My dear Tavia is gone

laureen227

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i'm sure others have told you this... but there was probably already a problem when she jumped, or she wouldn't have 'landed wrong'.
we always blame ourselves for things like this, even when they were not preventable... i know i did, when Mouse died. i kept going over & over what i could've done differently... if i had taken her to the last vet, first, or noticed a problem earlier. my head knows differently, but my heart still said/says those things.
it's so difficult when they leave us, even with warning, but i think the sudden, unexplained passings are harder. i've had both, & i really felt worse when Mouse died, within only 10 days, than when Medley passed, after about 6 weeks of illness.
you did what you could, & you couldn't have known that her jumping off the bed would suddenly be a problem, when it never was before
 

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I am very sorry about your loss of Tavia. She meant and still means so much to you.
What helpd me when I lost Sheba unexpectedly was to write down a list of items about her so I wouldn't forget. I have this taped to the back of a framed photo of her.

She is happily played with all our cherished cats at the rainbow bridge.

Take care.
 

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Grown ups cry when they hurt, too. It's a part of loving.


I am so, so sorry about your baby dying so unexpectedly. That makes it so much more difficult as you're just not prepared for it - though I don't know if anyone ever is. I agree that she must have been calling you home: I doubt very much it was the fall itself that caused her to pass.

I don't understand why she would be called home so young - but I know she was very loved and is happy and whole now, doing what she can to send you reassurance. I'm sure if you listen to your heart, you'll feel her.




Laurie
 

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Gail, I am so so sorry. I can't imagine how you must feel. It is good to cry. Get it out, and dont be ashamed because you are grown, like it was said before it is a part of loving. . . Tavia is now at Rainbow Bridge waiting for the day she can see you again. . . I like the idea of writing down everything about her, so you can remember. We all know how much you loved her... Just remember time heals. . . My deepest condolences to you. . .

Tavia - enjoy your time now at Rainbow Bridge. Tell my babies I miss them!
 

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I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet baby. You can cry all you want to. Its been almost a year since I lost my Howard, and I still find myself tearing up when I think about him. Im sure it was meant to be. She was placed in your life for a reason and was taken away when her job here was done. Just try to think about what good thing she brought to your life. Im sure my Howard is there at the rainbow bridge to greet her. Play peacefully at the rainbow bridge little Tavia....
 

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I'm very sorry for your loss. It was a very unfortunate accident -- no one was at fault.
 

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I'm so sorry you lost Tavia.
She was a beautiful girl and lucky to have you in her life. RIP sweet girl.
 

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Oh my goodness, another name that jumped out at me whe i came in here


I'm so sorry Gail
Your precious girl has been welcomed at the bridge by all the other TCS kitties and she'll be looked after there untilk you see her again


Have a wonderful time at the Bridge Tavia. Your mum loves you and misses you so much, so be her guardian angel from where you are


________________________________________
 

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My heart goes out to you.


Rest in peace beloved Tavia.
 

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Oh no
Soooo sorry to hear about Tavia...may your precious girl rest in peace

Our thoughts are with you during this very rough time
 

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Condolences on losing your precious girl, Tavia. I agree that it could easily have been a stroke that caused the fall - even in humans, it happens so suddenly, despite all sorts of tests. Please take comfort in knowing that she crossed from this realm to the next with your love lighting the pathway over RB. Play happily over Rainbow Bridge, Sweet Tavia
 

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I am so sorry


There is so much self-blame when we lose a pet, and it is really hard to let that go. Take your time and cry as much as you need to
try not to blame yourself- it was not your fault. You were there for her at her time of passing, and gave her great comfort I am sure

May her sweet soul play happily over the bridge


RIP Tavia
sweet baby girl
 

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Oh no! I am so sorry! What a horrible shock for you.


RIP sweet Tavia
 
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