Today would have been my parent's 30th Anniversary...

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Today would have been 30 years and on June 19th my mom would have been 53. This is still all so depressing and I'm still very angry at what happened. I feel like no one can compare to her (to be truthful, no one ever could) so I don't really have anyone I can really ask advice about. She was one of a kind.

There are still days I wake up and wonder why I even bother with anything. Nothing will ever be the same and she will never come back. So here is to 30 long years.
 
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it's going to take some time before it gets any easier... just do your best & talk to us when you need to!
 
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i'm sorry for your loss and I know things can be hard when you lose someone that close to you but you just have to keep in mind that would they want you to live with all the sadness? Plus i'm very certain that there are people in your life that love you to bits and if anything were to happen to you that they just might feel the same way you're feeling right now.

Maybe you should try talking to someone about how you feel and there might be something that can help you deal with these feelings
 
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I`m sorry your hurting so bad but I bet your mum wouldn`t want you to give in to the sadness. Is there something you could do in her memory? I don`t really know what to suggest. When my mum died I just pretended it hadn`t happened and that was a bad idea.

I hope you feel better soon
 
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Originally Posted by Mer636

i'm sorry for your loss and I know things can be hard when you lose someone that close to you but you just have to keep in mind that would they want you to live with all the sadness? Plus i'm very certain that there are people in your life that love you to bits and if anything were to happen to you that they just might feel the same way you're feeling right now.

Maybe you should try talking to someone about how you feel and there might be something that can help you deal with these feelings
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I don't have too many friends and no family close by at all. So once my dad goes, that's it. Unless I get married sometime in my life.

Originally Posted by Jaffacake

I`m sorry your hurting so bad but I bet your mum wouldn`t want you to give in to the sadness. Is there something you could do in her memory? I don`t really know what to suggest. When my mum died I just pretended it hadn`t happened and that was a bad idea.

I hope you feel better soon
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I've got some ideas of what to do to remember her. I'm still looking around to see what I want to do.

Originally Posted by calico2222

oh hon, this is going to be a hard month for you I'm sure. How is your dad handling today? If you need to talk you know where to find me.
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I don't really know how he is doing. He doesn't visit the cemetery as often as I do and doesn't talk about it, so I wonder if I'm really doing any better than he is.
 
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I know how you feel. June 27th would have been 43 years for my Mom and Dad. She died from Breast Cancer at age 54. i bet you feel cheated also. Its been 8 years and I still feel that way. If you need any one to talk to just pm me.
 
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No one will ever replace her,but hopefully in your life there will be segments of her all around you. If you dont have anyone directly close to you, come here and talk about her and keep her memory alive talking about her and your feelings. I am so sorry that you are even having to face this, I really am.
 
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well you just made a friend in canada
i'll be your friend and if you ever need someone to talk to there is me and also everyone here at TCS that will listen to you
I know it's not the same as face to face but we're here to help
 
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