To go or not to go?

EnzoLeya

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You could tell her the interest earned on the money you loaned her is her baby gift from you (although you don't wish to spend that much and would still like the money back)!!!


I don't know......It's hard decision I'm going to leave with you!
 

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Originally Posted by Rosiemac

I'd say " Thanks for the invite, but i'm afraid i have other plans that date, and btw is there any chance you could sent my money back because i've recently moved house and i need it to decorate it with".

Then just give her your bank details and say she can pay it in there without having to give your adress away, and say if she doesn't want to do it that way you could pop over for a coffee and collect it then


i like that idea!
 

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Sad that the baby will have her as his/her mother!

We never get something off anyone's "register" list for wedding or baby shower - we choose what WE want to give! You don't have to pick something from the list.

Under the circumstances, maybe its best not to go, but send a small gift with a friend.
 

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I would give her a card for the baby with a note saying your gift to her is the loan paid in full. As for the party, don't spend your time off of work doing things you don't want to do, if you don't have to do them.
 
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Well, I messaged her back and said

"I don't think I can make it. I have to work that weekend to make up for money I've lost. Good luck with the pregnancy and the baby. Oh, and by the way, any chance you could re-pay me anything on that loan? I could really use it. I just moved and the boys need a few extra things that I can't budget for right now. "

Yeah, I know, a little white lie


Her response was:
"I didn't think you'd need it back so soon. ( me :
) You of all people should know how expensive it is to have a baby. lol Sorry you can't make it but you can send the gift with (our friend's name here). She'll be happy to pick it up. Besides, you should be getting enough child support out of the boys dad to make up for anything you've given me. I, unlike you, am with my baby's dad, so I don't get support.
Well, I have to go, I need to fill your spot at the shower. You have my phone number and address if you want to send a $$$ card. Bye"




I really need to walk away from this convo with her before I lose my cool
 

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What a user! Sounds like she is intentionally trying to get you angry. Don't write back and give her that satisfaction.

I think I would send a nice card to the baby. NO money. NO gift.
 

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Originally Posted by Dixie_Darlin

Her response was:
"I didn't think you'd need it back so soon. ( me :
) You of all people should know how expensive it is to have a baby. lol Sorry you can't make it but you can send the gift with (our friend's name here). She'll be happy to pick it up. Besides, you should be getting enough child support out of the boys dad to make up for anything you've given me. I, unlike you, am with my baby's dad, so I don't get support.
Well, I have to go, I need to fill your spot at the shower. You have my phone number and address if you want to send a $$$ card. Bye"
 
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Originally Posted by Rockcat

What a user! Sounds like she is intentionally trying to get you angry. Don't write back and give her that satisfaction.

I think I would send a nice card to the baby. NO money. NO gift.
I didnt reply at all to her. I am still very upset by this

I deleted her off myspace I was soooo mad!
 

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That was her response?!? WOW, what a horrible thing to say.


Pardon me, but she sounds like a real
. I'm so sorry you were treated this way by a "friend."
 

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X her off as a friend, or anyone remotely like a friend. I'd not respond at all, no card, no gift, etc. And forget about the loan - chaulk it up to experience.

I'll be polite in what I think of her...but its not nice!
 

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I'm confused why you would even consider going, replying to her message, or buying her a gift for the shower. Surely you don't need people like this in your life enough to even be bothered. She's a loser, a write-off, a bloodsucker - cut your losses and run.
 

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Hold the phone! She told you where to send a gift you never offered to send?

And said she needed to fill your spot at the shower?

Obviously she has a gift quota in mind.


And the comment about support. How doggone mercenary is this person?

Hunny, you've deleted her from your myspace. Now just delete her from your life. You don't need toxic people like this.
 
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Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

X her off as a friend, or anyone remotely like a friend. I'd not respond at all, no card, no gift, etc. And forget about the loan - chaulk it up to experience.

I'll be polite in what I think of her...but its not nice!
Originally Posted by Yosemite

I'm confused why you would even consider going, replying to her message, or buying her a gift for the shower. Surely you don't need people like this in your life enough to even be bothered. She's a loser, a write-off, a bloodsucker - cut your losses and run.
Originally Posted by SammiesMom

Hold the phone! She told you where to send a gift you never offered to send?

And said she needed to fill your spot at the shower?

Obviously she has a gift quota in mind.


And the comment about support. How doggone mercenary is this person?

Hunny, you've deleted her from your myspace. Now just delete her from your life. You don't need toxic people like this.
That's exactly what I'm doing

I talked to a friend of ours today who is going to the shower. When I told her what was said, she said she's not going either!
 

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You could give her a small claims lawsuit as a gift.


Good for you for not stooping to her level! My mom has a saying in Spanish, "Es mejor que haiga un loco y no dos."
Literally: It's better that there is one crazy person and not two.


Chalk it up to: whatever money you lost was a small price to pay to get this person out of your life. She doesn't deserve any of your time.

Although, honestly, I probably would have thrown all that "better person" stuff out the window and given the "friend" a sound telling-off.
 
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