Whatever Happened to...

...MANNERS!!

I went to the store down the street from me and came back with a fairly heavy canvas bag of groceries.

I got through the first door of my building, and I was struggling with my left hand to get the key into the lock of the second door because my right hand was holding the bag and the floor was all mucky from melted snow so I didn't want to put the bag on the floor.

Some guy inside the building approached the door and stood there watching me trying to open the door. I managed to get the key into the lock and turn it and I was trying to pull the door open awhile keeping the key turned at the same time.

I finally managed and as I opened the door wider I couldn't believe it!!! This idiot who stood there watching me struggle with the lock and door pushed the door wider and instead of holding the door open while I passed through, he practically bowled me over by pushing the door open and pushing past me!!

I'm getting crotchety in my old age!! As he went past me I swung my bag, that had several cans in it, and hit him in the butt and when he looked back with a scowel on his face I innocently apologized

Sheesh! That's really rude! I'm glad you swatted him with the bag!

I wouldn't have apologized, I probably would've made a comment to him as he walked by, but that's just me.

My boyfriend and I were coming back from shopping, and we had our arms full of groceries (we live on the third floor and carry everything up at once). Well the woman on the 2nd floor saw us walking with our hands full, and she went inside and couldn't even prop the door open for us. If I see someone coming, arms full of something or not, I prop the door open with the floor mat so they don't have to fumble with their keys. Well, we were mad because I had to fumble with the keys to unlock the entry door to the hallway. My boyfriend kind of yelled a comment, and she turned around after she heard him. She told us she was coming back to open the door and we didn't have to yell at her, but we knew she came back because we did yell. She wasn't going to come back at all, she was already turning to go up the stairs.\\

People can be very rude these days. I just brush it off my shoulders and not let it get to me.

Im glad you gave him a tap!! People are so terrible these days...Im 20 and I would have gotten the door for you and offered to help you carry those groceries to your apartment and even helped put them away if you needed it..

Simple - people don't want to get involved or be accused of doing anything wrong. With today's situations, etc. - he could have helped you and you could have said he tried to assult you or something.

So people are reluctant to help anyone now. So sad.

BTW I think manners went on the same path as common sense!

Originally Posted by GoldenKitty45

Simple - people don't want to get involved or be accused of doing anything wrong. With today's situations, etc. - he could have helped you and you could have said he tried to assult you or something.

So people are reluctant to help anyone now. So sad.

BTW I think manners went on the same path as common sense!

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That's what I was thinking too. Everyone is so afraid of being accused of anything nowadays its crazy.

Either that or he is just plain dense.

I would have yelled at him and asked him to own up to his gender and be a man by holding the door for me.

I too would have asked if he was raised with any manners-how insensitive!!

Whenever I have a person do that kind of thing to me, I always say something like "thanks for getting the door..with a " and then they feel like crap after

That annoys me. It happens to me all the time. Once, a couple years ago shortly after I had my reconstructive surgery on my leg, I was struggling with a soft cast, a cane and a bag of groceries and gallon of milk. My neighbor below me (male), came out and just stood there and watched me. I dropped the milk and it splattered all over the concrete stairs going up to my condo. He just stood there and said, "that sucks."

When I hurt my leg in a dance class at my health club, I went to the cafe to get some ice. It was lunchtime, so there was a line. I went to stand in back of the woman paying. The guy in back of her said, "There is a line." I said that I hurt my leg in class and I just wanted ice. He told me to go to the front desk. I said, "Do you think that the front desk has ice when there is a cafe?" "That's where you should go or to the back of the line." Told the story to the nice girls at the front desk. They couldn't believe it so they called the cafe to get me some ice. I walk back and the cafe guy is on the phone. Rude guy said that he told them to get me ice. Wait, he sent me to the front desk to get ice but felt guilty? I told him that he was really rude and he said, "Oh, another needy woman." I told him to get a life although I wanted to say a few NY choice words.
Don't think that he was afraid in a private club.

We have a laundry building in my complex, and I find it amazing how many people pretend to ignore you when you're trying to unlock the door to get in with an armload of laundry. I've seen people juggling washing and children, while others just watch them from inside the laundry.

I always open the door for people if I see them trying to get in, and always wonder why not many others do.

Some people just REALLY don't want to get involved in people's lives, even when it's something as simple as opening a door.

on the whole when it comes to things like that.
died out with the feminist movement. having had women complain more then once for being polite and helping out with door and such, i no longer do it.