The most difficult and heart breaking decision i've had to make in a long time...

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Originally Posted by calico2222

I agree this is the right solution. Like everyone said, you aren't rehoming her...you are taking her back to what she thinks of as "home". Moving can be hard on cats. Some deal with it fine, others just never settle in. I think she will be much happier at your mom's. And, I doubt that it's because she loves your mom more...she probably just misses her favorite napping spot or hidey hole. She misses what she is used to.

And, I wouldn't worry too much about the puppy. Puppies are looking for their place in the pack, and cats have a way of putting them in their place REAL quick!

I know you will miss her, but you know she is going to a good home, and you are doing what will make her happiest.
Nikki, there is some truth to that "creature of habit" phrase. Besides, you are giving Jasmine and your mom a trial period.

Just remember, like we all do, that you are a great person and really good to your pets.
 

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Nikki, it's obvious how much you love Jasmine and only want the best for her. To me, that means this is the right decision.
 

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Nikki dont' feel bad. She will be much happier I bet being back with your mom. Bless your mom's heart for doing this


It will all be okay
 

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Originally Posted by kluchetta

I absolutely do think you are making the best decision, especially since it IS so hard for you - it's akin to making the decision to euthanize, by putting the kitty's needs before our own.

But it's really a happy ending for her, especially as she'll be with your mom!
and for Jasmine.
i'm sending that Jasmine does well in her new home... &
& to you to help you feel better...
 
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Thank you guys, i can't possibly tell everyone how much i appreciate the support right now. It's been really hard for me to come to this decision- but in my heart i do feel like it's the right choice.

Tonight is the night she goes to my mom's house. My mom is going to pick her up after she gets off work tonight so that she has the entire weekend to spend with her and help her adjust. (my mom is great
) If Jasmine does ok during the next week or so while Colin and I are out of town and continues to do well, we are going to plan on my keeping her. If not though, i'm going to bring her back here to my house. I'm also going to be keeping an eye on Isabella to see if she does alright with Jasmine gone. If not i might just bring Jasmine back here, i don't really know what i'll do in that situation.
 

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the good thing from the situation is that you know that she will be well taken care of and although she won't be in your home you can always go visit your mum and her
 

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Oh that is so heartbreaking! I can only imagine how much you must be hurting to have to do this, but it's wonderful that your mom will be able to take her and she will be in a loving, happy home. It really does sound like the best decision for her and for you.
 
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she's sound asleep in her crate right now snuggled up with her blue blanket
I'm going to miss her being here soo much
my mom should be heading over here for her in a few hours.

i'm going to go and visit her tomorrow and see how she's going. please pray it all goes well!!!

i've got all of her favorite toys, blankets, her fav. litter pan (when she uses it!), food, treats, etc ready for her so that she feels a little more comfortable. i've also got the feliway difuser going here for my gang that's remaining behind and one for my mom for when jasmine goes to her house to ease the transition a bit. i also told my mom about putting vanilla extract on her and the others to help ease the transitions a little. i'm hoping it all goes ok...
 
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She's on her way
I'm going to try and hold it together and not cry.
 

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I am sure you arew right to do what is best for Jamine. It is not as if you are abandoning her - only giving her a chance to be happy again. You can visit her, check her progress and you know she will be loved. I hope it works out well, for her and for the others.
 

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Prayers that Jasmine goes back to her old self at her old home and that Isabella will be ok, too. Hugs to you Nikki, you are a good Mom and will always do what is right for your babies, no matter how much it hurts you
 
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Well, Jasmine is officially on her way back to her grandma's house now. My mom just left a few minutes ago.

She came over earlier and spent about an hour and a half with me -she brought over some dinner and we talked about Jasmine and what to do/etc what she likes/dislikes. She left with all of her favorite blankets and toys and her cranberry treats. I also got a few pictures of her before she left. That helps a bit.

When my mom came over and Jasmine heard her talking (at that point i had her out running around the living room) she ran right over to my mom and started "talking" to her. That right there made me feel like i was doing the right thing. Her eyes lit up when she saw my mom and you can just tell how much they love each other. I feel better about her going back to my mom's after seeing that. I feel like maybe it's the right decision.

We're still going to just try it for a few weeks and see how she adjust as well as how Isabella adjusts away from her. Hopefully all will be ok and they'll do well. I'm keeping my fingers crossed i made the right choice. I know she'll be spoiled rotten and loved VERY much there (my mom adores her) - i just hate that Jasmine won't be here with me to snuggle and watch tv or to see me when i walk through the door everyday. That stings a bit. But at least i can go over to my mom's and see her as much as i want - that will be good.
 

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it will all work out in the end. Sending you some good luck vibes
If you miss snuggling with her, you could go and sleep over at your moms with her!

At least you have your other babies to hug as well, so that will help ease the pain.

 
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Just a little update:

I talked to my mom a few times last night and then again this morning. She said Jasmine is actually doing pretty well so far. Of course my mom called me from Petsmart where she was shopping for all sorts of catnip and cat toys
I think it might just work ok after all
 

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I have been following your journey and it seems as though Jasmine will be alright. She will probably love seeing you when you visit.
I hope you are feeling better.
Keep us posted about how other cats are doing.
 
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