When my daughter was being bullied, I bought the book Mean Chicks, Cliques, and Dirty Tricks
and we read through parts of it, but it is meant for older girls. I suggest you rent the movie Mean Girls
, have your daughter invite some friends over, and watch it. It's a good movie, very entertaining, with a great message.
I'm glad you believe in your daughter and in what you are seeing. It's wrong to blame the victim.
At the end of school last year, our daughter finally responded to her bully's taunts (after three years of abuse). Here's the thread if you are interested:http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=130240
The principal and teacher told our daughter that it was wrong to hit someone but they understood why she did it, and she was not reprimanded at all. It did stop the bully for the rest of the school year. I don't know if it would have started up again, though, this year had they been in the same class.