Hello all, I have recently moved in with my girlfriend who owns two cats, a tabby and a siamese. Before I met her, I was by no means a cat person. But after spending time with the Tabby (Cate) my entire opinion about cats changed, she was nervous at first but after a month or two she warmed up and is an exceedingly sweet cat who I have become deeply attached to. She is the older of the two and had a harsh life until my girlfriend rescued her, she is now the coolest cat I have ever been in contact with. The problem is the siamese, (Amy). I'm told she was fairly normal until my girlfriends room mate moved in and spoiled her, allowing her to get away with murder and basically destroying any boundries the cat once respected... I wanted to read up on the animals so I could be involved and really care for them (yes litter and all) I know Siamese tend to be a little tempermental at times. She is not very social (at all) and I respect that, I don't want to force myself on the cat but she has taken to honestly just flat out hating me. She will hiss anytime I am near (like 5 or 6 feet away) gets very crabby with me when feeding her, or changing litter or sleeping at night. I understand my presence is change for her, but I would like to think I have made it as low stress as possible. She has now taken to deficating on the floor and couches. I don't want to punish her for it because I doubt she would get why she was in trouble. But I just don't know how to deal with a cat that violently hates me and causes all the trouble she can, when the Tabby is quite fine with my presence. I have grown to love both cats (even though Amy hates me) so I really want to find a way to make this better. My girlfriend fears I will hate Amy and ask her to give her away (which I wouldn't do, can't imagine asking her to give away the cat she raised from a baby) But what if we have a child in the future? I fear if her behavior isn't corrected she could hurt the child (or any children for that matter)... So I don't want to lose the cat but I want to lose her attitude. I have been as nice as possible, never getting in her way and trying not to be some kind of new father to her.
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5/20/08 at 11:44am