Did I really overreact? (sorry, kinda long)

wow, if anyone ever did that to one of my cats I'd be pretty PO'd, I think you handled it very well as far as your "frineds" if they are taking the side of someone else without hearing the full story, then eh, no loss of yours!

sounds to me like SHE'S the one that overreacted. If your "friends" are attacking you without even consoling what happened she probably turned it into a bigger drama that what it was.

imo I would never smack someone elses property...car, TV, computer. no matter how much it irritated me. you don't smack someone elses animal.

i would have to say No.
she could have picked the cat up, and set it back on the gound.
She could have pushed the cat gentlly off her lap.

Well, honestly, when I first started reading this tread, I was going to play devil's advocate and ask why you didn't just tell her first that you don't like your cats being shoved forcefully off her lap (I thought she slapped his butt), but when you clarified and she HIT HIS HEAD...yeah, she'd be out of my house too! I don't think you did anything wrong, and I think you should call your other friends over the weekend and give yourself time to cool off. I agree she is probably giving a completely different story.

Truthfully, I don't think you liked this girl very much to begin with, and neither would I. So, her friendship isn't worth worrying over. But, your other friends need to see your side of the story.

If this girl is such a "dog lover" I would hate to see how she would treat one!

Rational and restrained individual that you are, you did exactly the right thing for you.

I, however, do not labor under such restraints. So if you'll give me that wench's address, I'll go over and do exactly the right thing for me!

Originally Posted by theimp98

i would have to say No.
she could have picked the cat up, and set it back on the gound.
She could have pushed the cat gentlly off her lap.

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I come from a very non-cat family, even they just nudge the cats away or ask me to come pick them up and remove them. Though they are starting to come around the more they see them.

If any of them hit my cats I would not hesitate in throwing them out, no matter who they are.

You go girl - great job for showing her where the exit was and how to use it! If anyone lifted a hand to either of my babies, I would lift my hand to them and ask how they liked it!! You did NOT over-react - you were calm and collected - which I think is something that a majority of us here would have had serious problems with!

I'd have given her one of these on her head - that's probably about the equivalent of what your little man got



What an ignorant, spiteful, heartless little moo. People who do that don't seem to realise or care that they are so much bigger than a cat.

Holy cow! She would have been out of my house so fast her head would have been spinning! Poor Mercury!

I wonder if she would have done the thing had it been a child? Or how would she feel if you did that to one of her dogs?

Thanks for the support guys. I wanted to update you, I talked to a few of my friends today, one of them actually called me to apologize because she felt bad about the message she left (and it wasn't one of the bad ones). The other one however kind of surprised me. She's the one I've known since middle school. I explained the whole situation to her and after I finished she was still saying stuff about how I value my cats more then other human beings and so on. . . Maybe it's not too suprising if I think about it, she has a dog that she got about a year ago now and it lives in a crate (which is mine btw, she was supposed to be borrowing it for a few weeks) almost full time because she is never home to take care of it. . . . I just don't get people!

If anyone hit my cat, they would be asked to leave, then told not to come back.
Hubby's friend did that once, needless to say. he's not welcome here.
Everyone who calls themselves my friend, know and understand that my animals are my life, and anyone who threatens them are in alot of trouble. My animals can't defend themselves really, so that's where I come in. If you're big enough to hit or mess with my cat, you're big enough to leave.

Good job! Anyone who calls themselves your friend, should understand and respect what your animals mean to you.

We DO have some friends who have a large lab/mix dog that they got stuck with when their daughter dumped it on them. She was bad about jumping up on people, and when she did it to me, I gently stepped on her back paws, which is a way to train them not to do it. But I showed them what to do, and how to do it without hurting her, and they used the trick to train her to quit that habit.

The unfortunate thing about cats is that they WILL go to the one person in the room who doesn't like cats, and try to make up to them. Some theorize that this is a defense mechanism in cats...and politicians.

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The unfortunate thing about cats is that they WILL go to the one person in the room who doesn't like cats, and try to make up to them. Some theorize that this is a defense mechanism in cats...and politicians.

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From what I understand, they go to the one person because they don't make eye contact with the cat which is considered "good manners" in the cat world.
Of course, who can figure out what is truely going on in a cat's mind. My mom HATED cats, and they would always find her and drive her crazy. I personally think they take it as a challenge. "You don't like me???? Well, I'll make you LOVE me!"

One person I know who knows Bill Clinton personally told me Bill was like that; he'd always go and concentrate on the person in the room who didn't like him. (We lived in Hot Springs, Arkansas, while he was governor there.) I have since heard that that is a common factor in "people" people, you know, salespeople, etc.

Originally Posted by mrblanche

One person I know who knows Bill Clinton personally told me Bill was like that; he'd always go and concentrate on the person in the room who didn't like him. (We lived in Hot Springs, Arkansas, while he was governor there.) I have since heard that that is a common factor in "people" people, you know, salespeople, etc.

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LOL!!! I started cracking up when I read that first part! Bentley was on my lap and I scared him pretty good. . .. oops.

Originally Posted by okiron

Dude, if I was in your shoes, I would've hit that person so hard teeth would've came flying out.

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You, and your kitties, are better off without friends like that.

No, I will not tolerate anyone being mean to animals whether they are "friends" or not.

And if these so called "friends" took the side of your friend who hit your cat, I think I'd be finding me some new friends!