Am I bad for this??

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Originally Posted by Mz Kitty

Yikes, Calico, we DO think alike. Working at Subway, drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes don't necessarily make you a bad mother.
I don't think that makes you a bad mother either. But there are other factors...they are just irresponsible. Volunteering at an animal shelter you develope a feel for who the good pet owners are. It has nothing to do with intelligence or income level....its more of a character thing....
 

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Originally Posted by SportBikeMike

I don't think that makes you a bad mother either. But there are other factors...they are just irresponsible. Volunteering at an animal shelter you develope a feel for who the good pet owners are. It has nothing to do with intelligence or income level....its more of a character thing....
I get it now. I hope the kitty finds a good home.
 

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I don't think that it is your right to say weather they should have a cat or not. First of all I don't think there is anyway for you to know for sure that they are not going to take care of it. Besides that even if they did end up getting rid of it in the long run at least it did have a home which hopefully it will be loved at for awhile. There are so many homeless cats out there and there isn't enough homes for them. I would rather see one in a home then killed. I don't know you or them so I don't know the whole story however I do have a few friends are poor and spend money on booze smokes and drugs and they still take care of there cats and love them more then many people that do not spend there money on those types of things. I think you should give them a chance and if something happens maybe you can help them find another good home and remind them kindly what happened to their last cat if they ever try to get another.
 

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Do what your instincts tell you. We can argue all day about whether or not stupid, trashy people can be good parents but you are the one that knows them. I would lie… and I have lied. I took in a stray, fixed him up (he was in extremely bad state) one month later the owner called me and I told them I gave him away to a friend, who gave him to the SPCA. Really heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s living at my vet technicianâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s house getting spoiled to the point where this Tomcat is now a little princess.

I would lie. The most important thing a person has to go by in life is their instincts. What if something happens to this cat? There really is no harm in lying. As someone said though.. what if they get another one? Sad story =(

True its better to have a home then not but not always. I have seen first hand what irresponsible people can do to their cats. Sounds like the same type of people I knew. Had parties, people would blow the cats supers all night (blow marijuana in their face), give him alcohol, the cat would be left home alone for weekends. Home alone all night, sometimes too lazy to go get food for him. I eventually took the cat and gave him away.

Good luck to you and this poor baby.
 

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Yeah and these same kind of immature, impulsive, self-indulgent and irresponsible people reproduce, too. From what you describe, I would feel sorry for any small, helpless living creature in their possession.
 

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Originally Posted by SportBikeMike

Calico2222, its hard to explain, you would just have to meet these people. I can't see them settling down because of a pet.....they have parties all the time over there and like I said they always out on that bike (Shane actually has two small kids from previous relationship but he only sees them every other weekend). Its just my gut feeling....
Like I said hon, I was playing devil's advocate. If you think the kitten is in danger, or won't be taken care of then do anything you can to keep her out of their hands. I don't know them and you do, so do what your gut is telling you.
 
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Thanks everyone for their input. I'm still hoping that after 10 days when I inform them they have to come to the pet store and fill out all this paperwork to get their cat back, that they won't show-up. This is possible....they are very low effort people. And it sounds sad....but I'm not 100% sure they know how to write. I've sent text messages to Shane...and he never texts back. Makes you wonder....
 

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I hope that whats best for the kitten comes into play in every one's minds and the poor little cutie doesn't get the short end of life's stick
 

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There are groups here that pick up roaming cats if the weather is bad. Collar or not. They neuter and spay them. There are others that keep the cat and consider the owners negligent. They take them to be adopted out or to live in a sanctuary. During the winter they are out everyday and night looking for cats.

One woman keeps traps in her vehicle with bait at all times.

So what you are doing is not all that extreme. Think of it as helping them help themselves.
 

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Originally Posted by SportBikeMike

Thanks everyone for their input. I'm still hoping that after 10 days when I inform them they have to come to the pet store and fill out all this paperwork to get their cat back, that they won't show-up. This is possible....they are very low effort people. And it sounds sad....but I'm not 100% sure they know how to write. I've sent text messages to Shane...and he never texts back. Makes you wonder....
A loop hole for your conscience. Text Shane now that he has to be at the pet store in 10 days to pick up the kitten or it will be adopted out. Then leave it in his hands. When they don't show up, put the kitten up for adoption. If they can't remember to reply to you, what makes you think they're going to remember to go to the pet store in 10 days??
 
