Originally Posted by Duchess15
We did a lot of things together and I could talk to her about most things and she always seemed to know the answer or try to find a brighter side to things.
I told my best friend that I wasn't even going to bother with a birthday cake because I have to do all the cooking on thanksgiving. With the way things are going, I probably won't care either way.
I told her she is welcomed to come over, but I don't know if I will want to be around others.
Honey, it's ok to boycott holidays after something like this. It will take time to get in the holiday mood again. After my dad died, mom went out for Thanksgiving dinner with the family instead of cooking dinner. I didn't celebrate thanksgiving or christmas (well, I did eat a turkey sandwich on Thanksgiving, but I lived far away from my mom and getting back home was impossible). My first birthday after mom died, I just wanted to ignore it, but that weekend my MIL (then, future MIL) had a family dinner and had a cake for me and I just bawled. She felt so bad.
Thanksgiving is a long way off, so before you make any decisions now....wait and see how you feel at that time. I don't think anyone wouldn't understand if you say you don't want to cook, or have dinner there.
Christmas is the hard one for me, because my mom loved it so much. I'm just now getting to the point that decorating for Christmas is exciting...it took me 3 years to be able to get a real tree and unwrap all the traditional decorations. I'm still not "there" yet, but I'm getting there.
Basically, you have to take things at your own speed. Don't worry about Thanksgiving or your birthday yet...deal with the next few days and weeks and months and see how you feel.
It takes time.