Most kittens will learn what is acceptable by your reaction. Can't promise a snuggler, going thru that myself right now. In the last 3 years I went from having 4 VERY snuggly cats to 4 rambunctious kittens. It is very hard when you are used to them living to be near you, to wanting to be elsewhere.
This is a sort of sad/happy story:
My Boomer was a month shy of 21 when he had a stroke and passed 3 days later. His girlfriend Piglet was 19 and went 3 months later of what we all decided was a broken heart. They both died in my arms, literally. I was heartbroken and so was my daughter. Within days of them going I got a call from the guys on my plant floor that a wild mama cat had left a barely 3 wk old kitten in one of the rooms. I was elected to bring that baby home. The next day the same guys kept hearing more meowing and after searching everywhere, the same mama had brought two more babies in and left them in an old file cabinet. I now had 3 barely 3 wkers. It was just what I and my daughter needed to fill that hole in our hearts. I found homes for two when they were old enough and kept the first one that showed up.
A couple months later, my 13 yr old male got a quick moving kidney infection and died. Two weeks later, I got a call from a friend about a kitten that wandered into her office and needed someone to catch it. This kitten looked really similar to my newest kitty, both are torties. Knowing my hubby was not wanting any more kittens, my daughter and I formulated a plan. We called her Figment (of my hubby's imagination) we thought he might not notice. lol He did but, she's still here. Three months later my 13 yr old's sister got cancer. They had both been feral litter mates. She passed in my arms as well and the last of my really snuggly ones. Within a month I got a call from my neighbor about a little boy kitten that had been dumped and needed a home. Now we have Buddy. lol Then last Halloween weekend I heard some neighborhood kids screaming and holloring outside and went out to see what was going on. I see them chasing something and throwing rocks. Out of nowhere, a little black streak came racing towards me and didn't stop till it was on my shoulder. sick with kitty flu and about 5 wks old. That's how we ended up with Pumpkin. I also have two others that are 9 and 14 but they are only snuggly in spurts. My hubby is conviced that when we have less than 6 cats the vacancy sign goes on and they replenish themselves. I didn't even leave the yard for the last one lol.
My new babies are now 7 mos, 10 mos. 1 yr, and 2 yrs old. they are starting to get snugglier so I hope at least one is a good cuddler in the group. My hubby's puppy (his vengance on the sudden kitten population lol) has taken over the cat's spot on the bed, it's not the same and I have great hopes the kittens will again rule the roost.
I do know what you are going through and have been wondering the same thing myself. So far I see lots of signs that I will get a cuddler yet, it just may take time.