. The proposed legislation would give gay couples the same rights as heterosexual de facto couples. Areas to be reformed include health, aged care, veterans' entitlements, workers' compensation, employment and entitlements, with a delayed implementation in areas like social security and veterans affairs to be completed by mid-2009. It is expected to pass the Senate by July 1, 2008.
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In June 2007, the results of a Galaxy poll commissioned by advocacy group GetUp! were released. The poll measured opinions of 1100 Australians aged 16 and over. [25]

* 71% of respondents agreed that same-sex partners should have the same legal rights as de-facto heterosexual couples.

* 57% of respondents supported same-sex marriage. The poll suggests a 20-point jump in support since 2004, when Newspoll found 38 per cent in favour and 44 per cent against.[26]
Australia is less conservative than the US in general, and I think while people may not necessarily support gay marriage, it is recognised as discriminatory.
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The article didn't provide a link to the actual report. I think the comments above are leaping to conclusions that aren't in there. Going by what the article says, the report just says researchers found commonalities in brain structure. And that's all it says. Drawing any conclusions about a link between brain structure and sexual preference is leaping to conclusions instead. The brain structures involved, according to the article, have to do with the fight/flight response, emotion, mood and anxiety. Not with sexual orientation.
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Sounds like the Australian government prefers what we've been calling a "civil union."

I was just curious, that's all. I'm under the impression it's a conservative country. But what do I know.
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Yep, Australia hasn't been ready to accept "gay marriage", but the relationships are accepted and supported. I do think attitudes are changing though - there are bigger things to worry about than whether a gay couple have a Certificate of Marriage or not
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Unfortunately, it is going to lead to another can of worms being opened here and everywhere.
Yeah that
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there are bigger things to worry about than whether a gay couple have a Certificate of Marriage or not
How very true. People worry about such petty things in general that occur on a daily basis that they forget to live their life to the fullest until something devastating happens to point them back to what really matters. You only live once - so enjoy it to the fullest potential.
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I am speaking from my training as a research scientist, sorry. It is taken for granted that this study is just a beginning. The intent most certainly is to try and decipher the neurobiology of sexuality. Sexuality is one of the most basic primal responses so beginning with the assumption it starts in the same area of the brain as other primal life responses is a good start.

From this start research can be refined. Good research always tries to prove itself false. I too would like to see the full study, as I am sure I could find holes in it. Rarely are there any studies which are perfect.

My point being, I am glad someone is trying to understand. This is not to say they are trying to prove or disprove a particular viewpoint. Science should be unbiased. Just like the scientists who decided to undertake the unimaginable task of unraveling the human genome. The information coming from these endeavors will be amazing and enlightening. Neurobiology is a very very new discipline as only recently has the technology to actually study the brain been developed. It is fascinating.

Whether the research is accurate or not still doesn't affect my opinion on how others can expect homosexuals to just decide to be straight. Honestly I cannot imagine to just decide to be gay. I really don't see how those who are gay could any easier just decide to be straight. That isn't scientific, just my own personal evaluation of it.

As to the comment about people failing to believe the science I stand by that statement as well. No matter what the results are their will be people that will refute it. It will not matter how concrete it is. It happens all the time. If it does turn out that in the future research proves homosexuality is definitely a biologically determined trait there will be those that refuse to believe it.
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As to the comment about people failing to believe the science I stand by that statement as well. No matter what the results are their will be people that will refute it. It will not matter how concrete it is. It happens all the time. If it does turn out that in the future research proves homosexuality is definitely a biologically determined trait there will be those that refuse to believe it.
I don't find that surprising at all. Afterall, there are people out there who refuse to believe that dinosaurs exist even though we have museums full of dinosaur fossils.

I don't remember where I had heard this, but it really blew me away.
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I don't find that surprising at all. Afterall, there are people out there who refuse to believe that dinosaurs exist even though we have museums full of dinosaur fossils.

I don't remember where I had heard this, but it really blew me away.
My cousin tells me that the devil put the bones there to make people non-believers... I don't know if this is a commonly held belief or not.
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As to the comment about people failing to believe the science I stand by that statement as well. No matter what the results are their will be people that will refute it. It will not matter how concrete it is. It happens all the time.
Scientific theory will always be challenged, simply because it is theory. Some theories, like the laws of gravity (which is still a theory) can be accepted more readily than others, but not when there are emotions or religious beliefs at stake.

