Originally Posted by Duchess15
...I don't know if I can handle another death right now
I don't know where that idea came from, because renal failure is not usually a death sentence. In some cases (known as Acute Renal Failure), the kidneys return to full function and life goes merrily on.
In other cases, irreversable damage has occurred to the kidneys - this is known as Chronic Renal Failure, or CRF. In most of these cases, with timely and appropriate treatment, the kidneys can and do regain sufficient function for cats to live good-quality lives. It's called chronic because there is no "cure". This does not mean, however, that it is "terminal". (Life is terminal, too!)
Most Vets, unfortunately, don't seem to think so. Many will very quickly suggest that there is no hope and will recommend euthanasia.
If you really care for this cat and, if you are willing to put some time and effort into educating yourself about CRF and into finding a treatment regimen that works for your cat.....and, if your Vet recommends euthanasia, buy yourself some time and tell the Vet you want to consider it
. In the meantime, your cat should be receiving IV fluids for a very minimum of two days. (Usually it will take several days on IV for the Vet to even be able to make an accurate diagnosis of CRF. Again, unfortunately, many Vets will try IV short-term and, if the measure of toxins in the cat hasn't dropped significantly, pronounce a death sentence.)
There is a wealth of information and online groups of people who are in your position available to help you deal with this.
By far (IMO) the best source of web information is here http://felinecrf.org/
This site was created by a woman whose cats developed CRF...she says
"Hello. My name is Helen. I have had two cats with CRF, Tanya and Thomas... I created this website because I know first-hand how scary the CRF diagnosis is, and how helpless it can make you feel, and I wanted to give people the detailed, practical information which would have helped me when my cats were first diagnosed, all together in one place."
If your Vet says there's no hope, again, buy yourself some time (put your cat on IV) and have a read here http://felinecrf.org/just_diagnosed....ia_recommended
If your Vet is hopeful, then start here http://felinecrf.org/just_diagnosed.htm
Now, about the other people who can help you...Helen (who created that site) also runs an online practical support group where people like you can get real-time help in dealing with their CRF cats. Many people in the group have lots of experience taking care of their own CRF cats...it soon becomes very obvious to newcomers that those people are the "real experts" and that the group often knows more - and better - than many Vets.
I am not "bashing" Veterinarians - most are not specialists and cannot be expected to be experts in each and every disease/condition. Nor is that website or the group supposed to be an alternative to competent Veterinary care. But, if you, your Vet, those other caregivers and that website can come together as a team, chances are good that your cat will thrive.
Oh, and...that group of people are here http://pets.groups.yahoo.com/group/feline-crf-info/