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Every country produces its share of turkeys, and unfortunately for the rest of its citizens, it's those turkeys who are noticed, as they are often loudmouth as well. It behooves the rest of us to provide the evidence that the turkeys are the exception, not the rule, and in so doing to put to rest as much anti-[whatever country] sentiment we can. Sometimes the turkeys can even be educated despite themselves.
 

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Tell them they should've gone to <<fill in another state here>> because they have better Build-A-Bear workshops


It truely amazes me though how open people can be in front of either old or new friends. Hopefully your daughter can show them that not all Americans are bad and the some of the things we make is quality...even if it did come from China...
 

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Originally Posted by rapunzel47

Every country produces its share of turkeys, and unfortunately for the rest of its citizens, it's those turkeys who are noticed, as they are often loudmouth as well. It behooves the rest of us to provide the evidence that the turkeys are the exception, not the rule, and in so doing to put to rest as much anti-[whatever country] sentiment we can. Sometimes the turkeys can even be educated despite themselves.
Very well said!


I hope you and your daughter can show them some of the good that comes out of America!
 

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Nuh uh...might give me away!
It's unfortunate that the daughter picked up on her mother's attitude so well as to modify it for her own use.
Maybe the mother was embarassed enough, that she'll help her daughter change her tune.

I'm sorry that you were placed in an uncomfortable situation, though, but glad you spoke up.
 

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Fortunately, I don't think you'll meet too many Canadians that have an attitude like your daughter's friend and her mother. Your daughter's friend sounds like a little brat to me and it wouldn't bother me a whole lot to have neither one in my home, but that's me.

The sad part is that this horrible woman is teaching her daughter to be as ignorant as she is. I don't always agree with the politics of the US, but then I don't always agree with the politics of our Canadians but to be so anti-American and nasty isn't right. I've had Americans be pretty nasty to me on occasion, but I won't judge all Americans by those few - that would be so unfair to all the other great Americans. I just put it down to their ignorance and if ignorance is bliss, they must be estatically happy.
As Fran said, there are good and bad in everything.

If I were in your position, I would probably honestly try to not let my daughter associate very much with those 2 ignorant people. It's pretty likely they will say hurting things to her and that's not fair.
 
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Guess it didn't help that their teacher in school called Americans lazy just before Christmas:

http://www.thecatsite.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=148495

I do have quite a few great friends here who only care what kind of person you are. Of course, I'm sure there are others who would never associate with me because I'm American; I just don't hear it directly.


I hear little comments now and then but this mother and daughter were in some kind of American-bashing habit. We aren't inviting them over again.
 

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I think this thread is proof of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

If she didn't say anything negative, she wouldn't have been embarrassed in the first place
 

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Originally Posted by Trouts mom

I think this thread is proof of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

If she didn't say anything negative, she wouldn't have been embarrassed in the first place
Very true! If I go somewhere, no matter where the person is from, I try not to say anything negative about a culture because you just never know.
 

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funny, in all of my travels, i have never yet ran into someone that hated america. Just tons of people who thought everyone lived here like they do in the movies.

I have ran into more i hate america people living here. then overseas.
 

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Originally Posted by theimp98

funny, in all of my travels, i have never yet ran into someone that hated america. Just tons of people who thought everyone lived here like they do in the movies.

I have ran into more i hate america people living here. then overseas.
There is lots of people who dislike Americans isn't there!! I swear to godd I dont bite!! I was just born here, thats all!! I dont have beefs with any country, not even Iraq. They're just people, just like us!
 
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I just remembered another thing the woman said. I asked if her daughter started back in this school just before Christmas, when the class had the temporary teacher, and the woman said, "You mean the Arab?"

I didn't know what she meant at first... then remembered that the teacher had darkish skin and dark hair. "The Arab," indeed. I guess everyone gets lumped into some stereotype.
 

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Originally Posted by SwampWitch

I just remembered another thing the woman said. I asked if her daughter started back in this school just before Christmas, when the class had the temporary teacher, and the woman said, "You mean the Arab?"

I didn't know what she meant at first... then remembered that the teacher had darkish skin and dark hair. "The Arab," indeed. I guess everyone gets lumped into some stereotype.
The more I hear about that woman, the more I'm convinced you don't need someone as bigoted as that in your life or your daughter's life. This isn't the kind of "friend" either of you need.

When our daughter was around 8 years old she came home crying because someone was mean and said nasty things to her. I told her that not everyone will like her and she will not like everyone - sometimes for no reason other than she will just "not" like them and that it was OK for someone not to like her. I told her it was more important to be concerned about how the people she likes think of her and not waste time worrying about those others.

Personally, I have no room in my life for bigots, know-it-alls or ignorant people in my life. I prefer to expend my energy on honest, caring and worthwhile people and I've been truly blessed to have a number of those people in my life.
 

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Yeah... That wasn't very nice at all of her to say!! I think some people find it easy to call names... That way they dont have to hold the mirror in front of their own faces! Everyone is a person and should be treated well no matter what size shape or color! I could be green and my friends would love me anyway!!
 
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You are right. I keep thinking about the whole thing, and realized that the first conversation we had was about my "accent." I was raised by native Germans in Texas, and my accent has been described more than once as "European, but can't pinpoint where in Europe."


Since she couldn't "type" me by my looks, she went to the accent.

I'm pretty positive that the teacher (who called Americans lazy) is just as much a Canadian as this mom. They could get together and bash people from other countries, then the mom could turn around and make derogatory comments about Arabic people... what a world.
 
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