Question for the guys

I was just curious if you let other people see you tear up or cry. Do you try to play it off by saying " I got something in my eye" or something like that. My DH doesn't care if other people see him cry. But you know there's guys out there that act all hard and are scared to show people they are human.

My DH doesn't cry in public usually, but if he were to cry, he wouldn't hide it. Heck, I don't hide it myself. My boss is used to my crying fits .... especially before my lay-off with my old job.

i dont cry, have not in years and years.

Real men don't cry!!! at least not where someone can see them

The last time I cried was in the 6th grade. I've never cried since then. When I feel it coming on, I stop myself immediately... change the topic, go outside, whatever it takes.

Ok, I'm not a guy, but I'm going to answer.

If I'm sad or happy and find myself crying, I don't hide it. Why? It's an emotion. We all have them....even the guys. And I prefer if a guy is not afraid to show his emotions either. It's NOT a sign of weakness. It's actually a sign of strength because it shows that they are comfortable with who they are and can accept that they aren't made of stone and that there is no reason to act like it.

Being able to show emotions is a very attractive quality in a man.

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

Being able to show emotions is a very attractive quality in a man.

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it says in the male code of conduct book.
no crying allowed. Its listed as part of the plot to turn western men into half women

if one must cry, they must go to some place alone.
if unable to find that space, one must punch wall, drywall is best, followe by wood, bricks. the rest of the list gets worse...

also i would suggest not punching car windows.
*you may need to get your hand stitched back togther again,
* truck window, cost to much money to replace.
*err, not that i would know these things.

I have seen my FH cry twice. Once was in Australia at his party. He started panicking about moving to Europe and leaving his family ect.

The other time was actually last week he just shed a tear about the baby

Nah, don't cry, usually. At least, I don't think my wife's ever seen it!

Originally Posted by fastnoc

Real men don't cry!!!

at least not where someone can see them

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But it's ok in front of wives & family!

In the almost 7 years I've know my hubby I've only seen him cry/tear up twice. The first time was after I took him back the last time... it was very emotional for us both. The second time was last year at his grandmother's funeral.

Originally Posted by theimp98

it says in the male code of conduct book.
no crying allowed...

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No, it says no crying in baseball. Didn't you ever see that movie?

I am not a guy but speaking about my Dh, I have only seen him truly cry once and that was when we lost Marbles last year. He explained that usually he puts his emotions in a "box" and puts it away till he can deal with it a little at a time. When Marbles had to be put to sleep it was such a shock that he did not have time to try to pack it away.
I will see him tear up during a sad movie but he will try to cover it up.

Actually I started crying this morning when I realized I had to go back to work...


Seriously, its allright to cry in certain situations- funerals, death of a pet, etc.

The only time I have seen my BF cry is when - and rightly so- we had to put down his dear, beloved cat, Cato. He had that cat for almost 19 years!!

He doesn't cry at sad movies or anything like that...

I think it is very endearing when a guy can show his emotions I think I saw my ex cry a few times; when his uncle died, when his Grandma died, when our cat Jericho died. He even cried at our wedding, but not when we split though

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to be complete honest, I don´t cry... I don´t why but when the hard moments are next to you, the mind fly so far away looking to find a solution about it... ...is like a internal mechanic that start when is coming the moment...
Of course when my cats dye ( when I was a teenager ) of course I cry, even now I can´t coincibe to live without Milky & Catu, but someday they and I will going to visit the bridge...

I need to say this.

I don't cry. In public or private. But it has nothing to do with being 'macho'. I just don't feel an urge to cry. I get sad, extremely sad, but it doesn't prompt a crying response.

I don't know, maybe some men are just wired differently. It's not that I'm trying to hold it back, it's just not there.

Well I can honestly say with hand on heart, I shed a few tears when we lost Amber. I will tear up a bit ( not all the time) if I see something emotional on tv, for instance somebody doing something good in return for someone, say a child who has had a real bad life, or maybe something nice for someone who has cared for others and not recieved anything in return. No I dont consider myself a girl. a lot of men put on a front, when you are happy you show it, so why not when you feel sad? If you ask me its when you bottle up emotions, you start to put your brain and body under pressure, its the same as talking if you have a problem. Get it out in the open get it sorted and move on

I have a few times. One was at the funeral of an Uncle who I was very close to, the funeral of a cousin I was close to and when I had to put Midnight to sleep after her long fight with CRF. The latter lasted for days.