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post #1 of 14
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Well, looks like I can no longer say "i'm too old to have kids" anymore! LOL!! My cousin who is now 42 (a year and a half older than I) is pregnant with TWINS!
post #2 of 14
My Mum was 42 when I was born -- and it was a lot more risky then (back in the Dark Ages).
Congrats to your cousin.!
post #3 of 14
So when ya gonna have one then?? LMAO
post #4 of 14
DH's aunt is 42 as well, and pregnant. Her daughter is 17, so that's going to be a big age gap.
post #5 of 14
Thread Starter 
HAHA..no (human) children for me. Myla is nearing a year which by her actions is sooooo much like a child in her terrible 2's! LOL!!!
post #6 of 14
I do think that there is a point when you are too old to have kids even if physically nature is still allowing you to.

My Mom was almost 36 when I was born and my Dad was 59. I know it's vogue for people to have kids now later in life but I thnk it's unfair to the kids because older parents tend to not be as physically active with the kids as younger ones are. Not to mention the fact that the parents will probably die while the kids are still relatively youngish.
post #7 of 14
My godson is 16 years younger than his oldest sibling. He was an "oops" baby as we like to call him.

Neil's dad was around 40 when he was born. He was the youngest and his oldest brother is about 14 years older than he is. His brother was out of the house when Neil was so young he really didn't know him very well until they both got older.

I went though that phase with all of his siblings on "when are you going to have children"
Thankfully that question stopped several years ago!!
post #8 of 14
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
I do think that there is a point when you are too old to have kids even if physically nature is still allowing you to.
I know it's vogue for people to have kids now later in life but I thnk it's unfair to the kids because older parents tend to not be as physically active with the kids as younger ones are. Not to mention the fact that the parents will probably die while the kids are still relatively youngish.
I am not sure what age you are speaking about about I tend to disagree about the vogue statement. It has a lot less to do with being "in style" and more to do with being smart. LOL! More educated countries as a whole tend to have children later in life (and less children). People put their relationships, educational, and career goals first before having children. Many times this is economically better for the children and the family as a whole. They are not rushing into things and are finding ways to be able to afford a good place to live and at least one have a good stable career and insurance, etc.

I feel for many it is an educated decision they have thought about a lot, they are not just trying to be vogue. They are honestly wanting to do right for their children and for their lives.

People are living a lot later, retiring later, and living full long lives into their so called Golden Years. I personally know a lot of healthy happy self sufficient active older individuals with rich lives. For many reasons this is becoming more normal in the US.
post #9 of 14
Congrats to your cousin. I was shopping in a baby clothing store and a woman seemed to be buying out the entire store. Her 50 year-old friend was pregnant with twins (boy and girl). When I heard the story, I help the woman pick things out for the babies, it was so much fun!!!!

When my twin sister and I were 9 months old and our older brother was 2 years old, we were taken away from our parents and was raised by our grandparents who were 52 at the time. There were times when my grandparents were tired and exhausted but they still gave us the time and attention we needed. They came to all our school events and played outside with us everyday. I never noticed that their age kept them from being active in our lives.
post #10 of 14
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Originally Posted by oOoMissEoOo View Post
Well, looks like I can no longer say "i'm too old to have kids" anymore! LOL!! My cousin who is now 42 (a year and a half older than I) is pregnant with TWINS!
Oh my First off.... I didn't know you were in your 40's!?! You so do not look it! Yay, good jeans for you! Secondly, congrats (if she wanted to be ) to your cousin on the babies!
post #11 of 14
My mum was in her 40's when she had me Mind you she was going through the menopause at the time and they thought it was a cyst on the womb, when really it was me!

My niece had her first baby at 36.
post #12 of 14
^ That had to have been a surprise!

As far as life expectancy goes, nothing is certain. A person can live to be in their 80s or 90s, or they can get in some sort of accident and die tomorrow. The only difference I would see is possibly having a good or two if there were any risks with the pregnancy due to age (say high blood pressure, etc).
post #13 of 14
It's love that makes a good parent -- not longevity. I'm thrilled for your cousin!
post #14 of 14
I was also a menopause baby. My mom said she was 37 with early onset menopause when I was born, but I suspect she was quite a bit older. Her birth and death dates say she was, but I wasn't going to argue with her over it. I had an identical twin that died at birth. My grandmother says they almost lost both of us, but never gave me any details.
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