Hi everyone,
First, thanks in advance. This forum is an amazing resource!
I have two 3-year old cats (brothers). My sister (who lives with me) and I raised them *not* to sleep with us. We close our doors at night and it has been this way from the minute we brought them home at age 11-weeks to now. Of the two cats, one of them is *very* attached to me, and has been so since the beginning. He's also very attached to my bedroom as well (perhaps since it has my smell) and he has always clearly considered it "his" room, but he has never protested at night.
Recently, there have been a lot of life changes. I'm home less (longer work hours and new fiancee, about to get married) and sleeping less in my place and more at my fiancee's, but I still give the cats ton of love, attention, and play time. The last few times we've slept at my house, the needy cat, when he hears the slightest movement in my room (like one of us turning over in our sleep), he's at the door meowing and crying. My fiancee and I are light sleepers, so this is really killing our sleep. It's also really preventing my fiancee from bonding with the cats since she's really ticked about this.
I never open the door when he does this, since I don't want to encourage it. When I do finally get up in the morning to my alarm and open the door, he rushes into the bedroom and is aggressively affectionate, purring and marking and rubbing against me as if he's been wandering the desert for years without having been loved.
Any advice? This may become even more important soon since after our upcoming wedding we're going to be moving into a new home. Thank you!!!
- Garris
First, thanks in advance. This forum is an amazing resource!
I have two 3-year old cats (brothers). My sister (who lives with me) and I raised them *not* to sleep with us. We close our doors at night and it has been this way from the minute we brought them home at age 11-weeks to now. Of the two cats, one of them is *very* attached to me, and has been so since the beginning. He's also very attached to my bedroom as well (perhaps since it has my smell) and he has always clearly considered it "his" room, but he has never protested at night.
Recently, there have been a lot of life changes. I'm home less (longer work hours and new fiancee, about to get married) and sleeping less in my place and more at my fiancee's, but I still give the cats ton of love, attention, and play time. The last few times we've slept at my house, the needy cat, when he hears the slightest movement in my room (like one of us turning over in our sleep), he's at the door meowing and crying. My fiancee and I are light sleepers, so this is really killing our sleep. It's also really preventing my fiancee from bonding with the cats since she's really ticked about this.
I never open the door when he does this, since I don't want to encourage it. When I do finally get up in the morning to my alarm and open the door, he rushes into the bedroom and is aggressively affectionate, purring and marking and rubbing against me as if he's been wandering the desert for years without having been loved.
Any advice? This may become even more important soon since after our upcoming wedding we're going to be moving into a new home. Thank you!!!
- Garris