I applaud the 2 senior women in California for finally getting their chance to make their relationship legal.
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http://www.latimes.com/news/custom/s...,2229468.story

The L.A. Times weekly Health section had a light-hearted summary of some studies on what gay might look like.

Is it the direction of hair whorls, left-handedness, how many boys a mother has before the gay one was born, the size of the penis, or something else?
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It is interesting that Galileo was almost put to death as a heretic for proving Copernicus' theory that the earth revolved around the sun. At the time it was it was believed that all planets revolved around earth, geocentric vs heliocentric. Science has always been discounted.
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My cousin tells me that the devil put the bones there to make people non-believers... I don't know if this is a commonly held belief or not.
well, none of the Christians i know espouse such a belief.
speaking for myself - i believe the dinosaurs were here, & that the fossils are real - i just think the time periods commonly accepted could be off.
post #19 of 186
Their relationship is a lot stronger than some hetrosexuals, and good for them, if their happy that's the main thing

I've got a male gay friend who i've known from my childhood, and he's been with his partner now for years. He said he wouldn't have a gay marriage though?.
post #20 of 186
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It was between an 87 and 84 year old woman who've been together for 55 years!
That's lovely, hope they have many more years of happiness ahead
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That's lovely, hope they have many more years of happiness ahead
Here's a picture of them: Click

I'm just happy they have the same exact rights my husband and I do.
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Science should be unbiased. .
I agree with that. I just don't think that study was unbiased. The researchers were approaching their research with a particular point of view and looking for evidence to support that point of view. So they found similarities in brain structure between straight men and gay women and between gay men and straight women. The similarities were in portions of the brain that don't govern sexual behavior. In any cross section of the population you'll find a percentage of men with effeminate traits and women with masculine traits. It only stand to reason those traits would be due to neurobiological similarities with the opposite sex. However, a man can be effeminate and hetereosexual and a woman can be masculine and still hetereosexual.

So the research proved nothing and the researchers using it to support a particular point of view about the origins of sexual orientation are not being true to the scientific method, IMO. My education was as an electrical engineer, so I've had some of that, too. A couple of mistakes they made, as I see it: the sample group was 90 volunteers, so that's the error of self-selection (maybe that's not quite the correct statistical term), also the sample size is quite small. I'm not sure of the actual number, but I think it's in the neighborhood of 500 or higher that polling outfits use to represent the population, and that's with an uncertainty of around five percent. So, the study group should have been much larger, and more importantly, it should have been a random sample. And the article didn't say what percent of the sample group showed these brain structure similarities, but because of self-selection, whatever the percent was, wouldn't be representative. And if it was just a few individuals out of 90, that would make the result even more irrelevant. Maybe someone else, someone unbiased, will make another study without the errors.
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What is happening in California IMO, is gay peoples relationships have been legally recognized.

Because whatever it is, it is not marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman and no law on earth can change that.
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Because whatever it is, it is not marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman and no law on earth can change that.
Does it really matter what it's called?. Their not harming anyone, and their happy. Live and let live i say.
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The first gay marriages under the new law are happening tonight.
I'm glad to see that some of the US States are moving into the 21st Century! Same sex couples have had this right in Canada for several years, and so far as I know our country has carried on as normal.

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There was just one wedding in San Francisco tonight, which was lovely It was between an 87 and 84 year old woman who've been together for 55 years! Imagine all they've been through in their time to stay together?

Not being allowed to marry hasn't separated these wonderful ladies, they haven't turned straight from not having such a law in pace, they have stayed a loving, committed couple, and have hurt nobody and affected nobody with their love for each other.
Congrats to the happy couple! I'm thrilled for them. They should have been allowed to do this ages ago! But I'm glad that they have finally been able to make their union binding in the eyes of the law!

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No matter how against it you are for religious or moral reasons, it does not affect you, so continue to oppose it all you want, but don't stop loving, committed people for being who they are and having the same rights as everyone else.

