Question for married/engaged people

I was returning from a week long trip. I was exhausted beyond belief. He picked me up at the airport with roses (sweet, but I'm just not a flowers kinda chick...they just die and I usually forget to look at them when they're alive). When we got home, and I just wanted to unwind, he did the whole "Will you marry me?" thing. Took me totally by surprise. I told him I had to think about it. Not exactly the answer he expected! We did get engaged, but it was a rough, rough time in my life with a horrible job and my mother's cancer coming back from remission. So we called it off because we both knew it wasn't the right time.

Fast forward about a year. We were in a jewelry store, kinda shopping for wedding rings (we were just looking), and I found the perfect one on clearance. Hey, I'm all about a bargain! So we got it. Right before the woman rang it up, I looked at him and said "So I guess we're officially engaged, huh?" And that was it. So much for the romance!

Well the first time around 20 odd years ago, I just popped the question. This time I booked it all up at the registry office, and put the paperwork in an envelope which was hidden in the Christmas tree. It was the last thing Linda expected to find thats for sure

While I'm not married, I have been engaged twice and proposed to a total of 3 times.

The first engagement was over the phone. My b/f and I had been living together for a couple of years and he was in sales and travelled. One day he called me from where he was and during our conversation he asked me to marry him.

I said yes. Never had a ring. We just knew we were going to be married.

We had a date scheduled for the following March, and I had some planning done, not much. But on Halloween he was out of town again, and I had been thinking long and hard about my decision. See he was very mean and cruel, not only physically, but emotionally and mentally and psychologically. Plus he was a compulsive liar. I finally woke up and realised that I didn't want to be married to him for the rest of my life and that I deserved better. So I broke up with him the same way he proposed...over the telephone. Only by that time our phone had been disconnected (it was in his name) because he hadn't paid the phone bill. I had a new phone connected under my name, but didn't give him the number, instead I called him from a pay phone at 7-11

The second time I was engaged I had a ring but no date. Again it was an informal proposal. I was at my b/f's house and he said something about "we should get married", I said "You think so?" and he said "yeah". I said "Ok" I didn't want a fancy expensive ring, so we went to a local pawn shop and found something smaller and cheap. I still have it. When we broke up I wanted to return it, but he didn't want it back. I don't wear it mainly because my fingers are too fat for it, but once I lose weight and it fits again, I'll wear it on an alternate finger.

The third proposal was from a guy I had been seeing for a couple years. He was separated but not divorced. His "ex" wife lived in another Province with a guy, but they hadn't gotten divorced because neither one wanted to be the one to initiate the divorce proceedings or pay the expense of a divorce! Anyway, he asked me to marry him one day while I was at his house. I told him no because he was not free to ask me that seeing that he was still technically married even though their relationship had ended some 5 years earlier and she had been living in another province for 3 of those years. So he asked me to move in with him and again I said no, for the same reason. We broke up not long after that. And I'm really glad that I hadn't uprooted myself and given up my apartment to move in with him.

I don't think a proposal has to be planned and formal. So long as the 2 of you love each other, even a quiet understanding that you are getting married is enough IMHO.

Originally Posted by Natalie_ca

I don't think a proposal has to be planned and formal. So long as the 2 of you love each other, even a quiet understanding that you are getting married is enough IMHO.

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Thats what I keep saying to him. He could spend all the money in the world (if that was possible) and propose or he could ask me while sitting on the couch watching tv and I would be just as happy either way. The proposal doesn't matter as much as knowing that I am going to spend the rest of my life with the person I love.

He wants to tell his mom before he proposes, but he doesn't know how to bring up the subject. I said he should just go up to her and show her the ring and tell her. It's not like she is going to say no you can't marry her.

He didn't. We sort of just decided when we were getting married and left it at that.

We just got engaged in february this year. We were away for a romantic weekend and he dropped to one knee while we were walking along the beach. He had then arranged for champagne and flowers to be in our hotel room when we got back. It was lovely!!

On the way home from a movie in the pouring rain, we were dancing goofily to the music playing fromthe speakers and he suddenly dropped down and proposed.

