Hey everyone. I have a huge problem. im warning you that this is probably going to be pretty long.
I have been with the same guy for 5 years. i met him in school when i was 16. i fell in love with him right away... & weve been together ever since. our relationship has not always been the best. we started having trust issues, which i kno is never good for a relationship. my family wanted me to leave him, but i couldnt do it, i loved him too much. i lost alot of friends and family for him & i have always done everything i could to make him happy. i am a good girlfriend. some of you may remember back in january i started a thread about me getting hit by a truck. i have been recovering pretty well... very well actually for the injuries that i had. i have been going to physical therapy twice a week for a couple of months, and at one point this guy came up to me && started talking to me. we talk when he is there, on thursdays. nothing that my boyfriend should have to worry about. well my boyfriend found out about it & is really mad. really mad. he HATES it when i talk to guys he KNOWS, so of course he isnt going to like me talking to someone he doesnt know. i know i know, this is not healthy. & usually, the accuser is guilty of something. but all things aside, weve been through things like this, most of the time he is the one that is wrong, not me. but it always blows over, & we stop fighting about it. but this, this is something that made him snap. & now he wants me to leave.
now if i leave, im really worried about monster. back in the fall i had to move in with my brother, & of course i would never leave him behind. while i was there he was a totally different cat. this house is all he has ever known. since he was 4 weeks old. he is such a friendly cat, if a stranger comes in the house he is the first one there to check them out. when i was staying with my brother, he hissed at EVERYONE, except me. that isnt how he normally behaves. i know it was bc he was stressed out from the move & being in a strange place with strange people. if i leave, we will go to my moms. bc my mom has a cat, who is really mean to other animals, monster will have to always stay in my room. its big, but i dont like the idea of having to keep him in there all the time. & the worst, is that i will have to separate monster from mittens. she will have to stay. i cant take them both. im really worried about monster if i move. i could leave him behind, everyone here loves him, but i couldnt do that. i raised him, and i cant part with him.
WHAT should i do??? i really dont know. ive been trying to reason with my boyfriend about this but he isnt budging. the way he is acting is like he is really done with me, & i have no clue if i should keep trying, or if i should give up and leave. his aunt was telling me earlier that it isnt worth it. why bother, when if he does forgive me for something stupid that i did, our relationship will still not get better. but i just feel like if i leave im leaving a part of me behind, & i dont think i will be happy. but in my heart, i know things wont change. he will still be controlling, & he will still continue to do whatever he wants, & not care what i think about it. but i love him, & my heart is torn.
I have been with the same guy for 5 years. i met him in school when i was 16. i fell in love with him right away... & weve been together ever since. our relationship has not always been the best. we started having trust issues, which i kno is never good for a relationship. my family wanted me to leave him, but i couldnt do it, i loved him too much. i lost alot of friends and family for him & i have always done everything i could to make him happy. i am a good girlfriend. some of you may remember back in january i started a thread about me getting hit by a truck. i have been recovering pretty well... very well actually for the injuries that i had. i have been going to physical therapy twice a week for a couple of months, and at one point this guy came up to me && started talking to me. we talk when he is there, on thursdays. nothing that my boyfriend should have to worry about. well my boyfriend found out about it & is really mad. really mad. he HATES it when i talk to guys he KNOWS, so of course he isnt going to like me talking to someone he doesnt know. i know i know, this is not healthy. & usually, the accuser is guilty of something. but all things aside, weve been through things like this, most of the time he is the one that is wrong, not me. but it always blows over, & we stop fighting about it. but this, this is something that made him snap. & now he wants me to leave.
now if i leave, im really worried about monster. back in the fall i had to move in with my brother, & of course i would never leave him behind. while i was there he was a totally different cat. this house is all he has ever known. since he was 4 weeks old. he is such a friendly cat, if a stranger comes in the house he is the first one there to check them out. when i was staying with my brother, he hissed at EVERYONE, except me. that isnt how he normally behaves. i know it was bc he was stressed out from the move & being in a strange place with strange people. if i leave, we will go to my moms. bc my mom has a cat, who is really mean to other animals, monster will have to always stay in my room. its big, but i dont like the idea of having to keep him in there all the time. & the worst, is that i will have to separate monster from mittens. she will have to stay. i cant take them both. im really worried about monster if i move. i could leave him behind, everyone here loves him, but i couldnt do that. i raised him, and i cant part with him.
WHAT should i do??? i really dont know. ive been trying to reason with my boyfriend about this but he isnt budging. the way he is acting is like he is really done with me, & i have no clue if i should keep trying, or if i should give up and leave. his aunt was telling me earlier that it isnt worth it. why bother, when if he does forgive me for something stupid that i did, our relationship will still not get better. but i just feel like if i leave im leaving a part of me behind, & i dont think i will be happy. but in my heart, i know things wont change. he will still be controlling, & he will still continue to do whatever he wants, & not care what i think about it. but i love him, & my heart is torn.