Would This Bother You?

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Originally Posted by Rockcat

Oh, now that would be a problem! No luring hot women allowed!
Trust me I have been in this situation before, you have to help your best friend and if that means trying to help start conversations or dancing you just do it.
 

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Originally Posted by SiameseTwins

Trust me I have been in this situation before, you have to help your best friend and if that means trying to help start conversations or dancing you just do it.
Hmmm. Let me see. Husband, out of town, in a bar with single friend - starting conversations and dancing with hot women. Still not allowed!


I agree that you should help your best friend. There are other ways to do so. Listening to him and encouraging him to approach women is great, but I would have to draw the line right around there.
 

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Originally Posted by Rockcat

Hmmm. Let me see. Husband, out of town, in a bar with single friend - starting conversations and dancing with hot women. Still not allowed!


I agree that you should help your best friend. There are other ways to do so. Listening to him and encouraging him to approach women is great, but I would have to draw the line right around there.
As long as you make the woman aware you are just helping a friend it's fine.
 

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Originally Posted by SiameseTwins

As long as you make the woman aware you are just helping a friend it's fine.
I think we may have to agree to disagree on this one. No hard feelings though.
 
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I understand what both of you are saying. Robert has come to stay with us twice since his wife walked out, a week each time, just to get away and be with friends.

I'm not bragging or anything, but both guys are young successful professionals, they are both fit, tall, and handsome. Robert's wife's friends are still hanging around him because... well, we know why!
 

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unless the friend is putting some type of pressure for your husband to "double date"
then No i would not worry about it.
 
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My heartfelt thanks for the advice! I think my head is in a bad place right now so I'm going to have to let this issue go and deal with my insecurities on my own.

I knew I would get help here. Thanks so much.
 

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Originally Posted by SwampWitch

BINGO! That's true! I was home this last time, sick and taking care of our sick child. It should have been me having drinks and flirting with him!

We decided last night that we need more date nights, just the two of us.
Ah! yes. Date nights! I'm trying to do that with my boyfriend, cuz we have gotten into a terrible rut!
 

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It wouldn't bother me and I have complete trust (sounds like you are the same) but I bet it did make your husband uncomfortable to have to stay with him during his little sleepover thing.

On a similar note, relationship building in your relationship can never hurt. Open up communication, go out, and have fun. Sometimes life gets busy and you must MAKE, not find, time to reconnect with each other and enjoy life for being life and enjoy having such a great person to go thru life with.

If you are feeling uncomfortable in the slighest, take care of it now, don't let it grow and hope it will go away. But I get the feeling you know that already
 

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Originally Posted by AddieBee

RE: hubby - I think the friend should refrain from entertaining female guests when your guy is around and I think hubby should tell him that.
Here! Here! Three cheers for that remark.


ooohhhh wearing aftershave on nights out with friend a big No! No! lol
 

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Originally Posted by AddieBee

...I think the friend should refrain from entertaining female guests when your guy is around and I think hubby should tell him that.
Precisely!
 

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As long as your husband is telling you about it, it's fine. If he stops telling you, then you have to worry
If he was embarrassed, or had any thoughts of doing anything silly (even just getting stupidly drunk), he wouldn't tell you.
 

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Good luck with the date nights
Those sound like fun!!

Yea, if it happened just once, that is one thing...if it becomes a regular thing and your husband's telling how amazing this one single girl is, then worry.
 

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I'm not saying anything about your husband being unfaithful, but yes I would be uncomfortable with the situation. It's not a matter of trust, but what you are comfortable with. I would be uncomfortable period if my SO's friends were all single. The single life is a totally diiferent lifestyle and I can see how enticeing it could be......
 

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Originally Posted by SwampWitch

My heartfelt thanks for the advice! I think my head is in a bad place right now so I'm going to have to let this issue go and deal with my insecurities on my own.

I knew I would get help here. Thanks so much.
That is a wise decision to not make any decision when you know your head is not in the right place.

It doesnt matter who your husband is around with Robert because there are available and forward women, everywhere, not just around Robert, you know?

So the bottom line is you trust your husband, you trust him in all situations, no matter what.

I know you know this, just saying it again, dont let what someone else thinks of you ever affect how you think of yourself.
 

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Originally Posted by EnzoLeya

I'm not saying anything about your husband being unfaithful, but yes I would be uncomfortable with the situation. It's not a matter of trust, but what you are comfortable with. I would be uncomfortable period if my SO's friends were all single. The single life is a totally diiferent lifestyle and I can see how enticeing it could be......
Exactly! Robert is probably feeling unattractive, and any female attention is very flattering. He's probably (not realizing it) flaunting it a bit right now.

I would feel quite uncomfortable with hubby being part of that. He should stay somewhere else for the night when visiting Robert, IMO.
 
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