Hrmn... I gave my man the "it's now or never" line! We've been together for the best part of 6 years and he wasn't going to do anything about it, so I did! We were at home in front of the NFL on a sunday night (it's broadcast real late on this side of the pond) - 14th October last year..... just out of the blue during a commercial break, I just turned to him and said, "Right, you've had long enough to think about it, so it's now or never". He said "ok... so now it is then!" So no proposal....

But he did take me out to buy me a ring - not something he had to do, but he thought that seeing as it was official, it would be nice for me to have a pretty ring to go with it. We've chosen our wedding rings, and I'll be picking those up for us at the end of this month

With us I hounded him for a long time about when we were gonna get married. Finally I quit buggung him and it was more or less "Ya wanna go ahead and get married" kinda thing from him. and on 12-16-01 we had a small family wedding in my dads backyard.

It was Christmas Eve 1983 and we were at his parents house opening some presents. He left the room and came back with a shoebox sized wrapped gift. I guessed at this point what might be in that box and it was an engagement ring. He said "do you want it?"
Not the romantic phrase one wants to hear!! But I think he wanted this to happen in front of his parents as he is the baby of the family. The next day we drove to my parents and I kept the ring hidden from them for a few minutes at least before I sprang the news on them!!

Travis proposed at home on December 8,2006-while I was still in my PJs and he had gotten home from "Christmas shiopping".

Here's the link to my story with pics of the ring

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...hlight=Married

Reading some of the responses reminds me of when my step dad proposed to my mom. It was Christmas Day 1989 or 1990 (foggy on the year) anyways he had little notes with clues written on them. The last one said something along the lines of "Go look on the Wilma arnament on the tree". One Wilma was an engagement ring tied around Wilma's neck. Of course she said yes and the rest is history.

I have the dubious distinction of receiving the most unromantic proposal most people have ever heard.

We were living together, and had started talking about buying a house. I was in the shower shaving my legs at the time and he came into the bathroom and said "You know...I've been thinking...if we're going to buy a house we really ought to get married." I still have the scar where I cut myself. (I was in such shock I didn't respond...it was a couple weeks before he brought it up again. It took him another three months to talk me into it.)

There was no proposal here. We already knew we wanted to marry each other so we figured why ask the question when we both already knew the answer... Then we got married! It was wonderful!

I had to also do the it's now or never to my husband.. We have known each other for years as friends and years later became more than friends. I had been living with him for 2.5 years and finally asked him to make me an honest woman. He was cooking and when I asked, and the pots and pans crashed to the floor .... Geeze I thought he was never going to commit. We got married 2 months later.

We have the best marriage! We are best friends which makes it even better!!!!!

On the beach at sunset! I LOVE watching the sun set over the coast so it was perfect.

Here's the short version...lol...

We were actually down in Captiva Island vacationing with my family. We were supposed to be there all week (and I guess he was planning to propose there) but on the 2nd day my family verbally attacked him (calling him worthless, judgmental, saying he would abuse me in 5 years, etc etc) so we ended up leaving late at night, in a really bad storm 2 islands out from the coast, very scary. We drove as far as we could while staying awake and stopped at a Motel 6 for the night, lol. The next day we drove to a friend's house in Clearwater to stay there and go to that beach for the rest of our vacation. Well those next few days were horrible...all I could think about was him breaking up with me b/c of what my family did!! I was so scared! I guess everyday we went to the beach he waited for the sunset, but it kept raining and was too cloudy for a sunset. The last night there we were at a restaurant on the beach with our friend eating dinner, while blessing the food my bf also prayed for a good sunset (umm, that's an odd request!). Well, we got a perfect sunset, he proposed and our friend took pictures of the whole thing! It was perfect! I only wished I was dressed nicer than what I had been wearing at the beach all day, lol!

Oh and I knew it was coming soon and every time we went anywhere I wondered if that would be the night.... Well the night it actually happened I wasn't expecting b/c I never thought he would do it in a public place!!

Here's a couple of pics! (can't resist sharing the pics, sorry )