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post #1 of 15
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Its too weird being 19 soon be 20 and having almost all my friends run off and either get married, become parents, or go to college. I don't want any of that atleast not now. I have other more important things on my mind. But it is wild to get wedding invitations. Or like I did a few days ago travel to see the birth of a friends child.

I live on my moms couch right now. I spend time with my band and play as many shows as we possibly can. And all three of them being older than be by atleast a few years they all relate to my out of placeness.

What are my goals? Don't have any major ones.

Lol I just don't fit in lmao. Im not a typical cat lover so I don't fit here. I don't care. It just amuses me
post #2 of 15
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Originally Posted by LoveMyCatsWSQ View Post
Lol I just don't fit in lmao. Im not a typical cat lover so I don't fit here. I don't care. It just amuses me


What's a "typical cat lover"?
post #3 of 15
Sounds like you don't exactly know what you want to do and are finding your way. It is probably a good thing that you are not getting married, are pregnant or in college. All of those things may come in time. Enjoy that you can stay at your mom's and love cats!
post #4 of 15
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What's a "typical cat lover"?
LOL honestly I have no idea. But people say I don't strike them as one. I don't get it either.
post #5 of 15
I am in the same boat, I am one of the only people I know that is not married or in a commited relationship.

I'm not sure if i'm a "typical" anything.... Like they say nobody's perfect, and i'm not perfect so I am perfect. *smile*
post #6 of 15
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LOL honestly I have no idea. But people say I don't strike them as one. I don't get it either.


Maybe they mean... you're not a... "cat lady".

I agree with Butzie.

I don't know anything about being married or having children, but college is much more enjoyable if you go in knowing what you want to get out of it (as opposed to going because it's "the thing to do" when you're out of high school). The important thing is to do what you're passionate about. That goes for anything, not just college.

If playing with your band is what you like, then play with your band! Do what makes you happy.
post #7 of 15
Been there, done that.
If you don't want to get married & have kids, then don't. Lots of us here on TCS haven't. Please don't have kids for all of the wrong reasons, like ...
1. Trying to hold onto a man & save a failing relationship
2. Because you can
3. To fill some other empty void in your life, like a lack of something else to look forward to, A.K.A. as in goals.
4. Because society wants to play the no-baby guilt trip on you & it's working.

If you're not a cat person, why are you here? For us to entertain & amuse you? Hope it's workin!
post #8 of 15
Just be yourself. No one else has the right to judge you.
I don't feel that I fit in much anywhere, but then I don't particularly try to. All the people I went to school with have kids now too, including my younger step sister who is pregnant with number three.

So what do you play - instrument and music genre wise? Are you just doing little gigs so far or have you been able to open for any more popular bands?
post #9 of 15
its ok to be the odd one out.. i am too, but in the opposite way... goals are... sorta coming together, but im 19 almost 20 with no friends
post #10 of 15
Hey, what's wrong with being the "odd one out"?

I've never been on a date. OK being single. No kids, ever, never no way no how. I live with my parents. Lotsa cats & dogs, do what I love & love what I do!

I'm me, this is who I am, & I'm happy. That's what counts!
post #11 of 15
Honey, you're 19. You're just starting to figure out who you are. I'm not being condescending, because I'm 38 and STILL trying to figure out who I am and what I want to be when I grow up. I went straight from high school to college, and now I wish I had taken some time to figure out what I wanted to do before I went. I ended up with an English degree and still plan to write a best seller....one of these days.

It IS strange when you start going to weddings and baby showers. That may be fine for them, but if that's not for you right now, don't sweat it. It isn't a competion. I was a bridesmaid at I don't know how many weddings, and I didn't get married until I was 35. You are actually being smart and putting your passion into something you love...your music.

Basically, don't judge your accomplishments based on your friends. You all have different goals so what is important to one isn't as important to another.
post #12 of 15
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Originally Posted by LoveMyCatsWSQ View Post
Lol I just don't fit in lmao. Im not a typical cat lover so I don't fit here. I don't care. It just amuses me
i am like one of 3 guys that post,
i like animals, and a hunter.

so you want to talk about not fitting in here?
post #13 of 15
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Originally Posted by calico2222 View Post
Honey, you're 19. You're just starting to figure out who you are. I'm not being condescending, because I'm 38 and STILL trying to figure out who I am and what I want to be when I grow up. I went straight from high school to college, and now I wish I had taken some time to figure out what I wanted to do before I went. I ended up with an English degree and still plan to write a best seller....one of these days.

It IS strange when you start going to weddings and baby showers. That may be fine for them, but if that's not for you right now, don't sweat it. It isn't a competion. I was a bridesmaid at I don't know how many weddings, and I didn't get married until I was 35. You are actually being smart and putting your passion into something you love...your music.

Basically, don't judge your accomplishments based on your friends. You all have different goals so what is important to one isn't as important to another.
I agree! It took me awhile to "find" myself too. I ended up with an English degree as well (sometimes I wish I had majored in something else, like computers or animals.) Right before I graduated I found a horse program offered at my univ. My favorite animal (along with cats But alas I've a degree in English. I do use it more now as an Admin Asst/web designer. So I guess it all worked out

But you'll find yourself in due time. Don't rush yourself. I'm married, but no kids and not sure if I want kids. My DH & I prefer to send time at home watching tv, reading, etc with our furbabies.

I guess my point to my long rambling post is: enjoy yourself!
post #14 of 15
I don't think there is such a thing as a "typical cat lover". People on here come from all sorts of wierd and wonderful backgrounds. Me for example - I became a mum at 17, I had a nervous breakdown shortly after and moved to Denmark - letting my son go to live with his dad. I write music and lyrics, sing, paint and draw and I'm working in a shelter where I care for ferals. It's not my ultimate goal either - I still don't quite know what that goal is, but I'm looking at training as a veterinary nurse. I'm 26 now.

But you'll find people here who work in offices or in animal care jobs, people who are creative and people who prefer a more scientific approach to life..... we cover both ends of the spectrum and everything in between. Trust me hun, you fit here

It is odd watching friends "grow up" faster than you do - but that's not really the case. You're still figuring out one end of the stick from the other - goodness I'm STILL trying to find out what I want from life and no matter that people are trying to pressure me into making a decision, I'll come to it in my own good time. I've only just decided to start selling my songs to a record label. Who knows, maybe I could make a little money out of it, maybe not.

Life's there to be enjoyed enjoy it while you can
post #15 of 15
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I agree! It took me awhile to "find" myself too. I ended up with an English degree as well (sometimes I wish I had majored in something else, like computers or animals.) Right before I graduated I found a horse program offered at my univ. My favorite animal (along with cats) But alas I've a degree in English. I do use it more now as an Admin Asst/web designer. So I guess it all worked out
reminds me of a song: What Do You Do With a B.A. in English?
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