Having attended grade schools in many US states (Missouri, Oklahoma, Arkansas, California, Oregon, South Dakota, Utah) I discovered early the differences in accepted language depending on location. We were always in the lowest socioeconomic class so very little was expected of us. My mother insisted that we spell properly. I think this was her way of making sure we "appeared" to be more than others believed us to be.
I learned that "dived" was improper - "dove" was proper. "Snuck" and "crick" were considred low class so we used "sneaked" and "creek". My mother still says "winda" for window and "worsh". I think that's a rural thing.
I still don't understand all the ins and outs of grammar. For example when to use colons and semicolons or dangling thingamajigs.
Commas are easy for me. I never use them before the word "and". Had an English teacher tell me both ways of using commas were acceptable as long as it was consistent.
I don't care for the unneeded apostrophes. I would love to go around town with a giant container of white-out and erase all the apostrophes.
On this board, I simply don't stress overmuch about spelling or grammar. People are here to be accepted and/or to learn about making their cats' lives better. No one is here to be corrected. When I see severe grammar mistakes I assume either 1) the person may be uneducated in some forms of grammar usage or 2) the person may learn differently than I do 3) the person may be spelling English as a second or third or even fourth language 4) the person is lazy and doesn't consider grammar/spelling to be important.
None of these situations are going to be changed by me and in the case of ESL, more power to them!
I try to focus on the message in the posts rather than the grammar. I am thankful that most people are considered literate now. A hundred years ago, this was not the case. So much of personal history is lost because there is simply no record of those who could not write.
I see several mistakes in this post
I'm okay with it!
Edit: I am a reformed spelling nazi