Hello all, new member here. Hope this is in the right forum...
I'm moving to Cleveland to start medical school in a little over a month. My girlfriend will be moving a few months after me, and in about a year we plan to move in together. We'll live separately for about nine months but we'll be in the same city. Since we plan to move in together, I am wondering if it is best to slowly being acclimating my cats to her cat.
I have two male cats. One is about a year and a half, the other is right around a year old. I got the older one first from my local shelter when he was less than a year old, and he had serious behavioral problems. He was extremely aggressive towards people. Eventually I concluded that he was simply not getting enough attention or exercise from the limited (hour or so) play time I was able to give him each day. I got a kitten shortly thereafter and was pleasantly surprised to see that he was very nurturing toward the younger cat. Over the last year or so he has also become remarkably more friendly towards humans. The two cats like to play together and they play *very* rough, like two small dogs jumping on and wrestling with one another.
The younger cat is very affectionate towards humans but very distrustful of other cats. He likes his older brother, but when I take him to my parents' house (down in rural IL, where there are 5 other cats) he is very much on edge. The older cat, however, LOVES other cats, and always rolls over on his back to play with my parents' cats, few of whom are interested.
Okay, to recap: older cat dislikes humans, loves cats. Younger cat loves humans, dislikes cats.
Both of my cats have been around my girlfriend's cat on several occasions, and both were friendly toward her at the time. Her cat absolutely hates my cats. She hisses, runs, and hides every time she sees them. Also, my girlfriend's cat is declawed. Both of my cats have their claws and I refuse to have them declawed (although I have ordered some Soft Paws for them for when we move to the new house).
Does anyone have any tips on how to acclimate my girlfriend's cat towards my cats and vice versa? I know this post has been a little bit all over the place, and if anyone has any specific questions I'll do my best to answer them. I'm concerned that my girlfriend's cat will always hate my cats and that our living situation will be tense because of it.
Thanks!
I'm moving to Cleveland to start medical school in a little over a month. My girlfriend will be moving a few months after me, and in about a year we plan to move in together. We'll live separately for about nine months but we'll be in the same city. Since we plan to move in together, I am wondering if it is best to slowly being acclimating my cats to her cat.
I have two male cats. One is about a year and a half, the other is right around a year old. I got the older one first from my local shelter when he was less than a year old, and he had serious behavioral problems. He was extremely aggressive towards people. Eventually I concluded that he was simply not getting enough attention or exercise from the limited (hour or so) play time I was able to give him each day. I got a kitten shortly thereafter and was pleasantly surprised to see that he was very nurturing toward the younger cat. Over the last year or so he has also become remarkably more friendly towards humans. The two cats like to play together and they play *very* rough, like two small dogs jumping on and wrestling with one another.
The younger cat is very affectionate towards humans but very distrustful of other cats. He likes his older brother, but when I take him to my parents' house (down in rural IL, where there are 5 other cats) he is very much on edge. The older cat, however, LOVES other cats, and always rolls over on his back to play with my parents' cats, few of whom are interested.
Okay, to recap: older cat dislikes humans, loves cats. Younger cat loves humans, dislikes cats.
Both of my cats have been around my girlfriend's cat on several occasions, and both were friendly toward her at the time. Her cat absolutely hates my cats. She hisses, runs, and hides every time she sees them. Also, my girlfriend's cat is declawed. Both of my cats have their claws and I refuse to have them declawed (although I have ordered some Soft Paws for them for when we move to the new house).
Does anyone have any tips on how to acclimate my girlfriend's cat towards my cats and vice versa? I know this post has been a little bit all over the place, and if anyone has any specific questions I'll do my best to answer them. I'm concerned that my girlfriend's cat will always hate my cats and that our living situation will be tense because of it.
Thanks!