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Originally Posted by Sweets

A loop hole for your conscience. Text Shane now that he has to be at the pet store in 10 days to pick up the kitten or it will be adopted out. Then leave it in his hands. When they don't show up, put the kitten up for adoption. If they can't remember to reply to you, what makes you think they're going to remember to go to the pet store in 10 days??
Thats exactly the strategy I was gonna use Sweets! I'm just waiting until I know the exact date when the kitty will be available....then I'll text them. Considering they couldn't even be removed from their air-conditioned couch to bring the cat to the store to begin worth....I doubt they'll inconvenience themeselves to actually come pick her up. At least thats what I'm hoping....
 

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Well, theoretically, they could be good pet owners but what about those 2 dogs (a pit bull, no less) and the kids he doesn't see much? Isn't it his mother that took the dogs and got rid of them and dumped the cat on them? Forgive me if I got the facts wrong.

So, all that said, I think that everything you are doing is fine and in good conscience. Telling non-truths in the interest of well-being is okay by me.

Can you take the kitty and tell them that you have become so attached to it because I think you may have. You could offer to bring the kitty to them to play. You know, every other weekend, the ones when the kids are not there?
 
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Originally Posted by butzie

Well, theoretically, they could be good pet owners but what about those 2 dogs (a pit bull, no less) and the kids he doesn't see much? Isn't it his mother that took the dogs and got rid of them and dumped the cat on them? Forgive me if I got the facts wrong.

So, all that said, I think that everything you are doing is fine and in good conscience. Telling non-truths in the interest of well-being is okay by me.

Can you take the kitty and tell them that you have become so attached to it because I think you may have. You could offer to bring the kitty to them to play. You know, every other weekend, the ones when the kids are not there?
Your facts are correct butzie. They had two dogs and the story is the mom came and dumped them. Although one time when they had the lab, I was over there on the motorcycle to meet them for a ride. When we took off....the dog came running after us, and they kept going. They didn't bother to tie him up or anything. So I'll take their story with a grain of salt.

I only had the kitten for a brief time...but I could see how someone could easily get attached. Not only is she very cute but playful with alot of personality. It would be a shame if she didn't end up with a good owner (ie someone besides them).
 

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Mike, your heart is definitely leading you in the right direction. That kitten is soooo cute - but how would they feel about her when she hits that "teen" stage, and, then a cat. Sometimes, seeing the cute "puppy and/or kitten" stage, makes people think of the animal as toy and even though that pet matures into a spectacular dog or cat, the "toyness" is gone, and the people lose interest

Sending prayers and vibes that the kitten finds a very deserving family and that the irresponsible couple is too lazy to go out and get another dog or cat
 
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Originally Posted by catsknowme

Mike, your heart is definitely leading you in the right direction. That kitten is soooo cute - but how would they feel about her when she hits that "teen" stage, and, then a cat. Sometimes, seeing the cute "puppy and/or kitten" stage, makes people think of the animal as toy and even though that pet matures into a spectacular dog or cat, the "toyness" is gone, and the people lose interest

Sending prayers and vibes that the kitten finds a very deserving family and that the irresponsible couple is too lazy to go out and get another dog or cat
Catsknowme, you read my mind. Thats exactly what I think will happen. The girl (Krissy) does act like she likes the kitten.....but thats because she is little and cute and new. I'd bet anything, when she gets bigger and isn't so cute (hard to imagine) and the newness wears off, they'll throw her outside.
 
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Whew....took me awhile to find this thread. Anyway, I wanted to update everyone on the situation. I last heard from these people 1 week after I took the kitten (3-4 weeks ago), they asked where the kitten was and I called the lady at the shelter and she said its taking longer because the cat doesn't weigh 2 lbs. (thats the minimum weight they'll spay them). I texted Shane and told him the situation. Well, I haven't heard from them since! You'd think if they cared about the cat at all they would have called or came out to PetSmart on Saturday when I'm there at the pet adoption with the shelter. But nothing!! So apparently they've forgotten all about the cat. I still don't know if the kitten is ready but I'm gonna call and find out tomorrow. For what its worth I'll send him a text message when she's ready (I guess....).
 

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Stupid people...
...(after to read all your thread my friend)...
how can exist that kind of people!...


God Bless your heart my friend!...

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For you can find soon a home for this lovely calico....
 
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