Originally Posted by KitEKats4Eva!
Seems like you read a different article than I did. `Wash their hands' of her? How on earth did you reach that conclusion?
I based my statement on the whole article, especially this part, and when combined, with the following statement, that's my conclusion.
|"I don't know how much I can take of this," he whispered. "I want my life back."
Tense and on edge, we decided we had only one option - to get the adoption annulled.
Instead, we'd foster Alex.
That would free her from the expectations to attach to us, and us from the expectations of making her our daughter.
And, if it got no easier, we could hand her back.
Our announcement to Alex's social worker was like a bomb going off.
Suddenly, the authorities went into action, doing anything to prevent us annulling the adoption.
You may not agree with my conclusion, and that's fine
|you started the thread saying they had the patience of saints, and then a bit further down you said they weren't being proactive enough in trying to help her. And then accused them of abandoning her.
They did have the patience of a Saint to let the kid live with them as long as they did. She fired a nail gun at the woman for heaven's sake and tried to drown their other child!
They aren't being proactive in getting this kid help. Not anymore. They gave up and now the kid is languishing in some facility getting no psychiatric care. They admit she fell through the cracks, but they haven't done anything further for her other than visit her 3 times a year.
And IMHO they have abandoned her. They tried to get the adoption annulled, and the only reason they didn't was because of the campaign against them, questioning their parenting skills so they backed down. The kid was pushed into some facility and they visit her 3 times a year. Big deal. That isn't helping her any. Why aren't they paying to have her undergo psychiatric treatment/counselling? Sure they visit her, but other than that they've seemingly washed their hands of her. The only reason they visit her is out of a moral obligation because there is a piece of paper saying that she's their daughter. Had the adoption been annulled think they would be visiting her 3 times a year? I doubt it.