Getting stressed already

I am getting stressed out with wedding plans already. We wanted to get married September 12, 2009 but it is taken everywhere. We found this place we love, but found out it will be about $18,000 just for the wedding, hall and food. We can't afford that.

We found a place we like for the ceremony and they only charge $213 to rent it but they wont take reservations for 2009 until July. We had decided to have the reception at the holiday inn but the lady messed up and got the date wrong and told us it was available but its not. We might have to get married August 8, 2009 because that seems to be the only date available and I really like the holiday inn and its not too expensive.

This just seems like so much work. I just want to get the park booked that we want the ceremony in and put the deposit on the hall. I can't wait to marry him, just right now it all seems like so much.

Aaaaw hun, you've still got plenty of time. We're getting married August 15th 2009 - though it looks like we'll be doing it legally on the 8th too, simply because our church can't marry us. Have you considered getting legally married before your "date" and then having a big blessing ceremony instead? I know it's not the same.... this is what we're doing - our choice of venue is perfect for us, but we can't be married there because Rune isn't baptised and I'm a Methodist, not Anglican. But the Arch Deacon is very open minded and offers a blessing ceremony where I can be given away in my wedding gown, we exchange rings and vows, can have all the bridesmaids and groomsmen and even have the church bells rung! We're going with this because this is how we are going to get the day we want to have - sure we'd already be married for the sake of legalities, but on the big day, it just means we can sit back and enjoy it because the tough stuff is already taken care of

I actually started by making our invitations and choosing my gown while we found our venue, just putting the time in to make some of the finer fiddly things actually takes your mind off the more stressful things. And when it comes down to it, by the time your venue IS booked, you've done a lot more than most brides have and you'll have less to stress over closer to the date - which is when you need to be relaxed so that you can concentrate on getting beautiful I hope it all works out though hun

I understand where your coming from, definately! We've only been engaged for a full day now And I'm already starting to put things together & try to figure out where to have things. I live 2.5 hours from my hometown, which is where we are going to have the wedding, because things here are so darn expensive We haven't picked a date yet, but we're shooting for spring/summer 09 - almost a year away

Right now I'm trying to enjoy the 'high' from being newly engaged, but I see the stress creeping up right around the corner

Originally Posted by babyharley

Right now I'm trying to enjoy the 'high' from being newly engaged, but I see the stress creeping up right around the corner

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I'm still newly engaged too, got engaged last Friday May 9. We started planning right away and the stress started right away. I am only stressed about the date because nothing seems to work and the date keeps having to get moved closer and closer and I keep wondering if we will have the money for it.

Originally Posted by catlover19

I'm still newly engaged too, got engaged last Friday May 9. We started planning right away and the stress started right away. I am only stressed about the date because nothing seems to work and the date keeps having to get moved closer and closer and I keep wondering if we will have the money for it.

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Awww, we are only engaged a few days apart, how fun

We haven't even got a date yet But we're keeping it fun & simple because we don't want to blow a lot of money or ask our parents for a lot of help either. We are doing a (hopefully) outdoors wedding w/ the reception at the lake where my parents are permenant campers in the new building they just built out there this year - its stunning! Super cheap too

The only thing I want to splurge on money wise, are photos, that means the most to me!

I refuse to get stressed. What's important is the fact that we are getting married - it doesn't really matter if the day is perfect or not - although that is a bonus. Of course we want certain things from the day, but the trick is to find a compromise. For example, we both wanted to get married in the church, but have opted for the blessing because even though it means we get married a little earlier, we can still have a big day. We have both Danish and English traditions we would like to take into consideration - Rune wanted to get married in the morning, with a small reception brunch for everyone and then a smaller get-together for the close family and friends which would include a sit-down meal. Because that would be too expensive, and my step-father can't handle being at all three, we opted to cut out the small reception and then just feed everyone. We're only having a small wedding party anyway, so why have too many things going on at once? We've also been able to cut down on some costs by making invitations; I'm going to bake our cake and yes, it will be three-tiered

I*m not paid enough to be stressed anyway.

I was JUST thinking that. I am already overwhelmed and its over a year away! We are thinking of June 27, next year..now I'm worried there won't be any places to book!

Hang in there At least we are going through it together

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

I was JUST thinking that. I am already overwhelmed and its over a year away! We are thinking of June 27, next year..now I'm worried there won't be any places to book!

Hang in there

At least we are going through it together

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Hopefully you can find somewhere. We have already changed the date 3 times and I am waiting to hear back about a different date or else we will be doing August 8, 2009. I just don't really want to get married 2 days after my birthday.

I've been engaged for a year and a half now and we are now financially stable enough to start planning. Our date is July 11,2009 and we have a few places in mind.

Don't stress! Wedding planning is supposed to be fun! Let me know if you need anything or need to talk

Originally Posted by catlover19

Hopefully you can find somewhere. We have already changed the date 3 times and I am waiting to hear back about a different date or else we will be doing August 8, 2009. I just don't really want to get married 2 days after my birthday.

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That would make things a bit stressful, I hope that you can finally settle on a date & start going forward with the planning

Maybe it's just me, but it seems like all the stress for a wedding is just too much. If I were to ever get married again, I would do it with a few friends, including our favorite pig cooking friend in the yard at dusk.
We attended our oldest and dearest friend's wedding last weekend, and as beautiful as it was, the thought of doing it for myself gives me the shivers. My SO was the best man, and wore a tux with tails and a tophat. The groom has waist length hair, and had had it nicely braided for the wedding, until the bride got wind of it, and out came the braid. She wore a beautiful dress, and her daughter was maid of honor. a small wedding by most standards, but still a bigger operation than I would want to take on.
Please don't think I am trying to throw cold water on anyone's joy. I wish all of you the best, with as little stress as possible, and many congratulations and good wishes. I hope all of you get the venues, dresses, and beautiful, sunny days you want.