Being gay or straight isn't a choice - it's just who people are.
Very nicely said and bears repeating. There is way too much hatred and intolerance for those who are different than us (the person reading this). We all need to learn to mind our own business where certain things are concerned: who we marry is one of them.
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congrats to all those couples I read a very nice article on those older women yesterday, it warms my heart that there are people out there who stay together thru all the trials and tribulations life throws at them
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Their relationship is a lot stronger than some hetrosexuals, and good for them, if their happy that's the main thing

I've got a male gay friend who i've known from my childhood, and he's been with his partner now for years. He said he wouldn't have a gay marriage though?.
I daresay there's a whole lot of couples in this day who don't see the point - especially if they've been together for ever anyway, and live in places that recognise all their legal rights as a committed couple.

For all the next generation of gay people, it'll be great for them to know less discrimination, and know that they will hopefully be less persecuted for who they are, and have the same rights.
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Does it really matter what it's called?. Their not harming anyone, and their happy. Live and let live i say.
It matters to me.
post #29 of 186
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I agree with that. I just don't think that study was unbiased. The researchers were approaching their research with a particular point of view and looking for evidence to support that point of view. So they found similarities in brain structure between straight men and gay women and between gay men and straight women. The similarities were in portions of the brain that don't govern sexual behavior. In any cross section of the population you'll find a percentage of men with effeminate traits and women with masculine traits. It only stand to reason those traits would be due to neurobiological similarities with the opposite sex. However, a man can be effeminate and hetereosexual and a woman can be masculine and still hetereosexual.

Your absolutely right here, however this is where it starts. Now with a beginning science must unravel this. They may even decide it is completely wrong. As I said before this is the very first step in trying to understand. Actually brain mapping is very, very new and to say that the similarities were in a part of the brain that doesn't govern sexuality is not correct. We don't know if it covers sexuality or not. As I said before it is a good place to start because we know sexuality is a "primal" response. Again this is just a first step, where nothing is known thus far.

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So the research proved nothing and the researchers using it to support a particular point of view about the origins of sexual orientation are not being true to the scientific method, IMO. My education was as an electrical engineer, so I've had some of that, too. A couple of mistakes they made, as I see it: the sample group was 90 volunteers, so that's the error of self-selection (maybe that's not quite the correct statistical term), also the sample size is quite small. I'm not sure of the actual number, but I think it's in the neighborhood of 500 or higher that polling outfits use to represent the population, and that's with an uncertainty of around five percent. So, the study group should have been much larger, and more importantly, it should have been a random sample. And the article didn't say what percent of the sample group showed these brain structure similarities, but because of self-selection, whatever the percent was, wouldn't be representative. And if it was just a few individuals out of 90, that would make the result even more irrelevant. Maybe someone else, someone unbiased, will make another study without the errors.
While there are lots of basic similarities for science and experimentation in general, medical experimentation has a whole other set of rules. First line experimentation, vivisection, is NOT allowed. Sample sizes always tend to be very small in the beginning because medical research is extremely expensive. Once some basic conclusion are founded larger sample sizes are tested.

Random samples do not occur in behavioral science specifically because you are trying to understand a specific behavior. If you don't look at people with that specific behavior then you are never going to learn anything about it. Same with cancer, diabetes, lupus etc. Random sampling in medicine does occur when trying to establish normal ranges ( ie the ranges on ones blood tests for example. This is also why different labs have different ranges). However for medical experimentation what is usually done is to compare a control group with the experimental group in "matched pairs" So if you have a 42 year old, college educated, middle class lesbian you would pair her with a 42 year old college educated middle class heterosexual female and a 42 year old college educated middle class heterosexual male. ( just a basic example here)

One is looking for differences and similarities. Something that can be examined further.

The last factor is this is a newspapers watered down simplified version of the research that was actually done. I am sure the reporter didn't understand 99% of what was being explained so everything was broken down to the very basics to give a very general understanding. That is why I said I would also love to see the full research article. If it is published in a peer reviewed journal all method used must be described in detail, as well as all results. I have had my research published in the past, so I am familiar with the process.

As to polling numbers etc. Those numbers are nowhere near high enough to statistically accurately represent the population they say they do. Statistical process control is a very confusing science all of its own. It is used to determine just how much sampling is necessary to give an accurate determination of the entire "batch". Almost no one uses anywhere near a high enough sample rate, especially when they want to apply the results to the entire human population.

This study was not intended to be the end all be all determination. It is a start, just scratching the surface of one area of the very new science of neurobiology.
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Thank you for that post, Denise, that was extremely interesting and educational!
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