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Bad news.... I had to tell someone

post #1 of 19
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I am a little upset today I just found out that my friend Laura I've spoken about on here before, had to have emergency Brain surgery last week. She has had a brain tumour for several years and has been having increasingly frequent siezures. Durring the last 2 months Laura has been having a horrible time, her grandmother died and then her 9 month old niece was diagnosed with Lukimia. I don't know what I can do for her i'm compleetly flaberghasted at how much emotional and spiritual pain one person can deal with. In some ways I feel like a bad friend not being able to say somthing to make things better. I'm sure you've felt the same way.


Sorry for venting everyone but I just needed to tell somone how i'm feeling. Somtimes it just helps to be able to get it out and to know i'm not the only person who has felt compleetly helpless.

Please send some vibes her way.
post #2 of 19
Lots and lots of for laura

post #3 of 19
Rhonda...Sometimes you don't have to say anything. Just be there for her. I can't even imagine what she is going through or feeling. Just be there for her as much as you can. That speaks louder than words. I hope things get better for your friend and her family.
post #4 of 19
I'm sorry your friend is going through all that. I'm sure any consoling words you have for her help. for Laura.
post #5 of 19
many vibes for Laura!!!
post #6 of 19
Someone who's just there for you is often the best a person can ask for when they are going through a hard time!
post #7 of 19
I have to agree. Just being there for her is the most comforting thing you can do for her! Being there for her tears, sorrow, happiness, anger, and pain is the nicest, most comforting thing you can do right now! She doesn't need people to tell her how sorry they are for her and how they wished it wouldn't of happened. She already knows that. She just needs someone to be there for her now through all the confusion and anything else she may be going through! Sometimes, there just aren't words for what you are feeling! You are doing an excellent job already! for you! For you both!
post #8 of 19
For Laura, and for you

Blessings,

Felinelady
post #9 of 19
I am so sorry. I agree sometimes there is nothing that can be said just be there for her. A lot of times, because people don't know what to say, they avoid the person and that is the worst thing someone can do.
post #10 of 19
Sweetie, Laura probably feels the same as you do - just being able to let it out is usually enough to take some of the weight off your shoulders. You probably don't have to say anything, just listen Loads of vibes for Laura though, she's obviously a very strong woman
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post #12 of 19
The bottom line is there is nothing you can say or do to make everything all better, and that is the frustrating part. The best thing you can do to help her is by doing exactly what you're doing...be a friend. Listen to her when she needs to talk, hold her when she needs to cry, be her sounding board and her punching bag. And, most important, treat her as you always treated her. Normalcy is very important right now.

First, you have to understand that there is no way you can "fix" things for her. Once you make peace with that, everything else will come easy for you.

This is actually advice given to me by a nurse when my mom was sick and it helped so much.

My heart goes out to you, and Laura is in my thoughts and prayers.
post #13 of 19
Im sending 's to watch over Laura and her family. I pray that they all get better real soon.
post #14 of 19
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Originally Posted by calico2222 View Post
The bottom line is there is nothing you can say or do to make everything all better, and that is the frustrating part. The best thing you can do to help her is by doing exactly what you're doing...be a friend. Listen to her when she needs to talk, hold her when she needs to cry, be her sounding board and her punching bag. And, most important, treat her as you always treated her. Normalcy is very important right now.
Very wise words. Your friend Laura will be in my thoughts.
post #15 of 19
Sending to Laura and to you.
post #16 of 19
Sending Laura lots of vibes, and some to you as well
post #17 of 19
Oh my goodness! What a horrible life she's had recently. for her!

I'm sure she knows there is nothing you can really do to make things better. All she really needs is for you to be there for her and be a shoulder to cry on. for you!
post #18 of 19
I hope she gets well soon! Sending vibes her way

And some for you too

Oh..and some hugs! You will need those
post #19 of 19
Many healing & caring For Laura...hope everything is going to be okay
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