Several months ago I wrote asking advice on how to introduce my 'resident kitty" with a new kitty. My resident kitty had been declawed (no I did not do this, this was done prior to me owning her). My vet and several cat adovate friends advised me that due to her incredible dependency upon me and her aggressiveness when I returned home from work that I needed to get a companion. I did so...adopted an incredible kitty (male). He is such a lover, the most incredible loving cat I have ever come across. He'd rather chew a paw off than show aggression. He only wants to love. I followed the wise advise of everyone on the site during introduction understanding that because my kitty had not ever been around other cats, did not have her front claws, and was treated more like a dog than a cat growing up that I would have many challanges. After six weeks, kitty introduction appeared to be successful. I had the patience and followed their time line, not my own.
My problem now....they seemed to co-habitate, mind you not the best of friends, but no unusual for them to be seem at least sleeping on the bed about two feet from one another. During the past three weeks, the resident cat is again attacking the new kitty. Although he is much larger than she and has front claws, he runs from her, never defending himself and crying because she is attacking him. Things seem to be okay one minute the next she turns on him and attacks. I have not observed any evident bite marks as I thouroughly check him after she springs. This is not a change in her behavior, merely a continuation of the intial introduction. My Mister seems to be so happy with me as I love on him, play with him and he returns all affection. By emotional state though is that I am causing more harm by leaving him with such a mean kitty who I also love....no matter what she might do. I love them both so much and only want what is best for them both. But now, I cannot part with either, I love them both and when I adopted him I was dedicated to not returning him to the shelter. I still stand my ground on that. I need help.
Perhaps I should keep them apart again, but is this the best idea? I mean, if I keep them apart and reintroduce....won't the same thing happen again? I find myself being upset with the resident kitty and wanting to cuddle the "new" kitty more because he is such a lover. But then feel guilty for doing so knowing that part of the reason resident kitty is doing these things is out of instinct to protect her territory and claim me as property.
I only write again because of the cries new kitty makes, then when I run to the rescue, bits of hair that have been ripped out in the scuff are found on the floor.
Please anyone that can help me....please help me. I so love them both, yet I know that I cannot make the resident kitty understand.
Any questions to understand what is happening are more than welcome and any advice from the experts would so be appreciated. The tears are flowing and all I want is the best for them.
Thank you!
My problem now....they seemed to co-habitate, mind you not the best of friends, but no unusual for them to be seem at least sleeping on the bed about two feet from one another. During the past three weeks, the resident cat is again attacking the new kitty. Although he is much larger than she and has front claws, he runs from her, never defending himself and crying because she is attacking him. Things seem to be okay one minute the next she turns on him and attacks. I have not observed any evident bite marks as I thouroughly check him after she springs. This is not a change in her behavior, merely a continuation of the intial introduction. My Mister seems to be so happy with me as I love on him, play with him and he returns all affection. By emotional state though is that I am causing more harm by leaving him with such a mean kitty who I also love....no matter what she might do. I love them both so much and only want what is best for them both. But now, I cannot part with either, I love them both and when I adopted him I was dedicated to not returning him to the shelter. I still stand my ground on that. I need help.
Perhaps I should keep them apart again, but is this the best idea? I mean, if I keep them apart and reintroduce....won't the same thing happen again? I find myself being upset with the resident kitty and wanting to cuddle the "new" kitty more because he is such a lover. But then feel guilty for doing so knowing that part of the reason resident kitty is doing these things is out of instinct to protect her territory and claim me as property.
I only write again because of the cries new kitty makes, then when I run to the rescue, bits of hair that have been ripped out in the scuff are found on the floor.
Please anyone that can help me....please help me. I so love them both, yet I know that I cannot make the resident kitty understand.
Any questions to understand what is happening are more than welcome and any advice from the experts would so be appreciated. The tears are flowing and all I want is the best for them.
Thank you!